no money (he makes all the money and wont let me touch it), no where to go, and family can not help and live too far away for me to go stay with them. I dont know what to do. Me and my three children are about to be homeless
2007-07-17 14:12:48 · 9 answers · asked by carlymh26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let me first say that we are not legally married, only common law, we rent, and my name is not on the lease, but the landlord knows i live here.
2007-07-17 14:25:40 · update #1
Even though you are not married and not on the lease he can't put you out. As long as you have proof you live there(mail etc.) he has to evict you and that will take some time. Are these his kids? If so he'll have a hard time evicting you any way you have as much right there as he does no matter who pays the bills. Go to social services and apply for assistance and they will help you find work and if they are his kids help you get child support. If he threatens you or touches you go get a protection from abuse order and he'll be the one out immediately... good luck
2007-07-17 15:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you legally married? If you are in a community property state like Texas, then half of all the marital assets belong to you. Go see a lawyer and find out what your rights are. He may not have to pay you any alimony but he will be required to pay for appropriate living expenses for the three kids. If you have the house in both of your names, do not move out. Tell him he can leave. Be sure that you are not placing yourself in a violent situation, however. Take photographs of everything in the house that is of value, and make sure that you have any accounts that belong to both of you accounted for so he can't empty them leaving you penniless. Find out what arrangements your local area has for homeless women and children and access the support that you can get from the church you attend. This is not the time to be proud, it is the time to help yourself If you have a marriage license and the kids birth certificates you should be able to get some kind of public legal aid. Go read up on divorce at the public library as well. It will give you some idea of what to ask at the lawyers. People who go armed with information are usually treated better than those who walk in blind.
If you are not married or the kids aren't his you are going to have a harder time proving your case but you are going to have to take care of you. Good luck.
2007-07-17 21:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get an attorney quickly and make him pay child support and possibly alimony. It sounds like you are in a real tough situation. Tell him if he wants you to move out to give you some money. He has to support his children! Don't leave if he doesn't give you some money. Good luck!
2007-07-17 21:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a lawyer. Anytime children are involved, you can collect child support. In addition, if your husband agreed that you should for fit your career to be a SAHM, you may be entitled to alimony. He also maybe required to provide a home for you and your children to live in.
2007-07-17 21:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you leave then it is considered desertion on your part no matter the circumstances if you need to get out call you local abuse hot line they will provide a secret place for you and your children and also provide legal help.
This is considered mental abuse you know.
2007-07-17 21:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by wkemrer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the house is in both of your names, he cant make you leave.
Get social services involved (asap) and they should be able to steer you in the right direction to find housing.
Your man sounds like a real charmer!!!!
You and your kids are better off without him.
2007-07-17 21:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT KIND OF MAN IS THIS? HONEY ITS TIME FOR YOU TO TAKE CHARGE. YOU SHOW THAT BASTARD WHAT YOUR MADE OF. DONT LET HIM RULE YOU. THAT MONEY IS JUST AS MUCH AS YOURS AS IT IS HIS. WHAT IM THINKING IS U SHOULD BE THE ONE TOSSING HIS AS* OUT THE DOOR! CAUSE A GUY LIKE THAT DESERVES 2 B LEFT OUT N THE STREETS HOMELESS.
2007-07-17 21:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how hard it is ~ don't budge. Once you are out of the house, you are sunk.
DO see a good attorney immediately....ask around and find one who's ruthless.
2007-07-17 21:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jeanbug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not. he can't force you out. if he wants a divorce, he can file. what kind of man makes his kids homeless?
2007-07-17 21:17:49 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋