Why is life so f***ing crap?

Question

life is rubbish but I keep on living it for some strange reason.Iam suacidal and have been for 8 months,my parents are divorced,I am in thearipy,My boyfriend dumped me.Iam a good person that gets bad things happen to them and then I get so upset about it so then other people see my emotional crises and judge me then hate me! why is life so crap and by the way don't judge me please coz if u don't u will have the right 2 b the 1st person who hasn't!

Answer 1

Woah, slow down.

I tell you sweetie I can feel the anguish in your words, so slow down, calm down, take a deep breath.

Firstly, if you are having suicidal feelings then I suggest to speak to your GP, there are medications and therapy treatments that will help you, that may be different to the therapy you are having at the moment.

Ok, so why is life so crap?

It's not, people are crap sometimes. Honey, some people do not know how to respond to someone in crisis, they then shut down, this is in fact their problem, not yours.

Bad things happen to good people, that is a fact of life.

It will get better, I can't promise you that it will be tomorrow, but at some point that black clouds drift away and the sun pokes it's nose through just long enough for you to realise that life is worth it.

It may sound silly, but have you ever stopped to smell the flowers? I mean really, go for a walk and stop to smell the flowers, take time to look around you, look at the trees, the grass, notice the birds. Actually the act of walking is very therapeutic and it has been said that 'greenery' contain natural anti-depressant properties. Find yourself a quiet 'secret' spot to sit, take a pen and paper, and write out your feelings, write letters to the people that have hurts you, then tear it up, screw it up and rip it to shreds, then you throw it away. You see by doing that you are destroying the bad feelings, allow yourself to smile as you are doing this and really tear the paper.

Let yourself cry, get yourself a blanket and a bear, listen to the music that moves you and let yourself cry, scream if you have to.

No one has a right to judge you, they are not you, they don't have your feelings, they haven't lived your life. Honey please be honest with your therapist about your feelings right now and believe me I know how hard that is, write it if you have to.

I hope you find a brighter day, everyone deserves and has a right to peace and happiness.

Answer 2

Please please please don't think this way!!!!!
You're young - life DOES get better.
Just remember that even though your boyfriend has dumped you - it has made you wiser about men - and after all - if you don't experience the bad relationships in life then you can't appreciate the good ones.
We've all been dumped at some point - you will get through it.
As for your parents - yours are divorced - mine passed away when I was 30.
I'm sure you aren't hated - that's a very strong emotion. Even people that I've argued with in the past, I don't hate!

Please tell someone who's close to you how you really feel .... No-one would want to see you dead! It's such a waste ... and I'm talking as a mother here ... It would break my heart to think that the little girl I had brought into the world was so sad that she killed herself.

Best of luck,
Bev x

Answer 3

I think a lot of it depends on a person's attitude. With a negative attitude, people can't see the good things in their lives. There has to be something in your life that you can count as a blessing. You need to understand that life happens. A lot of people have divorced parents and relationships that end. There's probably a better guy out there for you anyway. I just found out I have breast cancer. I'm not letting it get me down. (It's not uncommon, you know). In fact, I can see many positive things that can come out of this trial in my life. It could possibly be the best thing that's ever happened to me.

Answer 4

My life was once crap too. My parents got divorced and I felt like I didn't know who I was anymore. I know what it feels like to feel like you do.

Don't worry about people that hate you. You have to hate something in yourself to hate others. You don't have to feel that way. People that hate are shallow and angry. The heck with them.

Go to the library and tell the librarian you would like to read a book about beauty and truth, a book that will help you feel better about yourself. Reading is an amazing way to get out of a bad place and take your mind to a better one. The librarian will make a good choice, I know it and it will help.

I promise you, everyone has bad times. If you think about how you can feel better you are one step toward getting there.

Take a good book go to a quiet safe place away from people that make you feel bad and read and relax. A place where there are trees and grass is always good.

No one has the right to judge anyone? Who do they think they are, God? Don't worry about what others think. You'll get another boyfriend when you are ready but don't dwell on that now.

You'll be fine. Just remember that you can make things better if you just get through the bad, sad times. Like I said I've been there. And get that book!

Hit my profile link and e-mail me if you want to to talk to a friendly soul. I don't know you but there are people out there that care. I'm not the only one, I'm sure but I don't like to see young people like you depressed.

There is a great life ahead of you if you just remember that it is yours to make for yourself.

Answer 5

Firstly, life is what you make of it, and only you can turn your life around. I do agree with you that bad **** happens to good people, but rather than wallow in it and feel sorry for yourself, you have to put it behind you and get on with your life. It's how you deal with it that really matters.

I am also a very emotional person, and take things to heart. I am very sensitive and get hurt very easily - for things that other people consider to be irrelevant. And yes, others have seen me in a fit of emotion/anger, but anyone who is worth having in my life realise that I am stressed out about something, and I am taking it out on the wrong people. However, unlike yourself, I enjoy life to the max. What's the point of being miserable/letting people upset you? Don't let others drag you down.

I'm a great believer that everything happens for a reason, and it is these experiences that make you a stronger person.

Answer 6

Life is what you make it. Everybody goes through shitty times, My parents are divorced (wasnt a nice time in my life) but its all part off life, It isnt always going to be Sunsine and roses. If this has been a long term issue (being depressed) I would go and see a doctor, they can give you tablets, Apart from that I dont know what else to suggest!

Yesturday is history, Today is the presant thats why we call it a presant and tomorrow is a mistery!!

Answer 7

You are not a puppet that can be pulled around as "life" dictates. Take control of your strings and start to control your life. How do you know that people hate you? Im sure most of that is imagined. Keep up with the therapy, it can really help.
I am not judging you, just trying to help. Good luck

Answer 8

I think people judge others, because they don't like themselves. Someone who would tell you to go on and die, they need serious help themselves. sick!! Finding a good support group may help. Their is a great one called celebrate recovery that a lot of churches have. There, people would be very kind and open. Believe me you are not the only person who feels the way you do. My husband says life is crap everyday. It frustrates me when he says it, because I think of our family we have, how he should be grateful we have food a roof over heads etc.... Focus on the blessings you have.

Answer 9

Life used to be crap for me too. After nearly five years of useless doctors and medications plus a couple of suicide attempts, a friend helped me out of my rut. Read my story, and you'll see that there is light at the end of the tunnel... you just have to go to it. It's not an easy journey, because it requires that you re-learn how to think... probably the hardest task I've ever had to take on in my life... but it is totally do-able. My story: http://www.geocities.com/seabulls69/AntidepressantThatWorks.html

Answer 10

People are just biotches thats why they judge. Im in a simular position but im gay so it's just as hard. Just say fu** you to the people who hate you for no reason you don't want to be around that type anyways. Your just having some bad luck but hopefully soetime soon you get a break and things will look up. Good luck and keep your head up.