do you agree with?

Question

sending the kids to bed without supper as punishment?my hubby seems to think so,i do not,the only 2 times he got away with this i brought food to their rooms...honest opinions please,was i wrong to go behind his back?

lmao doug!!!!

Answer 1

How about not giving them water or taking away their blankets and turning the heat off? Maybe making them sleep on the floor?
Do I need to be more sarcastic? Punishing kids by depriving them of food! It's not just wrong, it's stupid.
As for your husband, maybe this is the way he establishes he is still a man (what do you expect from a guy, who is called "hubby?")

Answer 2

Yes you were wrong, Watch the Nanny 911 show. It tells you to always stick together. When you went behind your husbands back thats losing trust and your children's respect. From then on they'll think of you as the push over, or like their father less. Would you want that to happen. Your children won't die, if you did not like the punishment why not talk about it to your husband rather than betraying him.
Supper is the meal after dinner right, if it is my family never had super. Three meals a day is fine.
Even if the punishment was wrong you should have talked to your husband first. Now your children will think if daddy doesn't let me I'll go ask mommy.And they wont tell you that daddy said no.

Answer 3

You two have to seriously sit down and talk about how you want to discipline your kids. Sending kids to bed without dinner is punitive and ineffectual. What he is saying is that he can withhold basic human needs (to eat) to punish. That doesn't teach them anything other than he's an out of control bully. Food should never be made a weapon.

On the other hand, you are telling them that you have no respect for him but not enough guts to stand up for your kids. Great message.

You should have done this before you had kids, but you didn't. You need to either sit down and make a plan of action that both of you agree on, or bring in a professional, doctor, pastor, family counselor to help you come up with an unified approach to disciplining the kids.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I don't agree with sending the kids to bed without supper. It seems to me that could be considered child abuse, at least in this day and age. The two of you need to talk about how you want to raise your children. Including discipline. How often does he want to use this type of punishment? There are other methods of disciplining children that don't risk their health.

Answer 5

Sending kids to bed without their supper is just plain wrong! I have 3 babies and I could never see myself sending any of them to bed without their supper is a form of abuse. As far as going behind his back you used your maternal instincts and fed your kids. You done nothing wrong. Know that. Any mother would do the right thing and you did. You go girl!!!!!

Answer 6

I don't believe in this as a punishment. However, you and your husband have to be on the same page and come to an understanding. You have to agree on things and not be inconsistant. It's sending the wrong message to the kids if you go behind his back. Come to an agreement and fast.

Answer 7

children get to be stubborn when they are punished, it's not good to send your children to bed without supper as a punishment. let your hubby understand that its not good for the kids health to sleep without dinner. by the way the effect of what you did to your kids is might not be good, though your intention is clean and right, your children might abuse your plain and simple gesture of giving them food even though they are punished of the wrong that they did.
instead of giving corporal punishment why don't you try supervised house chores as a punishment for your children. in this way they will learn house chores and avoid whatever foolish things or doing in the future.
just explain to them that your are doing this for their own good, tell them that you love them. whatever punishment you will give to your childen if you will not tell them that you love them they will not change. and be open minded let them explain their side why they did it and explain to them too what you think they must be corrected. and giving punishment will remind them not to do t again.
and always remember love your children no matter what they did or they will do. and alway be onthey side to correct them and understand them.

Answer 8

Don't go behind his back..they are your kids too. I wouldn't let no one punished my kids and not give them nothing to eat, that just mean and very cruel..There are other ways to punish kids..he need to find one. Not feed your kids is child neglect, come on Mrs lady, talk to your husband about this because this is not a normal behavior. If his kids get out of line make them clean their room, take away their fun time, don't let them watch TV, take away their video games. there is all kinds of way to punish kids and not feeding them is not one of them..

Answer 9

No one STARVED in one evening. The idea behind punishment is it's supposed to be unpleasant.
They're getting off easy. I got my A** whipped! I didn't live in the US so no one cared if I had a bruise or two.

The current legal climate is part of the reason I chose not to become a parent. If my kids are anything like I was, taking away my toys or telling me to stand in a corner would not be enough.

Answer 10

I would not send mine to bed without dinner, but when I make dinner and they don't eat, I explain that this is their dinner and if they don't eat it, then they don't get to eat later. Usually they end up eating. I don't believe children are ever bad enough to withhold food. Take away something else. Maybe make then stay in their rooms until dinner.