I was with my bf spendin a night ova his house. We were in the bed and we werent sleep so I started playin wit him. (laying on him, kisses him) he said he was tryin to go to sleep and for me to stop. but he didn't sound to serious. So I kept playing. He started saying that if I didn't stop he was going to piss me off. I still didnt so he started bringin up his ex (which usually pisses me off) but instead I kept playin and talked about her to. He then said this "I will hurt you to make you stop" I stilll kept playin tellin him that nothin he could do would piss me off. So he got up and held me down and stuck his finger deep into collarbone. It hurt really bad so I hit him back a couple times. He got really mad and told me to leave. I said fine and gathered my belongings after telling him how bad that hurt and that he shouldn't have put his hands on me like that. He then told me not 2 call him anymore how can he breakup wit me so easily weve been together 10months
2007-07-17 18:57:39 · 15 answers · asked by ♥Truthfully♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said he loved me. I probaly should have left him alone. but when I was sick he did me the same. and I was playin. Was I wrong or was he? and does he really love me if he can leave me alone for that
2007-07-17 18:59:24 · update #1
You were wrong. Even tho you were just playing, he asked you to stop and you didn't.
He was probably just angry and I'm sure he will call you back.
If he doesn't call you, then it was already over before this happened.
2007-07-17 19:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you may have pushed a little too hard and should have stopped when he asked you too.
However, a man should never hurt a women over such a simple situation. That is the type of guy who ends up beating his wife and children. He should have just asked you to go home sooner or something. Hurting you over such a small matter is just wrong.
You should just dump the guy and find a guy who wont lose his temper and hurt you.
2007-07-18 02:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by Fayt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both have issues and don't belong together. He told you to stop more than once and instead, you just ramped up more and didn't respect his wishes. He shouldn't have hurt you but I'm pretty sure he didn't MEAN to. he was just trying to get you to stop. I don't believe he was trying to physically hurt you or he could've just slapped the sh*t out of you. And he's got issues because you don't just cut someone out of your life over something that silly. You guys don't need to be together if you have silly fights like this and can't communicate in a MATURE way.
2007-07-18 02:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you may not want to hear this, but Dam(* you asked for it.. When he asked you to stop repetitively and you wouldn't you had to be prepared for the consequences I'm sure ? The breaking up with you part is a tad bit extreme, but if he broke up with you over something that silly.. He was just looking for a reason.. Hopefully he will think through what he said and call you, if not 86 him and move on to someone more your type !!
2007-07-18 02:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by gee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of u were wrong. u were wrong for not just leaving him alone...when ppl are tired, they are TIRED. would it have killed u to leave him alone until morning? and how many times is he suppose to ask u to stop? and, if u have been together for ten months then i doubt u didn't know about his temper and abusive behavior...what did u think would happen if u continued to mess with him? he was wrong for putting his hands on u that way, he should have just kicked ur silly @$$ out after u wouldn't stop the first time.
2007-07-18 02:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by geegee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you didnt respect him enough to stop when he asked you to. You were wrong not to stop after he told you more than once. he was wrong to put his hands on you no matter what. 10 months is not a long time to be together. You were both wrong. For your best intrest and his leave him alone like he asked you to and move on.
2007-07-18 02:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by hourglass_beauty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Sara- i also do the same with my bf and he never hit me before. Sorry girl but that guy was a gerk for sure leave him don't call him again and just wish the next girl finds out how he is before it becomes to serious
2007-07-18 14:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by lovesugarkisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when someone tells you to leave them alone you need to leave them alone. He told you he wanted to sleep and you disrespected that. He even went as far as telling you he would hurt you with words and you continued to come on to him until he finally threatened to hurt you; yet you continued to push him. I am not saying he was in the right to put his hands on you, because it was wrong. It seems that you pushed him beyond his limit. I would say honestly you were in the wrong for disrespecting his space. I would say give him his space and let him contact you when he is ready
2007-07-18 02:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by The cuter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the same thing to my boyfriend all the time and although he gets mad he has never physically hurt me. I think it's for the best that you two aren't together. You'll find someone better!
2007-07-18 02:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by sara_and_cj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would wait for him to call you because if he really did love you then he'll call..if not then move on but if he does tell him how much it scared you and hurt you and make him feel really bad about it just tell him how you feel if he does anything like that again leave him because he'll do it over and over again..you did nothing wrong you were just trying to show him some love
2007-07-18 02:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by angelsbahdgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋