2007-07-17 23:11:17 · 21 answers · asked by ? 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Your mother gave you the gift of life. Celebrate your life and hers on your birthday.
2007-07-19 16:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question.... Would my Mom like to see me so sad that I can't be happy on the day of my birth? I'm sure she would be so sad seeing you this way.
Instead of thinking of it as your birthday think of it as a happy day to remember your Mom and all the happy times you had with her.
If this coming birthday is the first one you've had since your Mom died then it's understandable you are feeling so sad.
If you are close to her grave you could visit it and leave some lovely handpicked flowers and say a hello prayer. Then go and celebrate your birthday in a way your Mom would have done for you when she was living.
2007-07-18 02:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by i love my garden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
if you still feel sad, then you probably won't feel like celebrating anyway. There's no need to force a smile, mourn in your own way.
However, think about your Mum (as you obviously are doing as the day comes round) and ask yourself what SHE would want. I suspect you'll find she would want you to celebrate your life and not too feel miserable every year on your birthday.
My wife lost a four month old baby, through 'cot/crib death' 30 years ago...each year, as his birthday comes round she remembers and is quiet and withdrawn, but she now accepts what happened and does not let it spoil her enjoyment of celebrations. (This was not my child, but that of her first husband, now also dead)
You will not be 'betraying' your mother's memory by enjoying a birthday celebration, but will be celebrating the happy day when your mother gave birth to you, when she was so happy herself.
Whatever your religious beliefs she is not suffering, if there is something after this life she is already enjoying it, and I believe it would sadden her to see you miserable because of the occasion.
When you feel ready, accept any offers you get to celebrate and begin, once again, to enjoy your life.
Happy birthday anyway,
take care,
BobSpain
2007-07-17 23:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by BobSpain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't feel bad to celebrate your birthday. It just happens to be on a day that is also a sad one for you. Maybe you can take part of the day to remember how wonderful your mom was and then celebrate your birthday and her life as you remember the good times with her. I'm sure she would want you to be happy and celebrate your birthday as it was probably one of the best days in her life. Remember she carried you for about 9 months so your birthday was probably a great day of joy (and relief... lol) for her. So please enjoy your day because if she was still here with you she would be celebrating and enjoying it too!
ps, I almost forgot...Happy Birthday!!!!
2007-07-17 23:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. do you think for one moment your mom would want you to be down because of her passing? if she is like most moms she would rather have you celebrate her life than bemoan her passing. i have been dealing with death since 1949 when my favorite uncle died. this is a part of the life cycle we don't like but it is there. celebrate you birthday and have some fun doing that and send your mom a happy thought.
2007-07-17 23:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by 1oldone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a real bummer
on the other hand your birthday is now your mother's birthday in eternity and one day you will celebrate together. I'm sure she would not want you to sit around and mope all day - take some time for yourself to remember her and have a happy birthday
2007-07-17 23:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ima Stressed Out 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a mother, I'll tell you exactly what I would tell my own daughter: Happy Birthday, Baby...smile when you think of me, celebrate your life and mine...and know my arms are tight around you right now and always!!
2007-07-18 01:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by joesgrl90 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss, but I think she would want you to celebrate your birthday. Do something in remembrance of her on that day in addition to celebrating your birthday.
2007-07-17 23:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to celebrate. Who said they could put on some stupid mask and pretend to be happy when their mom has died? Go to your room and do what you need to do to deal with it. You can always have your personal celebration later. A happy birthday wish from me, and my heartfelt sympathy goes out to you. xoxoxoxo
2007-07-17 23:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by whatevbookwrm687 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you have reason to, did your mother go to heaven or hell?
My husband's grandfather passed away, and that was the most rejoicing bunch of people I have ever seen at a funeral, ever..
He went to God, singing hymns in his coma, the grandmother was there singing with him, and his mom was there with her phone, so I know this to be true.....She asked if he could see Jesus, and he squeezed his hand, and when he was asked if he was ready, he started singing hymns....
The funeral was more like a remembrance and passing down of knowlege to the grandchildren, my husband took my son up there and took the rose, and said a prayer, it was so neat to watch, not like it is bad for people to die, but what they pass on to the next generation, I so am glad my son got the blessing from my husband's great family.......
I was so touched by that funeral that I don't think of dying as bad anymore, I think of if as going from this earth, to heaven....
2007-07-17 23:20:14 · answer #10 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋