He moved in with a girl about 4 months ago. I told him now 2 times he can have his mail moved to his new address and he says he knows. I call him to tell him he has mail and he comes to get it, but he does not have it forewarded. Today I got a box from the UPS man for him.
What do you think my son is up to?
2007-07-17 17:40:42 · 16 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I admit, he and I are very close. We have an increadible bond since he was 12 yrs old and his dad tried to kidnap him. He rode a bicycle miles and miles in the hot summer to get back home. Hid in corn fields and ran away from his dad. He can stash anything he wants at home. I just figured he would have wanted his own mail.
2007-07-17 17:51:22 · update #1
if the living with a girl doesn't last..then he can come back home and not worry about not getting his mail...at home..
2007-07-17 19:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by MOnKEY408 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son has only been out of the house for 4 months and it isn't a full committed relationship ( Like Marriage ) some times it's best not to move your mail from a permanent address. It sounds like getting his mail might not be what your really worried about, if you didn't already suspect he might be doing something you wouldn't approve of then the UPS package wouldn't be any bigger deal then the daily mail. If you feel he is doing something illegal or something that might get you into trouble because stuff is coming to your address then just tell your son he has a certain amount of time to put in a change of address card with the postal service or you will start returning his mail, writing " No Longer At This Address " " No Forwarding Address "across the front of it and sending it back, and you don't have to accept packages, just tell the carrier he doesn't live here and that you are not going to sign for it and they will return it to sender. But be true to your self for the reason you don't want his mail coming to your house, At least you get to see him most parents of 21 year old don't see their kids much, Think before you act.
2007-07-18 00:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Bingo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter moved out and far away :( It took her about 6 months to finally change her address on her important mail. A child just moving out are having too much fun being free to realize it only takes two seconds to change an address.
Another thing that comes to mind is that, maybe your son is not sure about his moving out and has not changed his address yet. This can possibly give him the secure feeling that his parents house is still "home".
2007-07-18 00:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by LyndasCa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe coming to get his mail is a good excuse to come see you? Maybe he's still seeing if the relationship with his girlfriend is going to work out? Maybe the mail drop at her place isn't as secure? Are you in some rush to see him "officially" out of the house?
I guess if it irks you that much, then get a change of address form at the post office. Fill it out for him. And then give him the option of signing it or having his mail "Returned to Sender".
Thanks, Mom.
2007-07-18 00:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get something of his, don't open it - just simply write "forward to:_____(insert new address)" in really big letters and put it back in the mailbox. The post office mailman will take care of the rest. It requires no postage - they will simply make sure it gets to the right place. Another idea would be to go online and fill out a change of address form but tell him AHEAD OF TIME you plan on doing that. Go to www.usps.gov and you can do it right on their website. I've moved twice and it was a godsend doing it that way.
2007-07-18 02:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not some huge master plan but he doesn't want her knowing all of his business. What is the big deal? It's not costing you anything to accept his mail. Why don't you just look at it as a way that you get to have a quick visit with him.
Maybe he even misses you, and wants and excuse to come by. Seems to me in the grand scope of things this is just not a huge deal.
2007-07-18 00:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with your son, he's just another lazy 21 yr old, and hasn't taken the time to go down to the post office and fill out the paperwork.
This link allows you to fill out a change of address form online. Next time he comes to pick up his mail, don't give it to him until he sits down at the computer and fills this out!!!
2007-07-18 00:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounded like a bitter mom until the "what do you think my son is up to?" part.
the question is, 'what do YOU think your son is up to?'
your son is probably just as lazy as i was at that age and doesn't want to go through the process of getting his mail switched around. the only issue is that if he moved out that long ago, then when he ordered whatever came as UPS he must have put your address, not his new one. I understand all the old mail going there, but why would he order something new and have it sent to you.
i think they refer to this as 'stash the rest of my 'yams' at my aunty's house'
2007-07-18 00:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U have been just his Dummy for the past 4 months.
better get it out as soon as u can.
Atleast u give a change of address if ur son doesn't. n keep going.
Stop delivering and accepting letters dat come for ur son.
then he'll do it himself and this won't trouble u.
All da Best.
2007-07-18 00:46:41 · answer #9 · answered by Encyclopedia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, probably simple laziness ^_~
after I got married to my husband, we lived with my parents awhile, then moved out after 1 year, it took him forever to change his address with the mail....... mostly he was being lazy and just didnt care, i had the same issue lol
my parents had a po box though, and i lost a bit of mail coming to my place, so my mother encouraged me to use her po box so the mail would be safe, and i can just get it when i see her, she doesnt mind my husband using their po box, but now he wants to get his own mail, and not have my mother deliver it
but even with all that, and him wanting the mail to go to his own place, still too lazy to do it, so the mail just keeps going to our parents....... and probably will until he gets so bored one day, and for some odd reason thinks the post office sounds exciting enough to go to o.O;
2007-07-18 03:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by kawaiimiyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see
1. He (or she) doesn't want the mailman to know he is living with the girl.
2. He doesn't want the girl to see his mail.
3. He doesn't want to give up his grip on home and possibly moving back in.
4. He doesn't want to grow up.
2007-07-18 00:44:34 · answer #11 · answered by Mike1942f 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋