Sex like a man?

Question

Well, let me tell ya. lol
I have been single for about 8 months and honestly, It really doesnt bother me. I am out of a very bad relationship and no doubt have some bitterness in me.
I was talking to my friend the other day, and we got to discussing relationships and all that. She kept tellin me I needed to start dating and blah blah blah.
I told her my thoughts on it and she asked about my needs. She said.....Girl, u have needs and they need to be met. I once again told her my mentality on the whole dating thing. She then told me.......You need to learn how to have sex like a man. lol
I mean, I know what she means by it. The whole....no emotions involved....bit. But, for some reason, I dont think this will help my future outlook on relationships. What do u guys think? lol

Answer 1

No it won't and not only that, you won't feel too "valuable" yourself. She is trying to be a friend but she can't live for you and you haven't told her how you really feel inside because it is too personal and private. Take your time, make the right moves at the right time. Heal, hope (in your future), make new friends, think things over, don't rush, try to feel "normal", you know what I mean. Good luck

Answer 2

If you go out just to have sex; you may cloud your own judgement. You'll know when & with whom if it is right. Your opnions are just that but can you really hold an entire gender liable for what one clown did? That isn't fair & guys do have feelings but they aren't as vocal as most women so you might have to kinda force them into admitting how they truly feel about you. Take it easy & slow; not any way or how you can get it. Don't you have a "toy store" in your area???? What?? If you don't have the real thing it is the next best. You know in your heart but listen to your head too.
Best wishes !! XO

Answer 3

I don't think being emotionally unattached in a sexual relationship is the way to go. We women aren't "built" for it.
Men can separate love from sex and so on. For women, it's much harder. What if you have a non committed ca usual affair but end up falling for the guy? This would cause you undue hardships and regret at ever having to think you can keep your emotions out of the bedroom

Answer 4

well I have had sex like a man, and it just isn't that great. I mean sure I got off but later on the ride home...I didn't regret it but I was thinking that this is going no where fast.
Why don't you consider taking an exercise call like yoga. or running. Vent your frustrations in a healthy way. Unless you want to take on a lover. Love em and leave em fast honey if you do .

Answer 5

Gratuitous sex will not improve your outlook on relationships. As much as so many men vehemently deny it, they too have emotions. There reaches a point after so much gratuitous sex that one realizes an actual need for feeling behind that kind of close physical contact and gratuitous sex no longer has its appeal.

Answer 6

Sex,like all things if very personal and depends upon your value system. It appears that it doesn't mesh too well with your history or you would have been doing it that way already.

Be true to yourself and don't be sold a bill of goods that isn't in keeping with who you are.

Answer 7

babes, you know what is best for you. Sex for sex sake is something you can handle by yourself. Relationships take real commitment and emotions. Good luck. stay sweet!

Answer 8

There's no reason to "have sex like a man". All men don't have emotionless sex. Besides, it isn't safe to have sex with just anyone. You should do what you feel right about. Don't give in to peer pressure. Good luck. 2D

Answer 9

I think you should do whatever you're comfortable with. If that means dragging guys home and sleeping with them, picking up friends with benefits, whatever, do it.

Or don't. I'm guessing that you're at least interested in what your friend is telling you, considering that you're telling us about it.

Answer 10

that you are right: going out and having mindless sex will NOT help your future relationships.

Smart Lady.