am i too young?

Question

I am 20-yrs-old and my fiance is 22. we are very much in love and want to push up the wedding date, but some say we should wait a while b/c we are too young and dont know what love is. I disagree. I am a mother and my last relationship was 3yrs long. My fiance is more than ready yet the comments of our age continue. what do you think?

Answer 1

I grew up in the divorce generation. Everyone including my parents and my friends went through a divorce and it was hard on the kids. The common thread was the couple married young and they changed over the years (say 20 years.) and that when the troubles began.

Answer 2

Push it back not up. The longer you put of getting married the better you will know each other. The reason divorce is at a high percentage is because people get married and then realized, they made a mistake because that person isn't who they thought it was.

Don't be in a rush. Whats a little more time? Isn't marriage uppose to be forever anyway? make sure first.

Answer 3

Go Ahead if it is not meant to be then it is not meant to be. If you love each other dint let anyone influence the way you feel because of your age. You will sacrifice a little bit more than you would if you where in a boyfriend/ girlfriend set up but in the long run you will have a friend for life or one HELL of a learning experience

Answer 4

i think u guys should try living together i mean marriage is just a piece of paper then after u think u are ready or he is right guy then do it. then if the marriage goes down the hill get a divorce so many ppl are doing it these day it seems like a no big deal but remenber only marry him if YOU think is right dont force ur self or think about other ppls feelings caz is ur happiness and ur the one who has to live with him ! if u regret it it will be because u made that dicition not becaus eof other ppl forced u caz

Answer 5

well i think you should do it,i mean you have only one life,i dont honestly think its the smartest thing you could do,but if i were you i would do the same.
Now,im saying its not the smartest thing cause you really are too young.i mean you are in love and its great,but,trust me,it wont last forever.actually,it will last very short,you will see.and i dont think that after few years it will be a very happy marriage if its based only on love.
but,i still think you should do it and try to prove me wrong,i mean beauty of life is in taking risks and sometimes failing,but still doing what you feel is right.go for it,and later divorce if you must,but just do it or you will regret.dont think too much about things and dont listen to others,who cares if you make a mistake,life will go on!
good luck :)

Answer 6

Go see a marriage counselor. Seriously! You dont have to be married to see one, and they can definately give you both things to look at and discuss with each other that will ensure that you are both on the same page as far as what you both want out of marriage. If you can't afford one, try a local church, they are usually more than willing to offer advice.

Answer 7

If you think your ready then that's what counts. But understand that others are just concerned and want you to be sure before you make a commitment. Tell them that you really love this guy and that you know what you're getting into.

Answer 8

Dont let time dictate what you do. Do what you heart feel, you have to live you life not others. Advice is a poweful tool, but ultimately you and your fiance have to make the final decision.

Answer 9

Well if you are totally completely in love go for it. If you have small doubts wait a couple months but if you are madly in love do it. Good luck and follow your heart.

Answer 10

So you had a relationship from the ages of.....what? 15 to 18? 14 to 17? And you were SO mature that you got pregnant and then were SO mature that you thought raising that child yourself instead of finding a loving, 2-parent adoptive home for him/her was a good idea....and now you want to know if you're mature enough to get married?

Hmmmm