Does children needs boundaries?, do we need boundaries?

Question

... and tell me why? Do you need boundaries and please tell me why.

I work for a firm of Attorneys, I can do what I what, come when I want I leave when I want. There is no boundaries and I feel lost, I cannot take it any longer. Did you know that a child needs boundaries and even sometimes wants a hiding, if no boundries such a child will challege you (the parent, the teacher and all figures in authority). All people wants to be acknowledged and notices, if not they will slack down in the work, for the BOSS do not notice them. Please help, I am going of my head for this is too much. I don't even feel like doing my work any longer, for I don't get notices. The bosses does not praise you, they don't repremand you, It is almost as if you are invisable, althoug you know that you are good in your work. I have lost interest!
Please help me guys as I am crying as I write this desparate question
Suz

Sorry I should not have said "I am going of my head" so wrong. Please Lord forgive me.

Answer 1

You do have boundries. You have the boundries of Torah (the entirety of scripture). This is what the scripture says about you establishing your own boundries.

Eph 6:5-8 Slaves, be obedient to those who are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in the sincerity of your heart, as to Christ; not by way of eyeservice, as men-pleasers, but as slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart. With good will render service, as to the Lord, and not to men, knowing that whatever * good thing each one does, this he will receive back from the Lord, whether slave or free.

Col 3:22-24 Slaves, in all things obey those who are your masters on earth, not with external service, as those who merely please men, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever * you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than * for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve.

I know that it is talking of a slave/master relationship but the principle is the same. You must determine in your heart to work for your employer as if he was Yahshua and he was looking over your shoulder the entire time.

Besides in a way the employer/employee relationship is a slave/master relationship.

Answer 2

I agree with Trinity.

Firstly,, you sound like someone that is just looking for attention,, you feel sorry for yourself and want others to feel sorry for you as well. This is not the correct attitude towards your work and to life,, and once you realise this then you wll also realise that "why do you want recocnition for what you do", if you are happy with yourself and what you do and how you do it, then why look for praise from someone else,, you should not do things to please others, only yourself. Learn to know yourself, and love and respect yourself then all these other stupid things you concern yourself with,, will no longer hold sway.

Secondly,, everyone needs boundaries,, but there are good boundaries and bad ones. If you know yourself then you will know what your boudaries are and which boundaries you can cross or dont need,, that is what makes you an intellect.

Children do need boundaries,, I always thought that one day if I have a child, she will have no boundaries,, but with age I relized that, that will not be a good "example" if I can say, for lack of the correct word. I do not agree that children need to be punished physically (giving them a hiding) this shows poor character (personality) in the person. If you respect yourself,, others will also respect you,, including your children,, and your boss and other people.

All I can say is ""GROW UP (mentally)""!!!

Always remember,, there are people that have it worse than you. You are still breathing. So stop complaining. Start everyday by saying "thank you" to something, even if it is saying thank yu for the sun,, the plants cleaning our air, the rain, anything.

Blessed be.
DRAGON

Answer 3

Yes..Boundaries are needed not only by children, but by adults alike. Children crave structure. That way they know what to expect....They know that there are consequences for their actions.
As adults, we also need boundaries, but more along the lines in our personal and emotional beings.In a work setting, I am not sure how I would handle that.
One thing that I can share with you.... be careful what you wish for, you just might get more then you bargained for!

If you are doing a good job and have job security, you should feel blessed. Count your blessings my friend! For you are trusted, and I have no doubt to be capable, or you wouldnt have gotten the job to start off with. Your work is obviously up to par, for if it wasnt, somebody would notice for sure!

You may want to try to make a gratutude list.....at least 5 things you have to be greatful for. You have a choice to be needy by constantly wanting validation by others, or you can choose to count it as a blessing.

Wish I could help more.

I hope you find the solution!
Blessings!
)o(
Trinity

Answer 4

We are bound to breath, eat, drink and move to live as well.
If flooded water would not be enclosed in fixed boundaries, how it will be a useful dam.
if you free air in your car tyres, how would you drive?
If you will not put a weight over a pressure cooker how will you cook well?
If you let your kids to play with sharp edge blade, do you think you love your kids?
If you don't have boundaries, why do you put your money into your pockets or in a Violet?
Why you dress up?
Why you walk on a certain direction? even why over earth, why not fly?


We have number of boundaries and we must have boundaries.
If children don't need boundaries, then a mother should give birth to a child and throw him/her any where, like Western mothers are doing with love children.

Answer 5

the place did she hit her? Did she swat the female on the backside, or did she slap the female in the face? in my opinion i does not enable absolutely everyone different than myself and my husband to spank our babies. yet there's a distinction in hitting and spanking. So which became it? If she swatted your daughter on the backside then you definitely would desire to easily in simple terms clarify which you do not choose her to apply actual punishment with your baby. Be arranged in the adventure that your baby did this in my abode i might have by no ability spanked her yet i might inform you that if it ever happened returned it may well be the final time I ever watch your baby. If she hit your baby in the face or someplace different than the backside then i might right now cease making use of her as a babysitter. that's not perfect and would by no ability be performed. *there isn't something incorrect with spanking a 2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous. there isn't something incorrect with spanking a 2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous difficult adequate for the baby to cry.* In my abode hitting and throwing toys gets a spanking, yet whilst my baby does it at somebody else's abode i don't assume that individual to spank my baby. individuals would desire to apply time outs and leave any spanking that must be performed to the mum and dad.

Answer 6

(Proverbs 22:15) Foolishness is tied up with the heart of a boy; the rod of discipline is what will remove it far from him.

(Proverbs 13:24) The one holding back his rod is hating his son, but the one loving him is he that does look for him with discipline.

Answer 7

I think I understand youuu....
Well, I know how you feel see, My dad doesn't praise me for doing the right. And i feeled ignored and not appericated.

Answer 8

You are not a child. Set boundaries for YOURSELF.

Answer 9

i understand you
you mast learn to make boundaries to your self

Answer 10

go find other work. it looks from your profile that you are capable of it so just do it..........it seems like now is the time.