i only know his first name, roughly his age and where he worked in 1984 and his nationality..... I don't have enough money to hire a pi and i tried ringing the people he worked for back then, but dueto privacy they were unable to help me.
2007-07-17 14:23:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mother doesn't know his last name as it was a work affair and she was married to my step father at the time. i only know his first name. he's not on my birth certificate. we went to his old work but they wouldn't help. I also rung them myself a few years ago to no avail.
2007-07-17 14:56:14 · update #1
and my mothers family had no idea about this until i was about 11 years old and they never knew the guy either. we went to sydney and tried to track down one of his friends, but he doesn't talk to him and doesn't know his last name either as it is a weird one apparently.
2007-07-17 14:57:54 · update #2
i must also add that i am trying to do this without my parents knowing as it upsets my dad when we talk about it and it's hard to get anything out of mum unless she brings it up. it's a touchy subject i don't want to cause dramas or hurt my step dad as he has raised me as his own and i love him very much
2007-07-17 16:25:42 · update #3
I'm not sure but I think the Church of the Latter Day Saints do research for geneologies so they may be able to help.Does your birth certificate name your father?Is your mother still alive to answer your questions or perhaps a grandparent who may know something about your father.This has to be very difficult for you.I don't want to discourage you but prepare yourself for the possibility your father may not want to cantact you. I hope you find what you are looking for.Good luck in your search/Take care.
2007-07-17 14:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do this by using your info.
This is how an adopted person starts their journey.
Depending on what state you live in, you can ask for your original birth certificate. His full name will be on there. You may have a doctored one.
You can put your info out on the
Ancestry.com adoption boards and put your full name on there
You can register at all sites that allow adoptees to do so.
I realize you may not be adopted, But this is the same process that people use to find their fathers
If he is deceased the SSI index will list him,
You can apply to the orphans court in your state gov't and request your birth certificate.
YOu can research the company of 1984 and get a person sympathetic to your cause and get them to open the file.
You can ask all your relatives to give you as much info as they remember. Trust me, dig away at that angle, you'd be surprised at what they know. Even little things are important.
Surely she had people at work that knew him. SOMEONE has his last name. It's not impossible, you just have to dig.
2007-07-17 14:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Milmom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to disappoint you, however it sounds as if maybe either he doesn't know you exist or doesn't want you to find him. Do you know he is a safe person to pursue in finding? Be careful for your safety as well as the emotional rollarcoaster this will put your family on. Meanwhile if you really want to pursue it then you should go to his last work place that you know about in person. Request that they allow you to forward a written message to him. As even though he doesn't work there anymore he would be able to receive mail at his address he has on record there. If he has moved it will just get forwarded to him through the postal service. A brief note to him explaining you are trying to contact him. Best of luck in what ever decision you make.
2007-07-25 10:14:38 · answer #3 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try contacting the employer he worked for in 1984 and see what info you can get from them. May be they can fill in some blanks to make your search easier. Even if they don't give you his ss# maybe they can give you a last name and date of birth.
Good luck I am also looking for my dad
2007-07-25 05:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by My Three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it too important at this stage of your life to track down your father. What if, you come to know he is weird person, or he is married happily to someone else. You intervention in his life may jeopardise her relationships. Are you searching because you want to teach him a lesson? According to me, please stop searching as I feel it will never do good to you. Instead concentrate on understanding the beauty taht life has to offer to you otherwise. Take your parents as birth parents as they shower with the same love. That guy whom you perceive to be your father may not know of you. It does not matter to him if you exist or not. Do not get influenced by the thoughts that by getting him back you will get paradise...it may be ahell you are pursuing for.
2007-07-24 17:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the Salvation Army, they have a department where they trace family members for people and they only charge a little fee for this, but if you are not financial, they will still help. They helped me in this matter, and it remains confidential. good luck
2007-07-17 14:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out you birth certificate then google the name or ask older family members and even your mom.
2007-07-17 14:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by wkemrer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id look on the internet or the phone book of his country. you could also try to contact the officials of the couyntry too.
good luck!!!!
2007-07-25 08:34:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋