If a 12 year old boy commits suicide in his parents home how much would you hold a parent responsible? I know you don't legally and I know you would comfort them and tell them its not their fault but in your own mind what would you really be thinking?
2007-07-17 11:27:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It really depends on the circumstances and may not always be something that the parents did or didn't do for the child. I have experienced a few friends commit suicide while I was in high school. One was over a break up with his girlfriend and the other was because he was picked on by kids at school. It's really hard to fault someone on a child committing suicide because typically there are no signs that they are about to do it and usually no one knows that they are having problems or thinking about doing it. Most people who do make threats of suicide are wanting the attention and are actually afraid of killing themselves and these are the ones who end up getting help because they were noticed.
2007-07-17 11:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd think - what could've made this kid think that this was the way to be painfree? i don't blame anyone. sure, there are times when a parent is a fault for various reasons but, most times, the parent hasn't got a clue b/c depressed persons have a real ability to hide it or, the parents have tried everything and it still doesn't work. we all do our best with our kids. sometimes though, it just isn't enough or isn't the right thing for that particular child. parenthood doesn't come with a manuel. there isn't one way to do things. i think it's truly sad that we live in a world where life can be a disposable thing and that kids actually think of suicide as an option.
2007-07-17 11:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by racer 51 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to assume that this is a true story, and that your question is legitimate. Forgive me for mentioning that, but there are a great many fake questions on this site, so if yours is one, please delete it. Please accept my condolences on the death of your friend. The answer to your question is, no, her death was not your fault. People who are so deeply troubled that they are willing to take their own lives to end their misery cannot easily be helped, as you know. The flip side of that is that they cannot be easily harmed, in the sense that you cannot plant an idea in someone's head to kill themselves, as though they have never considered it. It is entirely likely that she might have taken the pills even if you had begged her not to. Her own darkness was so immense that you were just a tiny candle. Whether you were a bright candle or whether you were snuffed out didn't really matter from her point of view. Mostly, she just saw darkness. I highly recommend you go to counseling. It may not be for very many sessions, but it is important that you talk to someone during this troubling time. You are quite likely to be going through a grief process, and would benefit from having someone to talk to during this time. Also, there is the question of your sense of guilt. Your question, "should I feel responsible for her death?" Is in one sense very easy to answer: there is no such thing as a feeling you should or should not have. Feelings aren't like that. You should feel whatever you feel. But what you're really asking is whether you should blame yourself. You shouldn't, but you probably are. And that's another good reason to talk to a counselor. Good luck.
2016-05-20 22:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would definatly have questions. but i still don't think it's there fault, because in the end it's the persons choice to live or die. no matter how bad it is, there is always a way out besides death. being mad at the parents all depends on the curcomstances. if they were really bad parents i would be mad at them for that. i would be mad that they didn't help, and that they my have pushed him toward it, and that he didn't enjoy the time he was actuallly here. but i wouldn't blame them for the actual suicide, because like i said it is the persons choice. you never have to choice death.
2007-07-17 11:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't blame it on the parents for suicide. In all honesty, if the child takes his own life, I suppose it would be his fault, but it really depends on the circumstances leading up to the suicide.
2007-07-17 12:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldent blame it on the parents. I would think if there was anything happening at school. or if there was anything going on with the family. if he really felt bad. he probley dident want to feel so bad in side. I know how that feels. feeling bad inside feeling like noone wants you or feeling that youll never see light again is the worse feeling ever. I lost my mom so i did think of suiside once its nobudys falt it's what the person feels inside.
2007-07-17 12:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fault is on the person committing suicide.
2007-07-17 11:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by patriciaannbee 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
If the parents abused him or treated him badly and that's what made him want to commit suicide, then that is the only way it would be the parents' fault. Or if the kid showed clear signs that he was suicidal and they just ignored it. If either of these things were the case then I would be extremely angry at the parents.
But there are a lot of reasons other than parents that kids commit suicide and sometimes they don't show any clear signs of being depressed. Sometimes kids are bullied at school but they keep it from their parents and put on a happy face. In that case, I'd feel really sorry for the parents because it must be devastating for them, and again, it wasn't their fault.
2014-07-21 12:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Hannah 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the situation but i think it would be nobodys fault
2007-07-17 11:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by ??????????? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How tragic! It all depends on the specfic circumstances.
2007-07-17 11:31:18 · answer #10 · answered by Maggie F 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋