What's wrong with people in this day and age?

Question

I'm not trying to pass myself off as a saint (FAR from it...), but whenever I try to help people, they give me attitude for it. Really, what's wrong with people these days? Is the entire world so full of sh'it that they can't get past their pride? Is everyone so concerned about themselves that they think they are the ones in the right all the time? And when you try to stand up for what is morally right, you get flak anyways! Or is it just me...? Penny for your thoughts.

Answer 1

It is really sad when people cannot accept help. If you really don't need help then you just say graciously No thank you, but thank you for the offer. I cannot imagine being rude when someone is offering help. I am from a southern family where my grandma drilled it into our heads about etiquette and manners. I have people where I live now who get offended if I call them Madam or Sir. It is a sign of respect. I have had people tell me I am not an old lady, but I would say that whether they were 16 or 80.
I think we live in a society that has been so hyped up on fear that people don't trust each other anymore. I think so many people have come to the conclusion with our feel-good, instant gratification, self-help society that what we get in life we have an absolute right to. That it is owed to them. And when they don't get it they are flabbergasted! So it makes them bitter and strike out at people. So sad.
I still continue to try to help and mind my manners(as my grandma would say) and do what I think is morally and ethically right. And if three out of four people want to be a jerk about it then I concentrate on the fact that I helped that fourth. That is all you can do.Don't ever change, you are on the right path!

Answer 2

A dollar for your insights... Sorry random song quote moment. He he.

Ok, so in answer to the question, I think you're right. Most people aren't willing to accept help for many different reasons, they have too much pride, they don't realize that they need help, they think they can do it on their own, etc. And yes, I also think that most people think that they are right most of the time, but not only do they think that they are right, they feel that they must convince others to agree with them. i.e. Someone will say that they like a certain band let's just say the Beatles. Then someone else will come and say, No the Beatles suck I hate them they have no talent. Then the person who loves the Beatles just can't let the other person have their opinion, they will defend the Beatles until the argument ends up being rather hurtful and totally off the subject of the band. Well, now I'm rambling...

In short, I agree with you mostly, many people are just too prideful.

Answer 3

So many do not do the right thing, that if you try to help people, they are suspicious. Keep doing the right thing. Keep being a caring person. Do not let others get you away from being you. I do random acts of kindness all the time. I usually do not even allow them to know who did it. When they do know, they are always suspicious. Do not let that stop you.

Even the way that I treat my wife shocks people. Opening the car door, buying flowers without an occasion or a reason, buying jewelry just because. My wife tells other people and they act like I am a mutant.

Enjoy the fact that you are morally right and keep your head up. If you set an example for a few other people in your life, and they set that same example for a few, then the world will be a better place.

Answer 4

In some ways I can see your point, but there are times when an offer for assistance can make a person feel like they're thought of as incapable. Why should a person swallow their pride when they believe themselves to be capable?
As far as standing up for what is morally right: without context, the only thing I can say would be that what is "morally right" is relative in a lot of cases. It sounds to me like you're getting flak for telling people what to do.

Answer 5

This is a ME world. The women are independent, and the ten commandments are out of the schools along with a big change in music. Most people are so easily offended. The times have really changed. Marriage is an old tradition nowdays.
People will cuss you, for even opening the door for them.I just do not understand how the times can change so fast.

Answer 6

I think you help the wrong people or they were just in bad mood. Anyway, don't be upset because of that. If there are mean people then there has to be nice people. And not everyone only worries about themselves.
There are people everyday that risk their lives for over something that they don't have to do but they do it cause their hearts tell them too.
I know that it's hard to stand up to something (trust me I've done it alot of times) but keep trying cause if it doesn't work today it'll work someday. Determination is the key.
So as you see I'm not disagreeing with you, I'm just opening your eyes to news things that you might have not see before

Answer 7

If I got a penny for every thought about this question, I'd be rich. If I could answer your question, my life would be complete. I'm not perfect, and I don't wish I was, and I don't want everyone to be perfect, the world we have today was ours to choose. I just want to know why. Why did we choose to make this world the way it is? Why is it like this? I don't know. Maybe, because humans have learned to take advantage of everything. Eachother, resources, the Earth. I do not wish it would stop, I do not wish for world peace, for this was obviously meant to be. I just wish I knew why. I want to be able to change something, just one thing. "If Everyone Cared" by Nickelback is a perfect song for what I'm feeling right now, I think I'll listen to it.

Answer 8

The Bible speaks of the things that you just mentioned. Yes, I would say that the world, over all is going to h*ll, literally. There are people who want to feel that they are more than capable of taking care of themselves. They sometimes feel that it is an attack on their self worth to need help, much less for anyone to offer help. My first point would be to ask God to lead you to those who are in need, and will be thankful for it.
Standing up for what is morally right is never easy. Think what it must have been like for Noah. How many years did he spend making the Ark, when the world was still being watered as it was in Eden. No rivers to speak of, no way to get the Ark to one, much less float in it. What was he thinking anyway? He was doing what God had told him to do, and his faith was well rewarded, wouldn't you agree? Do what is right, stand up for what is right, and wait on God, it will all turn out right for you eventually.

Answer 9

I agree with you, chilvary is dead! My husband (great guy) is from the south where it is customary (from what he told me) to be a "gentleman" where you hold doors open for ladies, help a lady with her coat, bags, etc. offer people directions when they need help and all other random acts of kindness, but anymore, some people (not all) are not only unapprieciative, but almost offened like he did a rude or vulgar act. I think it's crazy you can't be nice to somebody without that person getting defensive. I'm not sure what you are specifically talking about, but I think, too, if someone ask for your opinion/advice and they don't like what they hear they get really mad... I had a friend not talk to me for a week because when she asked about a guy she was dating I told her that some of the things he does isn't right (telling her to meet him somewhere then he dosen't show up)... He obviously wasn't ready to be serious, but when I told her that she got soo mad! Sometimes people just want you to tell them what they WANT to hear, not what they NEED to hear.

Answer 10

I understand what you are saying completely. I do the exact same thing and I get no positive response from the person I'm trying to help out. It annoys and frustrates me because I'm putting my time and effort into helping a needy person out and they don't want to hear it. I just feel that as long as I did my part and I helped out as much as I could, then I'm good. But I do understand where you are coming from.