I was talking to my friend and she said that she was gay. But even worse that she wants to go out with me! I know it is bad but I think I like her the same way. What do I tell my parents?
2007-07-17 13:11:09 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't tell your parents just yet until you explore and find out if you really are or not.
You might not be ready to hear what they have to say.
I wouldn't recommend you telling them unless you are sure. you could be bi.
2007-07-17 13:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by madina 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear!
If they are true Christian people then by Jesus' Word, if they can't try and help you, they will dissociate with you. It sounds awful, but if you understand what the bible says and how things are really suppose to be it would make sense.
You see, in part, Jesus did not come here to bring peace and make the world fill with rainbows and cash and lollipops.
He came here to proclaim His Good News, and live a good life in spite of our sin, and to be forgiven for those sins. To the Lord's Word if you were not of goodness (sinless) and a follower and believe in the faith and love of Christ, then you were a lost soul. He further said that if you would not believe and follow, that you were to be left to your own devices....and this, while cruel and harsh sounding does fit and make sense with everything that's in the bible.
People have a WAY skewed idea of what Jesus is and what evil is and what good is.
If you knew how things were you'd change your life....everyone would. I did....I continue to to try and live differently than I use to.....not that I was gay, but I had other crosses to bear.
Anyway, it's REALLY difficult. Most of the people that die, do not go to heaven. All the good that you see and hear about in this world is NOT necessarily God....and not all the bad that happens is necessarily Satan either. God permits 'bad' things, but for a reason, but it's not all God's doing.
It's way different than you think or believe probably.....dunno, but most people are under a very skewed outlook on what Jesus taught and what the bible says.
Yes, if you do not change, and they are true followers of Jesus, they can try and help you, but if you resist and can't go along with it, they will have to let you go.
Read Matthew, Mark, Luke, or John.
2007-07-17 13:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would date her in secret to find out if you are bisexual and not a lesbian and tell her that's what you want to do so you don't lead her on. Don't tell your parents until you are sure that your playing for the other team :). If or when you do just tell them that your a lesbian. Think about it like this the bible says that we shouldn't eat pork but we do anyway. They wrote that in the Bible because pork turned bad really quick with disease and killed people so pork was deemed unclean. Now days it is acceptable for Christians to eat pork. Homosexuality is perfectly normal I just wish Christians will abide by the law of love and deem it Christian like we do with accepting eating pork for survival. I wish you the best.
2007-07-17 13:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although most people do not approve of lesbian and gay couples, there is nothing wrong with it. Just be honest with your parents and tell them the truth without putting it off. If you wait, the situation will grow deeper and there will be more to explain when you finally tell them. They are going to find out no matter what, so just be honest with them from the start.
2007-07-17 13:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents know that 'Honesty is the best policy'. Come out clean, I'm sure they will accept you for who you are. Might be a shock at first, but if that's really you, then they can't really do much about it can't they? You're still their child whatever happens. They will always love you. Just make sure you are what you said you are before actually telling them and not only a phase you're going through due to the crowd you're hanging out with.
2007-07-17 13:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Pröƒé§§ôr♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Or, if you MUST come out of the closet you MUST feel them out first. How do they feel about Rosie, Ellen ( in her stage), etc. Mention that you have a friend that is gay. If they are dead set against it, then find a support group and some informative brochures and books. Give them the info when you drop the bomb. There is info out there for Christian parents also.
You may be suprised, they may be OK!
2007-07-17 13:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you are a grown woman and this is what will make you happy. Come on, for real? You don't know how to tell your parents how you feel, what you want in life and what makes you happy? Sometimes the hardest thing to do is face your parents but they should love you you for who you are, not who you fu*k. If you don't think they will understand right now than don't tell them. Gradually lead them on so like they think they figured it out all by themselves. Then come clean. LOL.
Good luck and take care.
2007-07-17 13:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by Skinny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents love you, just because they are christian and you are gay doesn't mean they will love you any less. They need to understand this is your decision and the way you are. Wait till the right time to tell them, a time when you feel its right. Maybe sit your mother down and explain to her how you are feeling. Allow her to understand. She might be shocked at first. Don't worry.
Good luck
2007-07-17 13:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by makeyourselfsick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow the instructions in Acts 2:38.
2007-07-17 13:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by The Voice of Reason 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit them down and tell them. If you feel like its the right time, tell them now. But if your a little confused figure things out, then talk to them. Their your parents, they might feel a little wierd about it, but they will get through it. I think its a good thing you want to tell your parents!!!
Good luck.
2007-07-17 13:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by Dalia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm hard, well i guess you are going to have to tell them someday and it is better to do it now than later where things can get worse but are you sure you might be gay..? well if you are then find the right time, to tell your parents when you feel confortable and they are in a good mood.. hope it helps but your ttheir daughter their are going to have to accept it one day and they love you very much hope it works out
2007-07-17 13:14:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋