My grandmother is flying from Colorado to Pennsylvania for my wedding next spring. I am not really up on wedding 'etiquette'. She's the only one flying from far away. Should she be paying for her airfare, or should I? She is insisting to me that she will pay and not to worry about it, but I feel a little guilty. Should I pay for it all, try to compromise with her(like me paying for half), or let her pay?
2007-07-17 19:42:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
it's nice to offer, but it is not really your responsibility. only if you were having a destination wedding should you pay for travel expense.
2007-07-17 19:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are very, very sweet to offer this to your Grandma.
14 people attended our wedding in Las Vegas, and we didn´t pay for them to attend. We had guests come from all over the US. The best man even flew in from Germany just for the occasion! I did have others that didn´t attend because of the expense, but we didn´t feel that we had to fly them there-that would have cost a fortune.
Don´t feel guilty-it sounds like your Grandma wants to pay, and we didn´t pay for people.
Personally, I feel that if someone really wants to be at a wedding, they will find a way to finance the trip. For those that cannot attend, they were able to view our wedding via the internet.
2007-07-17 23:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh. I hope it's not the couple's responsibility to get out-of-town guests to the wedding! We're in Chicago and inviting four from Australia, two from Germany, one from Ireland, four from San Francisco and five from Atlanta. They are all paying their own way here. I look at it like this: I'm not paying for taxi cabs or gas for local guests to get to the wedding, so distant guests cover their own transportation, too. None of our out-of-town guests seem to even consider that we might pay for them to come. I think getting to the wedding is the guest's responsibility. Now, if your grandmother couldn't afford to pay her airfare, then by all means help her, but if she insists she can manage it, then no need to feel guilty.
2007-07-18 01:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your conscience is bothering you, then you should pay for at least part of the airfare no matter what the proper wedding etiquette is.
The wedding sites that I've gone to so far say that the bride/bride's family should pay for the accomodations for the out-of-town guests.
2007-07-17 20:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by ♥☺ bratiskim∞! ☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's understood that guests from out of town will arrange and pay for their own trip. My husband and I just got married in december, and he's originally from a different state than I am, so at least 75% of his invited guests (including his whole family) was from out of state. If we'd paid for all of their airfare, we wouldn't have been able to afford a wedding!
2007-07-18 01:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i does not enable her extremely, only via fact she's being a manipulative twit and has a historic previous of being unreliable. yet individually, definite, I even have enable my sister or my mom take my young little ones from our living house in Arizona to their properties in Massachusetts or Vermont or New Hampshire. This 3 hundred and sixty 5 days, my Aunt needs to take my older 2 together with her to Texas for a week, and that i'm extraordinarily particular we are going to enable them to go. in spite of everything, they are going to be out of school and would have a physically powerful time.
2016-10-21 21:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by manjeet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT your burden to bear !!
Even though you may think that you have some responsibility here -- you don't !! Now, if your parents wanted to step in and help somewhat -- that would be THEIR call -- but -- the wedding is YOUR time and to load yourself with any more responsibilities than you already have ahead of you -- is to take entirely too much on !!!
2007-07-17 19:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since she has already said that she would pay for it, listen to her, but make sure to get her a nice flower to wear and tae special pictures with her aswell. She will get a kick out of all the special attention.
2007-07-18 15:20:08 · answer #8 · answered by rxing 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She pays for her airfare but you might offer to pay for her hotel if you feel the need to.
2007-07-18 01:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most grandmothers have reached an age at which they would be too proud to accept what they would see as charity, (unless you are a millionaire). You might hurt her feelings if you pressed her too hard on this matter.
In any case, if anyone was going to offer to help her financially, it should be your parents, not you.
2007-07-17 20:14:42 · answer #10 · answered by doshiealan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋