I dated this guy for almost a year. we broke up because I felt I couldnt trust him. its been about 2 years since our break up but now he drives by my house almost every day, instant messaged me calling me names and being mean. And even asked my best friend where i was one day so he could name call me to my face..... im getting really sick of this, can i report this to the police? is it conciterd harassment? He now has another girlfreind and a couple month old baby. yet he wount leave me alone. HELP PLEASE
2007-07-17 16:05:30 · 27 answers · asked by ♫Country Girl♪ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
his newgirlfriend used to be a friend of mine, but when i tryed talking to her about this she blew me off.. Im 17 soon to turn 18 and he's 20. he also spreads rummors about me and drinks alcohol alot. this has been going on for a couple years on and off now.
2007-07-17 16:18:09 · update #1
He is a controlling bully and that kind of guy always ends the relationship. You ended it with him and he will say when it is ended. That is why he is bothering you. If you feel he would hurt you go to the police and get a restraining order. If you feel that he is harmless, then ignore him. Don't talk with him, text him, even acknowledge that he is around. He is probably not happy and longs for the day when he was with you. Think about it.
2007-07-17 16:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I drove a rig for a while, and learned a couple things... When a driver was doing something that wasn't exactly Emily Post, call his/her employer. They'll jump on his/her a-- and the driver will mend his ways faster than if you call the cops, so.....
Find a way to contact the new girlfriend... Explain the situation, be sure to let her know that you'd really like for him to leave you alone. Ask her to talk to her boyfriend (your ex) about it.
"Hey, Jill. I know you don't know me, but my name is Jay, and I dated Ed a couple years back. I saw him the other day, and he said *insert the most recent* Do you know why he's harassing a former girlfriend? I'm not trying to be mean, but I'd really rather not see him. Could you talk to him for me? I'm sure we both would rather him spend his time with you... Thanks!"
Although, I'd still call the police just to be sure about the definition of "harrassment" and what possible avenues are available (restraining order, etc).
2007-07-17 23:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is stalking you, then you can file a complaint with the police or local courts to have a restraining order put on him. Since he was a past boyfriend, most jurisdictions will have no problem allowing it. Check with your local or state police agency to see what you can do about putting a stop to this. Once the restraing order is issued, and if he violates it, he can be arrested! He will most likely go to jail if he comes within a certain distance from you, calls you or visits your school or work. Send this dude a message that the law is on your side, and if he doesn't stop following you around, he won't be able to go anywhere, because he'll be behind bars!
2007-07-17 23:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by sportguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This behavior is called stalking and it is a crime. You need to report this to the police. Be sure you can give them dates and times. Tell them what you have done to get this person to leave you alone. Don't wait. You may have to go to court and get a restraining order. If you need to do that, DO IT! His behavior is not your fault. This is serious and it needs to be addressed at once. This is the kind of situation that many women try to ignore and hope it will go away. If he continues to stalk you, keep complaining to the authorities. Be careful and good luck.
2007-07-17 23:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by BeeGee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for a restraining order. He won't be able to send you smoke signals. (lol)
If he even tells somebody to tell you something, all you have to do is call the police again. He will go to jail and have to pay some fines. Eventually he will get tired of harassing you. Not to mention, he will have a hard time explaining to the other girl he's with that he's harassing you.
2007-07-25 15:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Protection order. Contact your local sheriff's office or police office if you live in a city. Do not hesitate. Too many women end up in the morgue this way.
2007-07-25 23:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by J A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
report him to the police, get a restraining order. That is considered harassment. go to the police soon before it gets worse.
2007-07-25 19:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save any evidence of his contact with you when you have several examples go to the police because his behavior is only mild now and you should be able to stop it before it gets more serious.
2007-07-17 23:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by big bopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is considered harassment and if I were you I would report him ASAP! If he is willing to ask your friends where you are so he can just yell to your face, then what as is he willing to do. The verbal abuse may turn to violence. I would report him and then buy some pepper spray. Also, the next time he sends you dirty messages, don't delete them, use it as evidence. Good luck hon and please stay safe.
2007-07-17 23:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by Lilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely call the police and get a restraining order it might just be names and harassment now but if he drinks like you say he could turn violent .
2007-07-25 13:41:26 · answer #10 · answered by weasleywanabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋