Is This a Bad Idea?

Question

I do not get along with my mother, at all. I just feel she is very negative towards me and the world. I plan on moving out of her house within the year. At that time, I was thinking about cutting ties w/ her for a while. I just feel like she does not realize how negative she is towards me. She said some pretty hurtful things that have lowered my self-esteem greatly.

I just think she is very negative. What do I do? I was even thinking ahead to when I have children of my own, I would not want them to be subjected to her negative attitude and ignorant views.

Is it bad to turn your back on your family? What do I do? I've tried talking to her about this, but she's does not listen. She believes that she knows everything and no one can tell her otherwise.

Answer 1

My mother kicked me out of the house several times and finally when i was old enough to hold my own, i moved out for good. My mother and I still do not get along all that well, but as time as gone on, she has gotten better, thank god. I do not make an effort to be around my mom except for some of the holidays. You are not turning your back on her. What I did, Send cards and pictures about every month. I kept the peace by doing that. I know speak to her about 1 time a week and then when we argue, It usually goes 2-3 weeks until she calls me.

Answer 2

The answer is in your question. No, its not wrong to turn your back on idiots! Family on otherwise. You future family needs happiness not misery. Because you know she is effecting your self esteem in a negative way, don't let it get to you. Your smart and a well balanced person. Let someone who deserves your love have it. Your mother has deep issues and needs to fix it her self. If I recall she's a cancer? If I'm right, shes needs time alone. Had a a good astrology book and tell her to find her self! Take care, Mark

Answer 3

Don't cut your ties completely. Just have limited contact at first. You are going to need to go back to get more of your things and it will be very uncomfortable if you aren't even speaking to her. When I moved out, my mom threw away all my yearbooks, photos, trophies, etc. You don't want that. Besides you may want her help with something some time. "Hey Mom, you know that cherry dessert you make that we love? Can you teach me how to make it?"

Answer 4

Before you try moving out I think you should try talking to your dad or your grandma first...any family member that knows you and your mom well enough to give advice. If your a religious person try praying or talking to your pastor or other person at your place of worship and if none of that works then I would say you should move.

Answer 5

once you move out, things should change. don't cut ties completely, just limit your time together. it's very normal to do that anyway. when you start out on your own you have to find your way and learn things by yourself but, if you cut off all communication, it could kick you in the *ss later.

Answer 6

You should move out. She has no right to be like that twards you. Let her know how you feel and if she doesnt change then jsut cut her loose for a while.

Answer 7

ur mom used to wipe ur butt she doesnt want to hear that from u...parenting is real tough sometimes....and althoughh i dont doubt her insulting you because moms jus do that sometimes....and even if u absolutley hate her always keep in touch with mom because she is blood....u can make less contact but dont ever forget ur mother without her where would u be who would u be?? go give her a kiss even if she tell u to f.u.c.k off :o) hope u got wat i was tryina say