this guy that im starting to fall for is kinda a player, he doesnt have sex with 20 girls a week, but he has it about 5, there mostly the same people tho. i really dont want him to be this guy anymore, hes an awesome guy and i want him to have a relationship, how do i make him stop being that guy and i guess start to fall for me without me giving him a piece of ***?? or is there a way!
2007-07-17 14:26:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know how many times I have to say this - but you CANNOT change guys like this...
Once a Playa, always a Playa!
He is NOT interested in a REAL relationship of any kind - otherwise, he would already be in one. To change him would be to change what you like about him - you CANNOT change ONE part of his personality!
THIS is the point that I have been trying to get across (for years now!) - that you can't fix one thing without it affecting everything else ;););)
2007-07-17 14:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is. I mean you know the reality of the guy, you are even stating his stats right there. He is getting with 5 different chicks at a time. Just because they are repeat women doesn't mean anything at all. Clearly he isn't amazing enough or smart enough or probably just doesn't wish to give up those women to be in a relationship. So the only thing for you to do is move on, because you will only get hurt. Because he has no intention of giving up his 5 main squeezes. Be the bigger person here and realize a guy is never that amazing that he is having sex with 5 chicks at once. Too many chances of passing stuff around anyway. Be clean and safe, but never sorry.
2007-07-17 14:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change a person unless they want to change. And as far as him falling for you, first of all don't be an available peice of ***. And second be his friend and someone he can count on. And if he doesn't see how wonderful you are and that a relationships is worth having with you, then drop him. Because he's not going to change.
The other problem is, if he decided to be in a relationship with you, how could you ever garentee he wasn't cheating. Men who feel they have to sleep with alot of women, don't tend to just quit that. I know.... I've seen it first hand many times.
2007-07-17 14:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kellie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an awful kind of guy to fall for. Chances are that he's just looking at you as another piece of meat for his pleasure. He doesn't really sound like an awesome guy, he sounds like a bit of a manwhore. That's a great way to get yourself some STDs. Take things slow, no matter what he says. Get to know each other better.
2007-07-17 14:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change someone unless they really want to change. Sometime in his life he'll find that special person that's really gonna turn his world upside-down enough to make him change "his ways". If you suspect you're not it, forget it, you'll end-up being one more on his list. I'm not trying to be harsh, but really think about it; if you feel he only wants a pice of a**, then that's probably all he wants from you, just a good time. Good luck! :)
2007-07-17 14:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by Zoe S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him! A girl can never change a guy! Trust me! I HAD a boyfriend who would do drugs, and as much as he said he loved me, he didn't give up on his thing! You need to find yourself a guy that will respect you and care about you. Not a guy who will break your heart and give you some kind of disease!!! Just remember, guys come and go! And be safe about who you chose and never ever let a guy hurt you! Peace!
2007-07-17 14:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a way.. you just gotta step up your game! ! usually guys want what they cant have. Like say you guys went on a date and headed back to his house and he was planning on getting it onnnnnnnn. lol. just flirt alittle have some fun then when it comes down to sex just tease him without giving it up or you can tell him "your not ready" or " im trying to wait until marriage" something like that, If he is a REAL MAN he will respect you, and forget about it ,,, if hes not/doesnt. Forget about him cause you deserve better.
2007-07-17 14:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
avoid him and he will ask y u back off (if he cares) & tell him cos hes a player and not da kind of person u want as a boifriend so if u tell him that & he cares will change (hope he cares & change)
2007-07-17 14:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by Angel. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop lying to yourself the only person you can change is you why don't you find a better guy?
2007-07-17 14:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by aaaaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm...dats kinda hard. u can try...i gess jus b really shy and innocent but make sure wen u flirt, theres always that "bad girl" look. that shuld get him attracted, then tlk to him bout wat u want
2007-07-17 14:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋