if trust is broke in a relationship, it it ruined? Or can it be worked back up?

Question

the relationship is 1 and 1/2 years and still counting.

were trying to work it back up. he wants it to work , hes the one who said hes gonna put in 100% i want it to work out. I cheated on him last summer. It wasnt my fault. i was scared and felt i had to.

Answer 1

Relationships can be repaired, but it depends on three things - how badly the trust was broken (and how), the willingness of the offended party to forgive, and the offending party willingness to work to earn back the trust.
If one or the other isn't willing, its probably better to let the relationship end.

***Oh, and the one who broke that trust (you) have to take responsibility for their (your) actions. If they (you) couldn't help it, how can they (you) guarantee you won't do it again?

Answer 2

Well wait a minute if you broke the dude's trust or he yours, then how is the relationship still counting? I mean trust is a very sacred thing to give it and then have someone break your trust its not much of a relationship. Because if you are sneaking around or he is, trying to figure out what other stuff the other person has lied about then that is not a relationship at all. You or him would be playing spies and breaking even more trust snooping into each other's business. Trust can only happen again if there is a true time apart for a while for both parties to figure out if the relationship is really worth it and then they come back together with solutions on how to fix the problem if it were to happen in the future. But constantly being under each other and saying I'm sorry 24/7 doesn't really cut it. Because that means one of the partners is living with guilt and they only want to hear you forgive them. That is the only weak solution they have. Its more or less begging each day for something you know that won't come as easy. So take some time out and reevaluate everything going on in the relationship first before working on getting the trust back.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

It can be ruined, it can be worked back up. You both want it to work. You cheated on him but you don't admit it was your fault and you're trying to justify the cheating as if you're not even sorry you did so. I think that's not a right way to rekindle the relationship. It's like saying you can cheat as long as you have a good reason to.

Answer 5

well...I'll tell you that it is extremely difficult to build that up again, almost impossible I'd say but if you commit to make that happen it can work out. I discovered that in my 8 years old relationship with my boyfriend he was in love with someone else (did you note that I said "in love"?) for many years so It hurt really bad and then I discovered he had profiles on on line dating websites..another disappointment, one year later...there is no trust...I just can't and I'm trying but the doubt is always there.

Answer 6

That would really depend on why the trust was broken, and how much effort both people involved would be willing to put into repairing the relationship.

Answer 7

It can be worked back up, but youll somehow always remember that past incident and feel a lil self conscious. Its hard. My mom always tells me theres usually not much trust in friendships, and marriages after a while tend to lose trust also.

Answer 8

Once trust is broken it is broken! There is no getting that trust back. If you decide to go back after the trust is broken you will always ask yourself if the trust can be regained? Good Luck.

Answer 9

I guess it depends on what broke the trust. Yes, the trust can be worked back up but again, it depends on the situation.

Answer 10

Sometimes it can be restored; however, it takes tons of work and commitment from BOTH people to accomplish it. I would decide if it's worth it or not, because you could end up being hurt if it does not go as planned.