A girl has taken my interests, music interests, hobbies, personality...she's just like me...except I think my boyfriend likes her better, they get along better it seems, and she's not boring. From when I met her, we seemed the same. This has made me depressed for nearly a year now. My boyfriend seems like he has so much more fun with her. It hurts to watch.
I don't know what to do.
2007-07-17 19:52:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Oh..I should probably add in that they've known each other longer, he calls her his best friend..when he was asked if he likes her, and...Oh gosh. I guess I'm just so scared of it turning into one of those movie-like relationships where he wants to be with the other girl and I'm the bad one. >_<
2007-07-17 20:10:49 · update #1
If she really "took" your personality and adopted your mannerisms to be more like you, and now your boyfriend finds her more attractive and interesting than you, it's time to get another boyfriend.
He'll get his just rewards when he realizes that she's a phony. But you are wasting your time continuing with a guy who falls for such a shallow act.
Move on. There are plenty of guys who will appreciate you and at least one will fall in love with you and think you are wonderful.
This guy is a loser and deserves to be with the phony and not you.
Stop feeling hurt and depressed. Realize it's over and move on to the life you deserve.
2007-07-17 20:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, relax because no one can steal your personality. We are all different and we have special things about us that make you different than her. She can try and act like you but deep down she is still the other girl. Why don't you talk to your boyfriend? Communicating is the best thing you can do. Show him that you care and are concerned. Don't go overboard. You don't know what he is thinking. Is it a test to see if you care or is he playing a game? Maybe he does not realize it at all. There is only one way to find out. Good luck.
2007-07-18 03:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by ENCHANTRESS ROSE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, it's terrible when things like that happen. Some may say that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, but it never feels like a compliment when someone else is living your life...
You should have a serious discussion with your boyfriend. "She's trying to be me, and you like her better!" - that is the wrong approach, and you'd sound hysterical. But, there may be an angle you can take, "I'm not really comfortable with the time you spend with her." Or something. If you can ask without it sounding like an ultimatum, maybe ask if he would rather be with her...
2007-07-18 03:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by Petey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said this girl has "made me depressed for nearly a year now".
Hon, the truth is, you have made YOURSELF depressed by remaining in a situation in which you feel unhappy and insecure.
Perhaps think about taking care of YOU. Do you really need a boyfriend who seems to like his "best friend" better than you? Do you want to continue to torture yourself?
it would be a wonderful thing if you would gather your dignity and take it upon yourself to surround yourself with people who care for you and who respect you.
that's my best answer
2007-07-18 10:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he likes her more, apparently you are no the same. Move on to someone that can appreciate you.
2007-07-18 02:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stunt yo stuff :)
2007-07-18 02:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by Hasan 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋