Please help me. i am hysterical, i cant sleep, and want to crawl into a whole and die.?

Question

please give me some wise words to help me sleep. i cant say what happened, but i very wel may lose somebody i love, who is like a father to me. i cant stop crying, and i cant breath. i am hyperventalating, and i am 14. somebody help me get to sleep, or help me somehow with kiind words. i really hope what happened isnt really what happened. i want to throw up, or die. it is awful. PLEASE if you are kind at all help me

he is not dying, but i could lose him. this would tear apart the family, and i love him.

Answer 1

hey. Okay so I'm fourteen also, and one of my loved ones just passed away so I know exactly what you're going through. what I want you to do is take four deep breaths, and close your eyes.

Then I want you to open your eyes and go talk to someone about it. If you have no one to talk to, feel free to email me at

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okay?

Answer 2

Hi hon... i'm sorry you're having such a rough time.

if you just found out your loved one is ill, this is probably the reason you were having problems sleeping and feeling so "ill".

one of the best things you can do a few times a day is try to relax... sit down close your eyes, and concentrate on your breathing, while thinking of something nice.... this can be an exercise to help you calm for several minutes at the time.

it might take you several days to overcome the shock of your situation. the best thing you can do is to be supportive of the person who is ill... if you can go see them, and even do a little something for them (help them with lunch, make sure they are comfortable, take them something little like a flower or two). if they can talk on the phone, give them a call....

during our lives, people will become ill, or even die.... and when we cry and become upset, it is mainly because we are grieving for ourselves, believe it or not. there is nothing wrong with this!

i think that this person you love so much and are in fear of losing would be much more comfortable if they knew you were continuing to try to do the best you can and take care of YOU... we aren't any help to others when we are a mess.

if you have troubles coming to terms with this, perhaps you could ask your parent(s) if you could see a therapist, or even talk to a minister or priest. you could also talk to an adult you trust and respect -- perahps someone you know has good advice. sometimes if we have someone to listen, it helps.

you need some comfort now. the thought of losing someone is frightening, at best. try to remember all of the good things about the person, pray for them.

don't forget to take care of YOU, as well.

sending hugs.

Answer 3

You're having a panic attack. And as soon as you realize that you know what it is, it will start to go away. You'll start to feel better.

Eventually, your body will not be able to keep you up any longer, and you'll sleep as well.

And when you wake from what will hopefully be a long and restful sleep, you should talk to someone you trust about seaking counseling.

Not because you're crazy or weak or incompitent. But because you're going through something that is really heartbreaking, and like any normal person, you might need some help.

Go to a doctor and see if they can recommend a good therapist for you, and perhaps an anti-anxiety medication in emergancies if you have more panic attacks.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

ok, first of all take a deep breath. and another. keep breathing slowly and deeply in through your nose, out through your mouth. keep this up for a few minutes until your breathing settles. even better, place a paper bag over your mouth and nose and breathe in and out of that for a few minutes.
things are never as bad as they seem at first - you are just in shock and it feels awful - but - wait until you know all the details of the situation before reacting.
is there anyone around you can go see? perhaps you don't want to be on your own. don't worry about sleeping immediately - it seems unlikely you will and it'll make you restless. get up and make yourself some chamomile tea - call someone - if it's urgent it doesn't matter what time it is.
most importantly try not to panic - it won't be as bad as you think. call a friend or relative who cares and who loves you.
take care and i hope all goes well.

Answer 5

If it is tearing you up that bad then there is no words to get you to sleep just know that there is people out there that loves you and tomorrow is a new day whatever happened and anything that bad happens always seems to work its way out. not sure how bad it is but know tonight there is nothing you can do the change or fix it so why dwell on something you cant fix right now ., >=oP drink a glass of milk or take ya 2 shots of nyquil <-- not recommended but will put you to sleep fight this battle your having after you rest you will think alot clearer goodluck sweet heart

Answer 6

you make it sound BAD - you should talk to someone (NOT online), it may sound lame - but there are all kinds of numbers you can call toll free) and i'm sorry i don't have a chance to look em up right now - hopefully someone will post em. ...and yes... this is gonna sound lame too, but you can seriously talk to your school councilor (also free *ding*) and if you think you'll feel embarrassed, just remember - you'll never have to see them again in 1 or 2 yrs (trust me, it goes by fast) no matter how bad it is - they've seen worse (that's their job)... and not to sound all adult on you here, but... i don't know if i would have talked to one back in the day (cuz, well, prides a b|tch when your a teenager) but i sure as hell would now. and if it helps you talk to somebody (who'll probably care more about you than anyone you 'ask' online) IT WILL GET YOU OUT OF CLASS!!! and... shouldn't that alone be reason enough? :) good luck

Answer 7

Whatever it is, crying and being hysterical will not change the outcome. You need to just calm down and get some rest and know that whatever is going to happen is inevitable, so let it happen, and when it does, be strong and deal with it. Life is a lot easier if you control your emotions instead of letting them control you. Good luck!

Answer 8

I don't know what happened, but if somebody did something to you I hope you tell someone. If that's not the case, whatever is happening in your life right now, time heals all wounds.

Take deap breaths and hold and slow down your breathing. Go to your happy place.

Sweat dreams

Answer 9

You need to talk to someone.
There is a 24 hour crises hot line set up for situations like yours.
SEE BELOW
also: Crisis line is: 415-781-0500. This is the oldest in the country

Answer 10

Sometimes we lose the ones we love the most, they say time heals all wounds, which I believe it does... Sure it hurts, but we have the best gift of all, and that is love... look at it this way. It's a new beginning, however deep inside your heart there is a special place for ever one, and for who ever it is your losing, that is where they will remain, you cannot kill love, nor forget it, but you can always look deep inside and always remember them.