How can I do this without hurting his feelings?
2007-07-17 13:46:14 · 18 answers · asked by cwtt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why did you get involved if you felt no attraction to her at all? It's best to be honest but don't be nasty. Good luck. 2D
2007-07-17 13:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by 2D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Break ups always suck. There's no good way to do it.
But you can look at it this way. Telling him how you feel is better for him that going on with a lie. He will be hurt initially but he WILL get over it eventually. And he can move on to somebody who loves him back. Breaking up with him is the nicest thing you can do for him, believe it or not. You're not doing him any favors by staying with him when you don't want to be with him.
If you're not feeling anything for him he probably already knows this on some level, and is confused as to why his relationship doesn't have more spark in it. When you tell him how you feel this will unconfuse him.
2007-07-18 16:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way you wont hurt his feelings. His feelings are going to get hurt, but time goes by and i am sure he will get over it. Take it from me, i was in the same situation as you, I ended up staying with the guys for three years because i didnt want to hurt him. Evenutally i realized that I should have dont it sooner because now his feelings are more hurt than they would have been if i would have broken up with him sooner. I feel really bad for doing that to him, but what i have heard form people is that he has been doing good.
2007-07-17 20:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Beli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's super nice and sensative theirs no way u can break up w/ him w/out hurting his feelings and the thing u should b asking is y u got in the relationship in the first place if u wer not attracted at all
2007-07-17 20:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by lovelylady7950 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it and stop waisting his time. Usually the reason we even give someone a first date is because we are physically attracted to them. What made you go out with him in the first place?
2007-07-17 20:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Candi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say this: " You know, you are a really nice guy, but I think we are two very different people and I feel that we should both stop seeing each other because it is not going to work." "If you do not want to be friends, then that is fine. But, we need to stop seeing each other." That is what you have to say. Then, leave.
2007-07-17 20:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are just not ready for a relationship at this point in time. Tell him that you enjoy hanging out with him, and you almost look up to him like a big brother. Tell him all of the good qualities that he has.
2007-07-17 20:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by delishisdiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think there is any way you can do this without hurting his feelings. the best way is to tell him that its time to move on and see others, cause you have no feelings for him what so ever.
2007-07-17 20:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to do it without hurting him, just come out and do it.
2007-07-17 20:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by mamapoulette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you may not be ready for a relationship yet and ask if you guys could be friends for now.
2007-07-17 20:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by rika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋