My fiance is enlisting in the Navy and we had planned to marry prior to boot camp, however the recruiter told him that we should wait until afterwards that way he wouldn't need a waiver. The recruiter failed to tell us that there is no leave between boot camp and A school. My question is that if we elope the weekend of boot camp graduation while he is on liberty, would that be okay and not require a waiver, or do we have to wait until after A school?
2007-07-17 15:00:09 · 9 answers · asked by sun_flwers_1979 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
The reason we are concerned with the waiver, is because he has to have a waiver anyways in order to enlist because of a criminal record. And then I heard if married, there are credit checks and my credit is not the best as I am a poor college student with debt.
2007-07-17 15:02:07 · update #1
You may still get married before he departs for basic training, provided you give the recruiters ample time to run the waiver. The waiver itself is no big deal, all you need is your birth certificate, ssn card, the marriage certificate and you must complete a financial screening form. Provided you are stable financially there shouldn't be a problem getting this. I have done this a couple times since being a recruiter. It is a pain in the ass and his recruiter might not be too happy, but you will be able to start receiving benefits like a housing allowance, medical and dental the day he starts basic training. DO NOT get married within a couple weeks of him leaving to bootcamp, that is really not a sufficient amount of time to get this done. I'm also assuming there are no kids involved. If you have kids then they will become his dependents also and that will greatly hinder him getting a waiver.
If you want to wait until after he ships then get married while he is in A school. That way there will be a personnel office to handle all the admin for you. If he will be in A school for a while then you will be able to live off base with him. Any way you look at it the admin side of it will be a pain. You will be better off getting married before he leaves, provided you have enough time to handle everything.
Weigh the pros and cons, and do what's best for you. Don't let a lazy recruiter stop you from taking care of your family.
2007-07-17 15:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by silentservice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait until after A school. for one, you may not be able to get all the required paperwork done in time, and another thing..he may be a Grad n Go..meaning he reports to A school immediately after PIR. or he will have to stand duty at some point during the w/e.
he can get into A LOT of trouble if he elopes during the weekend, as technically he is still a recruit until he is released to A school.
2007-07-17 15:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually there's no leave between bootcamp and A school, because A school usually is short (depend the job). However you still ablet o spend like half of day with him during bootcamp graduation, and of course in A school, A school is not bootcamp, you can leave everyday after school or training, and weekend as well(when is not on duty). Is better off saving those leave day and used for like chrismas etc..
2007-07-21 09:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did four years in the NAV from 1975-1979 (honorably discharged). All I can say is that all the married guys had a real hard time of it. You can be away from your wife for up to a full year in some deployments. I saw dozens of divorces, hundreds of unhappy marriages, and constant cheating on spouses during my four years of Navy active duty. It was one of the sadder aspects of duty.
2016-05-21 00:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until after A school. He will figure out where he needs to go. You and he can get married and then use leave to find housing and get established.
2007-07-17 15:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he gets to his first duty station, all other posts up to then, he doesn't get$$ for you, hence putting you deeper in debt.
Additionally, if his first duty sation is "sea" duty, let him go on his first cruise before you get married, the cruise will be easier for him and test you to see if you can take it. 94 % of ALL first sea duty, just married guys are divorce within 2 months of returning home.
2007-07-23 10:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by tyvek1313 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your soldiers MOS or job description it may be best to wait until he gets assigned his first post. If you have bad credit it could affect his security clearance. So wait until he has cleared security. This may take six-months.
2007-07-24 17:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by hook9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well congrats on wanting to get married. and second the "recruiters" fail to tell you alot of things when you are enlisting..... Be careful.....Because once your man swears in,he is officially navys property!
Not saying that its not a good move, but just be aware. They can be snakes.
2007-07-17 15:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Best to find out from a person who knows because it could affect your and his housing, insurance, education on and on, good luck.
2007-07-17 15:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by sidekick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋