Our grandma's staying with us. She's been "spoiling" us (me and my siblings; her grandkids), taking over our chores, and whatnot. We argue with her that we can do it ourselves, but we never win an arguement when it comes to her! And now, of all the nerve! She's complaining to our aunts and our parents of being treated like a slave! Wtf do we do about her?!
2007-07-17 17:29:32 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
wow, that is rude. i say just do your chores when you are suppose to. don't make it a big deal. when the trash is almost full, take it out before she has a chance to. always offer to help.
2007-07-17 17:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, this thread is the biggest argument for continued Social Security payments that I have ever seen. So often, Grandparents are forced to live with relatives because of financial difficulties. Then it is miserable for everyone.
Your Grandma is taking over your chores because she doesn't want to be a burden. She can still move around, still do chores, and if things were different, she would still have independence, still be living in her own place, conducting her own life.
It is very hard to live in someone's back bedroom and lose your own independence. Make allowances for her and make plans for your own old age, because eventually, it happens, unless you pass away. Save some money, make some investments, and write your Congressman supporting non-privatized Social Security, so you will always have something to fall back on.
2007-07-24 15:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by Me, Too 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should remind her and your family members that she offered to do the chores so she is actually working like a slave not being treated like one and you should let your parents know whats going on becuz she could have allheimers or something and she may be doing your chores and then putting it into her mind that you made her do that!
2007-07-25 20:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by Beyonces Boyfriend= me!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandma is the same way. She is always at the house and cleans constantly.
From what I realized, older women like to clean, or some do anyway.. they feel like they are being 'useful', when in reality, they don't feel of any use at all. I think they also like to get attention from other people as well, this is why they complain about it.
Just let her do your chores, if she insists.. if it really bugs you about her complaining, talk to her about it. Tell her you love her and you want to help her as much as she is helping you.
2007-07-18 00:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Deeda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Around a current age, elderly people don't want to feel like they're worn out or some of them just don't like being bored and pampered all the time. That could be why she feels she has to take care of everything.
Her saying that you guys are making her into a slave is really shocking and I don't know what to say about that.
The only thing I can think of is trying to do everything before she gets to it. Make sure everything is neat and in order so she won't have to feel the need to take care of it.
2007-07-25 17:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by Kendra P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one, you can't really argue with elderly people. You really do have to ignore them and not take everything to heart. Hopefully your parents can see what is going on here. Sometimes I think elderly people actually convince theirselves things are one way when their not but you can never get them to admit they are wrong cause they are so set in their ways. Just be nice to them, love them, their days are numbered. Remember you will be her age one of these days. She might be making your life a little miserable now but more than likely you will miss her something terrible when she is no longer with you. As long as you know in your heart what the truth is don't worry about what she says unless someone is giving you grief over it. Try to make some good memories while you can. Tomorrow is promised to no one.
2007-07-18 00:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sidney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some specific tasks to do (not your chores). Say "Grandma could you sweep the floor each night, or do laundry, or cook dinner every night. Make it sound like she would be such a help with these tasks.
Sometimes older people need to be needed and responsible for something to feel good.
Ignore her complaining, she's not about to change at her age.
2007-07-18 00:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just love your Grandma, even though she is frustrating. Grandparents love to help their grandchildren, but then they do like to complain a lot. Next time she offers to do your chores, just say you had heard that she was being treated like a slave and you would never want that to happen to her, so could she please sit back and relax.
2007-07-18 00:34:45 · answer #8 · answered by HealthAngel 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try getting the chores done before your grandma - if that is possible!
Hopefully, your parents know what is going on so that you and your siblings do not get into trouble.
2007-07-18 00:36:08 · answer #9 · answered by LyndasCa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your aunts and uncles that she likes doing chores because if she didn 't she could stop at any time because we ask her not to, and she still does chores.
my Grandma used to do the same thing when she was alive and she had alzheimers. we let her clean up then we'd clean it up better so it was spotless. then we would ask her to do little stuff through out the day to keep her from cleaning. and when she would clean anyway we would praise her for it.
2007-07-18 00:40:52 · answer #10 · answered by asdfghjklpoiuytrewq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people become "people pleasers". They want to help and be appreciated but when there are willing ears to listen they play up the victim role.
My mom is 85...she does basically the same thing. the best thing to ignore what she tells your family, do something nice for her....surprise her with a gift or flowers for helping you with your chores....and give her alot of attention....not for lying, but just love her alot. show her how much you appreciate her. She wont be with you forever.
...and maybe do your chores before she even gets a chance.
2007-07-18 00:38:42 · answer #11 · answered by jackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋