We are a family of five and I care for my Grandma most of the time so really (6) in a four bedroom home.My husbands Step cousin and wife want to move in with us because they are having financial difficulties,(but who isn't) he has got his three children for the summer and other than that every other weekened.I feel like this is not going to work out very well and I do not know what to do or say.He already lives like 5 hours from here.He also is always calling wanting money and we do not give it to him.My husband wants to help because he said well he is family and we are close,but he is his step dads nephew.My husband told him that he really did not think it was a good idea and he said well we will sleep on the floor.He rents the house he lives in now and has nothing but one car and he is a heavy equipment operator and has to pay $600 a month in child support.And I do not know what else to say to my husband with out being really ugly about this entire situation.What should I do???????
2007-07-17 15:55:34 · 6 answers · asked by tosha38401 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
NO! Yes, its a disgrace what the other family is going through, but you have to think about your family as well! Having the other family move in with you might create lots of problems (cooking, taking other people's items, using rooms when others need it, people getting in on someone else's problems, kids making to much noise for your grandpa and not letting anyone rest). Your husband also needs to think about the finance that will occur when the family moves in. Just think, your husbands not blood related family wants money constantly. What does this mean for you if the family moves in? What if the family depend on you guys to buy everything for them? And would it be right if you guys pay the rent/house payment when they get to live in for free? Will they want more than just to sleep on the floor (take your bedroom, sofa)? Are they willing to clean thier mess around the house? When the kids are over, will they let your family rest (especially your grandpa). I know your husband (as well as you) want to do the right thing, but you have to think of the consequences before you take a decision! Good luck, and I hope I was able to help your decision easier!
2007-07-17 16:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your situation is hard. A family that enjoys privacy is likely a healthy family. Maybe in the past you were tolerant , to stay a week or so. Now they are looking forward that numbers does not matter to you, you will still accept them.
What you are going to do is to write all the pros & cons plus all the foreseen expenses and give this list to your husband and wait what he's going to say. The earlierst to do the note, the better.
2007-07-17 23:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by emator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of your marriage, and your family do everything you can to not let this happen. I don't care if they are family, if they gave a rat's behind about YOUR family, they would never ask such a thing. His kids can go back to their mothers if he doesn't have a place to live and he can get a job, or two and so can his wife. DON'T DO IT.
If someone was invading your home with the intent to disrupt and steal from you, you would do everything you could to protect your family. This is no different, listen to your gut.
2007-07-17 23:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't let them guilt trip you into a situation that could well threaten the solidity of your marriage and home. Tell them no. Period. How can you not know that you have that right?
Update: I almost forgot; in answer to your final question, in the words of Nancy Regan, "Just say no!!!!!"
2007-07-17 23:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by Third account already! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's an unfortunate situation but you have the right to put your foot down.
2007-07-17 22:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by turquoise7 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no way in hell! this is trouble waiting to rear it's ugly head. don't do it.
2007-07-17 23:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋