Specifically for Sugar Lilly - Apology totally accepted and anyone else too for that matter.?

Question

Yes. I do have a boyfriend. My boyfriend and her friend (whom is married) are best friends. She is a great person and is only attracted to the things that he does for her and he does things for her to keep her on the side - feel me? She does not go for just anything and everything. She feels that the other men she has dated does not compare to what he does and how he makes her feel. I've told her time and time again that she is wrong. I've told her that she is an adulterer, and she was right telling me she was not. But, the factor still remains that she is a sinner. But, she thinks that God will forgive her before he forgives him. Helz, I don't know where she got that from. I trust her totally around anybody I've been with - we have been friends for over 15 years - we don't get down like that. I don't keep company like that. I trust her with my life. This man's wife is a BLACKBELT and will kill her with her hands and feet - feel me? I need her to know that majority rules with me.

Answer 1

Don't play the god card, geeze how old are you? Havn't you experience the world enough to see that its colorful not black and white, that just creats a misconception about the nature of action, namly that things can be bad or good, nice, simple, but frankly very immature. See the world is about creation and destruction, not near as simple becuase here we can make "worthless" things, and destroy "priceless" things, but the factor still remains that without a purpose it doesn't matter. Which is were you two are at. I like how you guys hung on to each other for so long, but for what? So you could redicule? So you can watch each other make mistakes? I have my own friendships so I'm not blamless but I accept my play in them, that in the end the people that ever fail in any relationship is everyone envovled. But enough of the havey crap your friend is out still searching for happiness, (you darn catholics, and your darn fun and happiness) she'll never really find it, its peace we search for, but her search for happiness well stir her down alot of roads, the one now is romance. The hope that she'll be able to love herself, be loved, not just for the now, but the forever. Ether way I say this because its better for the two of you if you realize how little choice she has. See you see lots of choices for her to do better, to find her happiness, but she doesn't do them because quite frankly we don't know truly how people feel about themselves, their actions thou give us a good idea. She likes this man most likly because of the short commings, not despite them. Also if she wins him, as far as she is concern she wins her happiness, for the long run. And she'll do what she can to satisfy that fantasy, that hope, and unless you can give her a better brighter light friend, don't blame her alone.... prideful hunnie. ;) were all to blame thou.....