I am waiting till marriage and my bf has known this from the start. The other day however he said something to me about how his friends would give him grief if they knew he weren't "doing me"..
Well i really don't see the problem.. we do EVERYTHING but sex but he seems to be getting bored and i don't know how much longer he'll last. I know sex is very important to him (as it is a huge part of any relationship, i know this) which is why i try to be sensitive to his needs. Shouldn't he be satisfied without getting full blown intercourse? or no, am i just being unreasonable?
input?feedback?
thanks!!♥
2007-07-17 12:23:15 · 21 answers · asked by starryeyed 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't give into HIS friends - peer pressure is a terrible thing!
By going against your personal beliefs - you are letting him (AND his friends) win their stupid little game.
It is a sad truth - but many guys only care about sex. It's clear that his friends do - and I think he does as well. And truthfully, the fact that you are waiting might be seen as "The Ultimate Conquest" by a group of horny losers...
You are NOT being unreasonable - you made it PERFECTLY clear in the beginning, and he ACCEPTED that! If he won't let it go - then kick his @$$ to the curb. You deserve someone BETTER than that ;);););)
2007-07-17 12:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to have sex then don't. Period. Don't let him pressure you into something you're not ready for. If his friends are giving him grief about not "doing you" then they are also not respecting your decision. Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him that you don't like feeling pressured and that when he pressures you it makes you feel like he isn't happy in his relationship with you. If he understands this and backs off then keep going out with him , but he keeps throwing the "my friends think I'm lame" excuse then you need to get rid of him. He clearly doesn't respect you or your choices.
2007-07-17 19:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all good job girl ill give u some props waiting for marriage is the correct thing to do i am planning on doing dat myself! secondly your bf shouldn't be pressuring u into doing anything u dont want especially something like sex... if your bf really loves you he won't pressure... and NO you arent being unreasonable at all your doing the right thing! go right on with the way your handling things and if he doesn't like it dump the ***** you will find someone better!
2007-07-17 19:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Society in general has a way of making you think that if you haven't had intercourse you are a virgin but that is so far from the truth that it makes my head spin every time I hear one of you confuse yourselves with this BS. You do everything with him sexually except intercourse and you think you will get to marriage as white as new snow!? Don't kid yourself and worst of all don't fool him into thinking he is getting someone pure and innocent. Hell, you've done everything else! What's the difference with letting him get some kitty? Don't be such a hypocrite and give it up or cut him off, period. Pffft
2007-07-17 19:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by SexRexRx 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I respect your desicion and there is nothing wrong with waiting if your guy doaesnt understannd that and cares more about what his friends think than your descion then you have to tell him that he shouldnt care and that your not going to change something as huge as your beliefs for him to be able to impress his friends. He should be satisfied and if that is not enough he should see what it is like to lose u. Im waiting till marriage too so i understand. U rock!
2007-07-17 19:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Aurora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not give in to him. If he loved you, he would not press the whole thing. He shouldn't care what his friends think. You aren't being unreasonable at all. If he knew from the beginning, he obviously thought he'd be able to change your opinion and make you give it up.
2007-07-17 19:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I know how you feel. I also plan to wait til marriage and guys can't handle that. But don't give in to him just cuz you're afraid of losing him. He should respect your beliefs and if a guy really loves you he will wait forever if he has to:)
2007-07-17 19:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For starters is he trying to have sex with you because his mates will tease him if he doesnt, or he wants to solidify the relations. If you are concidering his proposal make sure its for the right reasons.
I know sex isnt the easiest topic to talk about but sitting down and talking to him about it might be a good idea. For some young men, sex is important to them (well to their *ahem* egos)
2007-07-17 19:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you that you are waiting until marriage. Although his needs are as important as yours, he should respect your wish to stay a virgin until after marriage. As for the thing with his friends, if he loves you, then he shouldn't care what his friends think.
2007-07-17 19:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of, I would like to thank you for waiting til marraige. That's what God had in plan for a man & a women. I know what temptation is, I'm not dumb, not oral sex, I would stop doing that, I thought you said you were going to wait?
2007-07-17 19:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋