I just needa let it out. Thanks if you actually read this?

Question

I know you guys don't care. But I needa let it out.

I'm only 14 years old. I was a freshman in high school, and he was a 17 year old junior turning 18 in one month. He was on my bus, he lived right down the street from me. It was in november (2006) we started talking. We got real close and we were like together. We would kiss everyday in the hallway. He was a player, he was real good looking and everyone knew that he had the reputation of screwing a lot of girls. My best friend who was a sophmore, Dane, warned me over and over not to get involved with him, but I did. Then on december 15th we were hanging out and not much happened, he fingered me and that was it. After that he stopped calling me. We used to talk every night on the phone for like hours. He stopped everything, we only kissed a few more days after that. Then literally 1 week later he got a new girlfriend. All they did was kiss so he broke up with her and went to a new girl after 2 weeks. They were together

from January 1st or something like that till May 13th. That whole entire time i sat up crying waiting for him to come back. I know it sounds pathetic but i'm not, I was in love with him and he didn't give a s.hit about me. I was just a bootycall and that was it. But I didn't let go cause I knew that if I did, I could miss my chance and I would never forgive myself. So then 2 days later, on May 15th he was joking around and he came on the bus (his girlfriend was a senior so she drove him everyday). He wasn't on for so long. HE was joking around and hes like 'Aye kay, im coming over your house tonight" At that time he was 18 years old, and I was still only 14. So a few days later I snuck out of my house at midnight and went to his house. He fingered me again and I gave him head and I left his house to walk back to mine at 3:30 in the morning. Then the next day in school that dickface tells all his friends that he was gettin some that weekend from a 14 year old, how cool

Then a few days later I went to his house again and I have him head and he fingered me again and that was on June 11th. Then after that he stopped. Everything stopped again. And I havn't talked to him since June 21st. I know this may sound pathetic but you really have no idea what he fcuking put me through for 7 months. I'm just 14 i don't fcuking deserve anything he put me through. And im sorry if this bored you guys, but I appreciate you guys taking time and reading this. Yeah this is just like an easy 2 points & if you can make me feel better i'll give you the best answer.

Answer 1

I fell inlove with the same type of guy.. all they want you for is sex or somthing close to it, then they tell everyone which breaks your heart even more, people like this do not deserve so much. I cryed for 3 month and still every time this one song comes on that he played over the phone i cry my heart out for all the hurt. That was 6 months ago we went out off and on for 4 years. Hun, all you can do is let the tears fall untill you get up one day and decide your done with thinking about it.. It was the hardest thing I have ever went trough and I still dont want to trust some guy like that ever again. It will be so hard, hang in there.

Answer 2

I am so sorry this happened to you there is nothing worse than being used. I know, I have been used by girls for money and to buy then this and that while all the time they said they loved me. Yeah what he did was not right at all he should be taken out and hung in a tree! You sound sweet and like a nice girl. You did not deserve to be treated like that. Please I beg you don't think all men are that way, we aren’t. You had feeling for him and thought the world of him. I can't blame you for trying to get him to like you. It seems your friend was right. It just sucks you had to find out like that. Look at it this way you learned something from it, even though it was a hard way to learn. You should find a man that will love you and respect you. One that wants to spend time with you, and show you he loves you. You now know something that some girls never learn and that is you can not change anyone. People are as they are and act as they will act. Now you know that, it sucks that you had to find out this way however. Men, will use a girl if they think they can, not all but some will. This will be true your whole life, from now on if a guy disrespects you like that you should tell him good bye and have nothing to do with him. Look and find a kind and good man, one that will think the world of you and worship the ground you walk on. Those are the men that will treat you with respect, and make you feel good about yourself. All he did was hurt your feeling and damage your self esteem. You are I am sure a beautiful girl, and there will be many men that will love you for you. Just make sure it is you they want and not just your looks. He sounds like a real ***, and I hope and know one day he will get what’s coming to him. Take care and smile, life gets better and we are not all like that s.o.b.

Answer 3

All righty... I know your hurt because I hear this quite a bit. I do not doubt your feeling toward him. Everytime you kissed and were with him and stuff you got a little more closer and attached to him. Then you shared something with him that really should not have been shared and that was that dec thing. I do not know why nor do I want to guess why he stopped talking to you after that, but let him go. I have never met you, but you do not need guys in your life right now. You need to grow up learning about he women you are going to become. Guys just complicate things. Sex makes it nearly impossible. You need to hold your head high make friends hang out with old ones and be yourself. When it comes to falling in love, "let God write your love story." Good book by the way.

Answer 4

Ugh, there are SO many jerks like him out there. They only want one thing, they'll act like they like you and then after it happens, they won't talk to you again. You deserve way better, although you probably shouldn't have let him do anything with you, but it's too late. Just remember not to waste your time with someone like him. Just wait, I promise you'll find someone so much better who actually cares about YOU and your personality. I've done nothing with a boy, haven't even had a boyfriend, because I don't want to be in a situation where I totally regret everything and find out that I was being used. I'm waiting for a guy who actually cares about ME, not just my body. I don't care if I have to wait until college to find a decent guy, I have my friends and I'm fine right now. Good luck in everything, I hope you find someone who treats you so much better than that jerk!
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Answer 5

Well you are only 14 and he sounds like a big pathetic jerk. If I were you sweetie I would get rit of him before he gives you some kind of STD. I know at 14 it seems like the end of the world when I guy hurts you but just know it will get better. Im sure you are a very pretty girl with a great personality and I know some other guy would be lucky to get you. Its gonna be hard but try to get over this jerk before he ruins your life. Your still young live life!!!

Answer 6

I am sorry to hear about what happened. He was an asshole and hopefully, karma will get the better of him. Although he was a cheating, player asshole, you still went back to him knowing he would hurt you again. But honestly, I would have done the same. If you loved him, then you did what you thought you had to do. Don't feel bad or ashamed for any of this, but you have a right to feel angry at him for what he did to you, and to so many other girls.

Good luck and if you need someone to talk to, just email me.

Answer 7

I'm sorry this happened to you. But it's hard when you have your first real love; you think there's still a chance, that maybe he'll fall in love with you and change and want to be with you.

Well, at his age, it won't happen until he is much older. But when he does become mature, I'm sure he'll feel guilty about what he did to you.

For now, let it all out; do what you want to, and ignore him from now on. Go shopping, eat out, just enjoy yourself, and workout; it'll give you energy and help you feel better.

And if he comes back saying you look great, tell him he's not great enough for you!

Answer 8

Hey girl! Sounds to me like you need to stay clear of this guy! You are worth so much more than being treated like this! Yes guys are special, but so are girls... I want you to go read this book... email me with questions... heck I'll read it with you... even better than that I will buy it for you if you want me to. It's a book that every woman should read... It's about what God has created woman to be and how special we are in this whole life thing! Once you grasp just how awesome you are... I don't think you will have too many more questions like this!!!
It's called Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge!!!!! Keep in touch!!! Hang in there! I'll be praying for ya!

Answer 9

im so sorry and i know it is hard to do but really the best thing to do is to let go. you would feel much better without all this. meet new boys and try to find one who will truly like you for yourself and not just somebody who would play with you as if you are nothing to him. guys like that player need to grow up. If you start to go out with other guys it would make you feel more respectable rather than to keep pursuing that player. That player is a low life. Try to be above that.

Answer 10

Well, anyway, now you know better. There will be other guys in the future, guys with a lot more class who know how to treat a girl. Have a good cry, write something nasty about him in the ladies' room stall and move on.