we have been together for 6 years,and still going strong.but when he gets frustrated or does not understand something he gets annoyed,angry and lashes out.he does not get angry with me just other things but i seem to be in the way.i have had some very attractive bruises on my arms and face.
a week ago he got annoyed cause this stupid barman would not serve him.and so a blackish grey area on my arm is abit sore but itches aswell but it does hurt when i scratch it.
nah i dont have plans on leaving him.i think a good dose of anger management will help.the trouble is how to convince him.
it does not really hurt that much,only when i touch them without thinking.we get on great either way.
2007-07-17 23:03:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
too be honest sometimes i feel like laying into him but i would be no better then him,but he has 'problems' so has an excuse for the way he acts.i wont have.
2007-07-17 23:04:28 · update #1
Absolutely he should!!
Good luck to both of you
xx
2007-07-17 23:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by Blush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok- let me tell you pet i lived with my hubby for 21 years in exactly this kind of way- and i loved him so very much and the rest of the time was good and we had three beautiful kids. But as the years progressed so did his frustration and anger levels. He continued to do it because i let him get away with- until in the last year of our marriage he tried to kill me. Two women a week die at the hands of a violent partner. And guess what- they NEVER change. Mine had so called 'anger management' where he learnt his anger was because of low self esteem and an inability to express himself any other way. They taught him confidence and assertiveness- and do you know this made him a whole lot worse- now he was violent with assertiveness because he thought he had the right to be like that. Pathetic- anger management was useless. By all means give it a try, but you have no self esteem or self respect if you allow a guy to treat you like this. Stay and put up with it if you must but for goodness sake don't bring kids into it. Its not fair. I have a wonderful man now- its great to wake up everyday without that knotted up feeling of what is today going to bring, will he lose it today, will end up with a bruise today or feeling sick or embarrassed because he was bad tempered out. Trust me sweetheart getting out was the best thing i could have done.
2007-07-17 23:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop making excuses for your man he needs more than help some time in jail sounds good to me.I've been through that crap before and staying with him isn't going to help the matter your boyfriend isn't just angry he's an abuser.Yeah sure he can go into anger management but him being angry isn't the only problem here he may have a pattern of this kind of behavior with other women you might want to look into that.One day someone is going to notice those bruises and they are going to take matters into their own hands you can suggest that he go to anger management but i would be careful because 9 out of 10xs he's going to explode and you will be his target.So good luck and I hope you make the right choice and leave him alone,then ask yourself is that the kind of love,and the kind of relationship you want to be in.
2007-07-17 23:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by hottiemilf1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's hurting you ... it sounds like he is.
Sweetheart, don't make excuses for him. If he can't control himself, if he hurts you, you are better off without him.
Nobody deserves to be treated like this. You deserve better.
It may be that he isn't convinced he needs anger management because you are there and he can take out his feelings on you. If you left him, he would have to deal with it another way, and may see the sense in what you're saying about the anger management course, and be swayed.
2007-07-17 23:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop right there. he does not have an excuse for the way he acts at all. nothing gives him the right to lay a finger on you because he gets angry and frustrated at other things. your not his personal punchbag. you need some self esteem girl. you need to see that the way he's treating you isnt right by a long shot. yes he needs anger management, but he needs to admit he has a problem first, i cant believe you think its ok for him to touch you because he has problems!!!!! you must be as mad as he is. no one has the right to abuse you and you can dress it up as you like, what he's doing is abuse. get out now before it escalates and you end up in hospital or dead. it always starts off small and so many women are killed through domestic violence and you need to wake up and realise your a victim of domestic violence. wake up! wake up! wake up! if he actually loved you the thought of hurting you either physically or mentally would make him sick, but instead he takes out his "problems" on you. wake up silly girl and get out.
2007-07-17 23:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you aff the planet?? Leave this guy right away. You will soon be on the news as "wifie beaten to death by enraged husband". Bet you can do far better than this psycho!!
2007-07-18 02:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by Angela M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but i think you need to look at why you are stupid enough to stay with soemone who just wants a punchbag to take things out ion when he gets made. Bsically he is just a nasty piece of work and you are a pratt to put up with it. I just hope to god you haven't been stupid enpough to breed with this moron.
2007-07-17 23:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by D B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs help and i think you should realise that no matter how angry he gets with someone else it shouldnt be a case of you saying 'i got in the way' wither way he is injuring you whether it hurts much or not its wrong!
2007-07-17 23:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie Bradshaw wannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be asking us, this is your chose and you should make it, anyway think about it, if he dose go he will change he won't be himself do u want to change that.
But it is up to you!
Hope you make the right chose!
2007-07-17 23:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
anger management no question but does he hurt badly if he does u gonna have to leave him
2007-07-17 23:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by STARBO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋