When you become a born again christian, do you lose certain parts of your memory? More specifically, the parts that have to do with the harm you caused others? Or is it that you feel completely forgiven so there is no need to revisit those things even if it would help a person you hurt to heal? I only ask because the person who molested me as a child is a born again christian and it seems they have no recolection of the things they did. They continue to send me letters telling me how much they love me and how much the Lord loves them! I would really like to know if this is a common occurance. Please help me to understand this better so I can quit taking it to heart and allowing it to hurt me! Thanks.
2007-07-17 10:14:53 · 16 answers · asked by NONAME 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If anything, the sins of the past become as they really are. All the wrong I've done before I was a christian I used to hide or rationalize. Once I became a Christian I had to face the truth that I am not a good person at all. I thank God He saved me from my sins.
The person that did this to you remembers. They remember so much they are trying to reconcile with you because it haunts them. They are forgiven, but they still bear the consequences of breaking you your spirit; i am sorry.
2007-07-17 10:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by Nicholas K 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The issue is not the person who molested you, it's you. You need counseling. I'm not saying you're nuts or a mental case. Everyone needs counseling sometimes. It may be a $100 a hour therapist or just a close friend. But you need to deal with your feelings. This may, before it's over, include confronting the person. If it does, do so with a neutral, third party so the situation will not get out of control. Your thoughts about this person remembering or not only fuels your problem.
2007-07-17 10:27:08 · answer #2 · answered by starfishltd 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of that. I don't believe the two are connected.
However, it's entirely possible that HE has personally blocked out the memory. Some people do that, regardless of religion.
Or he could be lying.
I'm sorry that happened to you. I also had a...bad experience with a "born-again Christian" when I was a child.
2007-07-17 10:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not common. While most born again Christians feel forgiven or at least know that they are forgiven, they still remember the sins that they committed. That is because sin still has consequences on earth even when we are saved. The Bible teaches that if we have wronged our brother, we go make amends with our brother before we bring our offering to God.
I do not want to judge the man you speak of- maybe God really has removed his memory- but I have never heard of it happening before. It sounds like he is using God to keep himself from accepting responsibiltiy for his actions.
I hope you know that God loves you, and He loves that man too.
2007-07-17 10:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's not a true born again. All those I know are very willinging to make ammends and acknowedge the hurt that was caused, even the smallest "sins".
Don't read the letters and realize this person has serious issues.
2007-07-17 10:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by burbam2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my goodness! i am so sorry for what you must be going through. When i became a Christian i didn't forget the sins i did from before. I still mess up now sometimes and i don't forget those either. Man, he acts like nothing happened? I mean, we are forgiven for our sins, but sometimes we still have to deal with the consequences of our sins...
2007-07-17 10:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by Romans1:16!! 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That person may claim to be born again but I feel certain that if they in fact did molest you, they remember it. They may be in denial but they will have it slapped in their face when they open the book of life and see what they have done especially if they ignore their sin. God will for give them if they confess their sin, but it does not erase history or their memory. Jesus said, that if you hurt a child, you may as well have a mill stone tied around you neck and thrown into the sea. This act will haunt them. Let us pray that he can forgive himself.
Here is something for you to think about. Jesus said that if you cannot forgive someone, then you will not be forgive for your sins as well. This was why he ask his father to forgive those who were torturing him on the cross in his dieing words. He lived by his words he taught. Can you forgive this person. If you can let it go and ask for his forgiveness, you will be forgive for something you did wrong. You don't have to forget it because you learned from it, but you can forgive if you choose to. Hating and not forgiving is only wearing on your soul. Give him to God would be my advice. Be greater than he. For greater is He that is within you than he that is in the world. You can't change the past but you can change your future with the Love God gave you to forgive this wretch.
So Be it! Rev. TomCat
2007-07-17 10:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by Rev. TomCat 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
in no way. Jehovah's Witnesses take their queue from the Watchtower. Now some will say its in straightforward terms a publishing company, as concept it has no authority over what they have faith. Ask any jehovah witness who ever went against what the Watchower Bible and Tract Society advised them what to have faith, annd see what the outcomes have been.
2016-09-30 05:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by raj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds seriously sick to me. This person at best needs help, and at worst may be trying to use his/her "born again" status to continue to embed him/herself into your life in a very unhealthy way.
You are under absolutely NO obligation to have contact with this person, regardless of how 'religious' they claim to be, your feelings about religion, or whether you can forgive them or not.
Cut all contact. Don't let this person into your life.
2007-07-17 10:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by TLH 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think yes you know you are forgiven but you still need to repent. it may be they have blocked it all from their mind but it is you who needs to forgive them in order to save yourself. you can bring it up with them if you like or write and say you are still hurting and would rather they did not contact you.
2007-07-17 10:21:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋