if you just lost someone for good, like they died, and they were really close to you, and you want to go to their funeral to pay your respects but you dont want their husband to see you crying. what would you do?
2007-07-17 14:15:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my friend died, she was 72. she died from cancer being in her cranium. her husband, who is also my dearest friend, was close to tears whenever we visited him earlier today. i dont want him to see me crying because i want to be strong for him. i dont want him to feel any worse than he alread does. please help me!!
2007-07-17 14:18:08 · update #1
He will think nothing less of you if you cry.
In a way, crying is a form of paying your respects.
This lady meant the world to you, go to the funeral, cry your heart out and when it is all over, go up to her husband and give him a real tight cuddle.
2007-07-17 14:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all im really sorry about ur friend. I think it would show great respect if u go to their funeral. Dont worry about trying not to cry. This is hard time for everyone and Im for sure no one is depending on you to be strong. Everyone knows its going to be a long way of recovery for you and they know that your going to cry so just let out and her husband isnt gonna feel any worst then he already does the worst has already been done (lost of a love one) I would say that you should stay by her husband's side the whole time at the funeral to give him confort and thats really all he needs at this moment
2007-07-17 21:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will let him know you care. There is nothing wrong with crying at a funeral. I didn't cry in front of my mother at my grandmother's funeral and it was very hard and I wish I had just let it out but I was trying to be strong for her.
2007-07-17 21:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crying is not a sign of weakness! It is a sign of empathy, sympathy or just the utter impotence one feels when dealing with death. He should understand that if you cry it is because you also feel his pain. The mere fact that you can cry with him is a true sign of support and understanding. go ahead and cry all you want, it's OK.
2007-07-17 21:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by SexRexRx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could you elaborate a bit? why shouldn't their husband see you cry? it's normal.
EDIT- why do people think they need to be "strong" for the remaining family?they're going to cry and grive no matter what. why not grieve together? that way, they know they aren't alone and that you miss the person too.
2007-07-17 21:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong for him and your friend. Control your emotions. have a really good cry before you go
2007-07-18 01:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go
every1 will be crying the husband will think nothing of it
im sorry for your loss hun
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2007-07-17 21:18:28 · answer #7 · answered by rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋