Okay, my girlfriend went out of town and I suspect that she met this boy and developed feelings for him. This boy clearly has an interest for her. This boy commented every one of her myspace pictures (I know it's only myspace). These comments contain "i love you" and some sexual jokes and suggestions. He even calls her "baby." From some of the comments, it said they kissed and held each other. Now, I asked my girlfriend if she had feelings for anyone else and she said she didn't know. She seems to avoid answering everytime I ask. But she says she really loves me and that she did some stupid things and will tell me when she's ready. Is she being truthful or is she just a damn good liar? What do I do? Our relationship is currently on hiatus because she said she needs to think. Does she love him or me? Keep in mind that she'll barely see this guy.
2007-07-17 14:41:15 · 17 answers · asked by Damon C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her you saw her myspace and see how she reacts.
You need to decide if you're willing to wait for her to figure out what/who she wants, and if so, how long. Then give her an ultimatum: figure it out within a time frame or it's over. And stick to it.
2007-07-17 14:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by Happy go Lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god i know how this feels... i went through some similar crap...
first - don't play it down by saying its 'only myspace'..its bothering you enough that you are here posting your concerns.you know it in your gut that its the intent that counts more than the final outcome... and all this myspace posting is no good..the other guy is just taking his 'chances' with your gf and she is leading him on.
what i would suggest is you should catch her in a lie... don't bring it up with her for a while but keep your eyes and ears open...see if she escalates her contact with this guy..i know some people might have an issue with this but you would do well to check her phone records (i would say do anything to ease your doubts..)...see if she is texting or calling this guy..? are they making plans of meeting up..? once you have some evidence in your hand , try to bring up something very specific and if she denies or lies to you SHOW the evidence against her...once someone is caught in a blatant lie they have a hard time being angry at the other person for spying on them...
..after this you would be the best person to decide whether the relationship is worth salvaging or calling it off ... if you think you cannot trust her again then you know what to do...
when the inevitable is obvious its best to move on as fast as possible...
2007-07-18 17:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by sylvester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAMN SKIPPY !! She is or has..or at the very least wants to.. Either way..Time to quit before you get fired (think you already have been fired...you just don't know it) Lets look at it another way.. It would seem that you are willing to let her put you on hold and keep you in the dark while she makes up her mind Oh! "did some stupid things" would have outa there anyway.... Looks like you have a great opportunity to start over and find a gal worthy of you dedication.. Sometimes .. love is blind..and so are you..apparently... (tough love..little brother)
2007-07-18 18:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by That Guy Over There 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her @$$!
If she's "not sure" about liking another guy WHEN SHE'S ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP - then that's a polite way of saying that she is unfaithful.
Only if she flat out denied everything the guy was saying could she be trusted - but by playing this "game" of hers, she is clearly guilty!
Since she doesn't deny anything - that means that at least SOME of what this guy is saying has to be TRUE!!!
Eventually, EVERYTHING he has posted will happen - and you will be left with his "sloppy seconds". Confront her, and get some straight answers out of her. The two of you are "on hiatus" because she needs time to get her LIES straight ;););)
2007-07-17 21:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know who she loves, but it doesn't seem to be you. Sorry. When people say they "want space" it's a cowardly way of waying they want to break up. From her answers and non-answers to your questions, she has exited the relationship. It seems she might be giving you a little bit of encouragement to stick around in case this thing with the other guy doesn't work out. I wouldn't be there for her should she come back. You deserve a girlfriend who is fully into you.
2007-07-17 21:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong for yourself, and make her make up her mind.
Right now she loves you, but the excitement of having kissed another guy is clouding her mind. She put your relationship on hold, she won't tell you exactly what happened, and she is stringing you along while she tries to choose between her heart and her ego.
The quickest way through this is to end it. Since you don't want to be with someone who doesn't really want to be with you, tell her you're done playing her game. If she wants to be completely honest with you, and be with ONLY you (not letting other guys call her baby and say they love her) then she can call you. But until she's ready to handle a relationship, she shouldn't call you, write to you, etc.
(It took me three months to be able to say this to my boyfriend, but three days after I did it, he called and begged me to come back. Completely changed his ways.)
2007-07-17 21:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that she will lie when ever it will suit her. What i think you should do is confront her and lay it all out on the table man. You have one important question for her to answer and that is to ask weather or not she loves you? OK we will both consider that she does not barely see this guy at present...But you imagine 2 or 3 months down the track..... Prepare yourself mate... Nail it!
2007-07-17 22:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by Toddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably is, but myspace isn't very trustworthy in my opinion. sometimes they hav pictures of someone else that may look like her w/ another guy. I would talk 2 her in a calm voice and try 2 reason w/ her. If she is then jus saythat you don't like that and stay calm so she wont *explode*
2007-07-17 21:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by Kitten 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her what this guy's been saying on her MySpace and ask her if it's true. That's about all I can tell you.
2007-07-17 21:44:34 · answer #9 · answered by Mike M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you met a prettier girl than her and you want to know if she wants to break up or what, because this prettier girl wants to know when you become available. She'll tell you the truth, then. Can you handle the truth?
2007-07-17 21:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by Tommy B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋