I constantly fear the he may not like me or want to be with me anymore?

Question

I've been dating this guy for around 6 months now. I really love spending time with him, and I have fallen in love with him. I have a hard time seeing how he feels about me just because he's not as out in the open with his feelings. We once in a while will notice, and point out flaws in one another like most couples do. He's been getting closer to me in the past month, and has been making more of an effort to spend time with me. At the same time though, I have this crazy fear whenever he points out one of my flaws, he's not going to want to see me anymore (like he's not going to like me anymore). I also have the same thoughts whenever the idea of us getting more physical begins to arise. Are these fears irrational or common. I don't know why I'm constantly thinking he's going to say that he doesn't want to see me anymore.

Answer 1

No, pointing out flaws in one another is NOT normal.

Believe me, life will not be over if your relationship ended. Personally, I think you should end it and look for someone else. This guy is not for you. If he can't tell you how he feels, then he doesn't feel the same way you do. That's why you fear losing him. This guy is not looking for a permanent relationship--it's obvious. The idea of you "getting more physical?" Does that mean one of you wants to have sex and the other one doesn't? That's a sign---especially after 6 months---that this guy is not right for you.

Answer 2

You haven't mentioned your ages. From the tone of the writing I will assume you are both in your teens.

One of the best things you can do for the both of you,
is to spend some time apart, gaining personal confidence in
many areas of your life. Interact with others on your job, in clubs or activities, hanging-out just having fun.
So long as you are feeling so insecure emotionally, you're not
really ready to be paired-off in a couple's relationship.

For young people who date, counting the months as they pass by, there is an unwritten belief that just because time passes, so should the relationship become closer and more serious and more sexual. Don't fall for that.
Work on your own personhood and hang out with numerous people your age, doing things in groups. You are observing and learning and practicing how to relate to others through this whole time. You are learning what sort of person will most compliment your personality in the future. You are also learning and maturing in your own security in the person who you are and want to be.

I'd say back off - give it some time - have some fun, without all those relational stresses and fears. You're not ready yet.