I've been dating a guy for 4 months. Out of the blue he tells me that he doesn't have the "spark" for me required to take it to the next level. He still wants to see me though. I never asked to take it to another level. I never even pushed to meet his family or do anything like that.
I am the first girl he dated since his fiance left him pretty much at the alter- she cheated on him and dumped him a month before the wedding.
Other than giving him space, how do I take/handle this???
2007-07-17 12:03:42 · 10 answers · asked by Alex J 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im sorry bt i dont know how to help you.
2007-07-17 12:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry; what he's trying to say in a nice way that the attraction he has for you isn't super strong. He enjoys you but doesn't want to hurt you by thinking more can come of it.
On the other hand he's a jerk because he wants his cake and eat it too. Let me see, he wants to date you, have sex, but not have any serious commitment. Aren't you better than that?
Dump this guy. Take back control. Tell him if he doesn't see that anything can seriously happen between the two of you, that its pointless to continue. Be his friend and slowly distance yourself and move on.
He want's a bed buddy and a booty call, and a person to date if he cant' get a beauty queen model. Don't back down; he's a dog and you deserve better. If he thinks your not good enough to marry or be serious with, then your not good enough to date or have sex with either.
LOOK AT THE ACTIONS, NOT THE WORDS. You deserve a guy that will care about you and have a future with. Not a user. Good luck.
2007-07-17 19:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to count your blessings that you have not invested too much time in this relationship. It seems this guy is still mourning the end of his near marriage; and his involvement with you was to prove that he is still attractive to women and also on the rebound.I would suggest that you end any consideration of a romantic liaison with this guy .It is going to take a while for him to recuperate from his recent ordeal much less begin to form a new relationship. if you like him and must, then support him any way you can to deal with his emotional baggage. But for your own peace of mind and your own emotional well being, I say to give him a wide berth romantically.
2007-07-17 19:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make your time together romantic and fun that should put the spark back and then you have no problem. Also tell him that you are happy where you are in the relationship and werent trying to push him into the next level.
2007-07-17 19:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by Aurora 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hmmm...sounds kinda fishy to me. I would stay away and forget about him. He's probably messing with someone else to suddenly loose the "spark" for you. He has the cake and wants to eat it, too. Are you sure it was her that cheated on him or him that cheated on her?
2007-07-17 19:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by furious rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy him a beer, set up the game, and let it go. He's still getting over that chick, so he may not be interested NOW but LATER, like try a few weeks.
2007-07-17 19:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just give it time abviously he is still hurt after what had happened to him so he is going say that. Not only that you have been dating him for only 4months compared to his fiance who he has been with for more than that.
2007-07-17 19:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by Gabe G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him the same thing your askin us
2007-07-17 19:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by GARY M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just keep on doing what yall are doing and when he is ready he will tell you.
2007-07-17 19:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him their is no pressure,he will come around.If he doesn't move on.
2007-07-17 19:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by wayne 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋