My daughter is walking me down the isle in our upcoming wedding. I'm trying to find something different to give her as a gift besides the traditional "locket", "jewelry box", or "engraved frames". We want something that will pull in the symbolism of us becoming a family. She'll also be 13 by the wedding, so it can't be anything juvenile like a teddy bear or doll.
We've been shopping for our wedding bands, & are still undecided on a set since we are not really big into jewelry.
BUT, we've seen some really pretty 3-pc sets that we both really liked the bands. However "we" don't need the engagement ring.
FYI-The sets I'm talking about have the REALLY SMALL engagement rings, w/diamond CHIPS set in illusion settings--NOTHING fancy! LOL
IF we were to purchase one of these sets, what do you think about giving her the "engagement" ring as our gift?
We thought w/it matching & actually being PART of OUR set, it would have the symbolism we wanted for her gift.
What do you think?
2007-07-17 10:20:57 · 18 answers · asked by secret_oktober_girl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i have a friend who did something to what you are talking about. the groom was not the child's birth father. he said he was marrying into their family and he bought the child a ring as well. we all thought it was a very sweet gesture. (the kids real dad is a dead beat so we were all for this lovely gesture).
2007-07-17 10:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was at a reception,(couple eloped far away) where the groom gave a ring to his new step- daughter. It made everyone tear up because his speech was similar to a "will you marry me " but ya know " will you be my daughter". It was aw some. Another couple I know did something unique with her 2 boys. Instead of a unity candle they each had a small vase of colored sand and at the same time they poured their color of sand into a large vase to signify the coming together of the family. It was neat as well. I really like your idea of giving her a ring, especially if it does not look like an engagement ring.
2007-07-17 17:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a lovely idea. Some friends of ours got married a few years ago, and they did a similar thing with her son from a previous relationship. They not only exchanged rings amongst the three of them, but also included wording in their vows that expressed their promise to be a family together. I think it's a great idea!
2007-07-17 17:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I are going to get my daughter one of those Family Medallions - sort of three rings interlocked together that you see in the back of all the bridal magazines. I think it's something personal, and she is also going to light the unity candle with us.
I think it's great she's walking you down the aisle! What a great way to include her. Mine's going to be in the wedding party as a junior bridesmaid.
Good luck!
2007-07-17 20:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by naya45342 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be great to give her a "family" ring or pendant. Have the ring or pendant set with the birth stone for each of you symbolizing that all of you are getting married to each other as a family. And that would be like her wedding band.
2007-07-17 18:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by seachelle38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a cool idea. And your daughter will never take it off, as it would be just as special as yours! If you don't want to do jewelry, I've seen the family unity sand ceremony instead of candles to include their child. White sand for the bride, black sand for the groom, & the child can pick any color, they are poured together in a large vase & blends beautifully. They've got it on their mantel & reminds them every day they are a family.
2007-07-17 17:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think this is a great idea - it gives the symbolism of the 3 of you becoming 1 family.
2007-07-17 17:29:51 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Sarah K ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ring idea is sweet. But if u have an heirloom piece, such as ur mom or grandmother's engagement/wedding ring...use this. Something that holds sentimental value to ur family and something that can continued to be passed down to other generations.
2007-07-17 17:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by mrsprincess07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a lovely idea. A ring is very grown-up, which is important to a thirteen-year-old. And having her own symbol that comes from the same set as yours...yeah, she's going to love this.
2007-07-17 17:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends did a ring exchange that included her daughter. I think she was like 9 at the time. It was a very beautiful ceremony. The groom called her up to the alter after he had done his vows with her mom and gave his own vows of beign a dad to her..
2007-07-17 17:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋