My husband's parents invited us out for dinner. We already had plans so we didn't go and told his brother we wouldn't be there. That day as we were having a cookout with neighbors, my sister-in-law had her child who is 6 years old repeatedly call our house and demand to know why we didn't come. He called like five times. My neighbor was helping me in the kitchen and heard the machine. I was so embarrased. I unplugged it. They then drove past our house and just looked at us but didn't stop. She then called my husband's cell phone and said she drove past to see what we were doing that was so important that we could not come. Is it any of her business? I am begginning to feel my privacy being invaded here. Am I wrong? I want my husband to speak to her but he says just ignore her. I want it to stop. She does this everytime we decide to do something on our own that doesn't include them. She needs to get a life. High school was 15 years ago last time I checked.
2007-07-17 17:54:26 · 5 answers · asked by um-kay 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your HUSBAND needs to talk to her and let her know that you BOTH had already made plans for that day before you were invited to dinner, and he needs to tell her that HE feels it was rude of her to have her child call repeatedly, and that driving by was just childish, and that he does love his family and get togethers with them but he has a family of his own too and that you guys have a life also, and if they really care about him then they will just need to understand, Oh ya, they will probably be upset for a minute ,but they will get over it, But the husband MUST address it not the wife ( In-Law ) they forgive blood family but they can hold a grudge toward the in-law forever. ( Been there, Bite Your Lip, and let your husband know for the good of your relationship he needs to step up to the plate on this one )
2007-07-17 18:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by Bingo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you just tell your mother-in-law that you already had plans for that day, and maybe next time you could all get together. Also, your husband should speak up in a kind way to his mother and let her know that it's unfair to put you on the spot and make you feel bad.
2007-07-21 15:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by sugarbee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a complete pyscho!LOL. Since your hubby thinks ignoring her is best, I would go with that for now. Its likely that she will cross the line at some point in the future, and be TOTALLY annoying to the point that he wont be able to ignore it anymore. I feel your pain though. good-luck.
2007-07-17 20:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to be very honest, and very blunt about how you feel. Your brother needs to discuss this with his brother also. Don't let him tell you to let it go. Men don't like confrontation. It's his family though, and he needs to address it.
2007-07-17 18:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Nina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if I were you I would talk to her myself. Just be real with them and let them know that you need quality time without them as well.
2007-07-17 17:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋