what do i say to my bf?

Question

so now i know i should share my faith cuz im a christian with my bf. but how do i do it? i've told him about God and that he is amazing and i wont marry a non-christian. i also told him that if this relationship keeps going and he doesn't accept Christ then i have to break it off because if im not gonna marry a non saved guy whats the point of dating one? anyways i tried to get that point across to him but i love him SO much i cant just dump him! and i know God brought him into my life for a reason so i feel as if its my responsibility to bring him to Christ. He's my brother's best friend so i invited him to church and he said it'd be awkward unless my brother invited him, but my brother refuses to invite him! what do i do to tell him about God? every time i bring it up he seems to want to change the subject. any ideas? i need all the help i can get. plz pray for me 2 thanks God Bless you <3

Answer 1

I think you are doing right by sharing your faith and it is up to your bf to accept your invitation. I appreciate your conviction that you would not marry a non-Christian and God has a purpose of bringing your bf into your life. As Bible says "Do Not Be Yoked With Unbelievers" but i feel you are still yoked with him. You say that you love him SO cannot just dump him but if your bf is not willing to accept Christ then you have a choice to either leave Christ or leave him. I am not saying that you should dump him now but do reach out to him and if your brother is not willing to invite him to church then get your church brothers to reach out to him but you have to make a decision to hold on to Christ no matter what.

Answer 2

Just insist that he comes to church with you, and at least gives you the opportunity to show him about your faith. Do you have a youth group, or some fun functions that the youth at your church attend? If you can not get him to come to service right away, maybe he would feel more comfortable at a youth group function.

It is wonderful that you want to bring this guy to the knowledge of God, but don't feel that you are totally responsible for him becoming a Christian. I stayed with a guy for 12 years trying to do the same thing, and never succeeded. I finally ended up leaving him. I do know that there were times when he acts as if he might be beginning to believe, because he does not make a huge deal about not believing anymore.

I know another nonbeliever, that calls me up for prayers. I told him that if he does not believe, why was he asking me for prayers. he responded that if God does exist, I would like to have someone vouching for me. I actually think that he may be starting to believe too.

The point I am making is that just by your actions, you can have an affect on other people. You do not have to say everything, sometimes being an example says it for you.

Good Luck, and God Bless you.

Answer 3

does he have a different religion? if so it is hard to make him and it is not fair to change his religion... we all have the rigth to follow a certain religion and if christianity doesnt satisfy ur bf it is his choice... You can try to talk to him about Christ and read the bible or tell him what Christ said through lil stories... you can try to bring him close to your religion but you cannot make him follow it.... Personally i dont mind if my bf doesnt follow my religion because if we believe in god we try to follow what he said .. most religions are about loving and helping those who need you .. having the label of a christian doesnt mean you are a good person or anything... its your actions that count not what you say you are.... the same way you want your bf to respect you you should respect him and his beliefs too ... if there is love between you then you can overcome anything ... and if you are worried about marriage you can still marry someone who is not a christian... I think you should give him time and let him know your religion slowly so he can choose himself what he really wants to follow...
best of luck to both you.. try both to understand each other and if u love him dont let him go so easily... there r always at least 2 options in every problem... =)

Answer 4

If you feel that strongly about your faith that is great. But you have to understand that some people don't feel that way.He sounds like he is one of them. Your relationship with God is only your relationship. No one else can have that same relationship and trying to get some else to have the same relationship is like asking them to change their identity. Putting pressure on some one who does not want to attend church is not a good thing. It would be the same thing if he was pressuring you to go steal a car. Since you feel so strongly about not wanting to be with some one who does not have the same faith as you, its time to end the relationship and move on. Try meeting some one who attends the same church as you. That way you will both have that back round that is so important to you.

Answer 5

Why did you even start dating them? Because you can't force a religion on somebody... it's not fair, or right. it's unfair to date him knowing that he's not a christian, yet threaten to leave him if he doesn't make himself have the same beliefs as you. Doesn't seem to be a very christian thing to do...

you can't make someone be something they don't want to be. accept them for who they are.

Answer 6

explain to him that its a big part of your life and he has to understand that. if he wants to be with you then he'll have to make that choice. but if you try to bring him to Christ and he doesnt accept, its not your fault. you should be proud of your beliefs and knowing that you tried to help someone else find a happy life.

good luck

Answer 7

If you love someone you shouldn't judge them so harshly for not being religious, i'm sure god wouldn't want that. Love is about accepting someone for who they are, not trying to change them for what you want them to be. How would you feel if he was a buddhist and he was trying to force his beleifs onto you? It was your choice to be with him knowing he is not religious, and being atheist i find it offensive that you're ready to disregard anyone you know just because they don't beleive exactly what you do. Many people (such as myself) find it offensive when people try to force people to beleive.

Answer 8

I'd reevaluate the relationship, your beliefs can't be force on anyone, are you ready to wait for if......... Want to marry, what church, want children -what religion, baptized, family gatherings both yours and his.

Answer 9

First of all let me dare to say that you are a person of blind faith. You are talking very much about the God, but you don't know what is God, what is his form, what is his qualities and ofcourse you don't know what is Karma and Karmic philosophy. In order to understand all these, you have to realize the self, in otherwords you have to understand "who am I".

You are being called with a name right? Say X or Y. But that is the name of your body. That body is made of 5 elements and it can be destroyed at any time. You are watching through your eyes but you are not the eyes. You are hearing through the ears, but you are not the ears, you are experiencing through your sensory organs but are you that one? Then who are you? The true you are the driving force situating in that body. You are situating in that body, and performing actions through your sensory organs with the help of brain as the control room. You are a tiny point of energy sitting in the middle of eyebrows (exactly in the centre of hypothalamus). You are called "atma" - soul or spirit. So you are a soul, which is entirely deferent from this body.

Soul takes support of a body (birth) in order to enact his role in the world drama stage. When it finishes his character role it will leave that old body (death) and will take a new body (re-incarnation) according to his karmic account. Just like the characters change costumes in a drama, the soul is changing its body in order to settle his Karmic Account. Karmic account means the reward of actions he performed in its previous life. And ofcouse all its relations, parents, siblings, spouses, friends and relatives are also determined according to its "karmic bondage" that created in its previous life(s). So, a soul who is taking birth in a fortunate atmosphere is not because of the mercy or gift of God but it is reaping the fruite of its actions of the previous life.

Now we can come to the point of God. Just like our body has a Father, we the souls also have a Father. He is also a tiny point of energy. The difference is our power and qualities are limited whereas His power and qualities are unlimited. Unlike other souls, He is not coming under the Birth - Death cycle. He is every pure. He is the ocean of knowledge, ocean of love, ocean of virtues and more. Since He is the source of supreme energy, He is called the "SUPREME SOUL". Since He is the Father of all souls, He is called "THE SUPREME FATHER". Christians called Him as "jahoa" which means light, Muslims called Him "Al Noor" which also means light, Hindus called Him "Bhagwan" which means bestower of fortune, Sikhs called Him "Sat Shri Akaal" which means the truth beyond time and death.

So how we human souls can divide the supreme father? My dear sister, Buddha, Jesus, Christ, Muhammed, Guru Nanak and all those who become instrument for establishing relegions were just children of that Supreme Father. As per drama it was their ocupation to take birth in that pure form, and to put a break for the fast depleting values in the world. That souls might be one among us after taking birth after birth. Therefore your belief should not be on any bodily being but to that one supreme father, the supreme soul.

Now the last but not the least, you asked me to pray for you. See my lil sis, I explained to you about karmic philosophy. That means "what do you do, you will reap it". So if I will pray, the heart to heart conversation will be between me and the supreme soul only. So only my sins will be absolved. If you want to get the benefit, definitely you have to remember the supreme Father, the supreme soul.

Now your lokik problem. Love him in a " as is what is" condition. You have to bring him to the supreme father. Not to the christ who become an instrument (messenger) to establish a religion. Jesus also was remembering the Father at the time of crucification na? So why you want to remember the son when Father is available at our disposal?

Answer 10

I will pray for your situation to get better. Good luck


P.S.- I think it's great that you know where your morals lie