I’m 15 years old and I broke up with my boyfriend (who is also 15 years old )because I just didn't want to be an a relationship anymore. so when I told him that he got really mad and came to my house, so I let him in and he refused to leave. I asked him many times to leave but he wouldn’t. then he slapped, punched and threw me across my kitchen and I landed hard on my head. The police was contacted and both families got involved and now I am forbidden to have any contact with him. is it wrong for me to still love him?
2007-07-17 10:12:29 · 60 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my parents went to his house and talked to his parents about what happened me and my ex were both present while they talked . he cried and said how he was sorry he was very sincere about it. he also agreed to pay for my cell phone which he broke out of anger.
2007-07-17 10:14:11 · update #1
Its not unusual for your to care for him or still love him. After all, real love is still there, even in the face of unfortunate circumstances such as this.
However, it is still a good thing that you found out early what this guy is like. He may have been sincere when he appologized, but this guy is out of control, and if it happened once, it WILL happen again if you get back together.
This guy needs professional counseling. It is NOT normal for anyone to be physically abusive like this. If he cant control his emotions now, just wait til he marries someone, (even you), you might wind up dead.
I'll be quite honest with you. If this were my son; I'd do the same thing to him when i got him home and ask him how he liked it??? I myself am not abusive in any way, but people need to understand physical violence is no answer to any situation.
You may love him, but you need to keep away from him since he is prone to violence. Your life depends on it and you deserve better.
Take care and good luck.
2007-07-17 10:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by Daniel R. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are ALWAYS sincere when they tell you how sorry they are!!!! No it's not "wrong" to still love him, it's sometimes very hard to turn your feelings off, but in this case, it would be the best thing you can do. Go on line and look up violence between couples, age does not matter here, and once someone has beat the person they "love" they will hit them again and you have to care more about YOU than you do HIM! He is not the only boyfriend that you will ever have, but if you stay with him he could be the last. Get out, and move on.
2007-07-17 10:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by JazzyLynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your head and heart sometimes don't communicate too well. You have to realize this is a bad relationship. It will not get any better. People who are violet once will be violet again, and next time maybe more than your cell phone will break.
Is it wrong to still love him? Your heart may say no, but you have to think with your head and stay away from him. You will get over it eventually. Make sure he is completely out of your life. Oh, and listen you what your parents say, they want what's best for you.
2007-07-17 10:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by thomas m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth of the matter is that he shouldn't have overreacted in that fashion. Life is life and you guys are both 15, there will be plenty of other people that you will meet and you'll grow out of love with this guy. Look, my previous ex-girlfriend left me for booze, drugs, and a fat-a**, and I loved her until just a few months ago and I found someone better. So trust me when I say its going to hurt for a little while but the pain on the inside for a little while is much better than the pain on the outside for a lifetime.
2007-07-17 10:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by Chix E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you for still loving him? No man(or in his case, a boy) should ever beat his girlfriend or wife. That is so wrong on so many levels. How can you seriously still have feelings for someone who obviously doesn't care for you anymore to have gone to such extent as to beat you? Its girls like you who keeps coming back to the same old habit of wanting love where love doesn't exist. Can't you see that once he beats you, he will never change and he might do that again in the future if you two are to fight. Forget about him and start looking for someone who will truly love you and will never lay a hand on you in that way. You deserved better.
2007-07-17 10:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by Version_Best 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are certain rules that are set in stone ever since we where little. YOU DO NOT EVER HIT A WOMAN. No matter how angry she makes you, it is no excuse. If it was a slap, I could understand out of the heat of the moment, it slipped, etc… but to go and throw you and punch you. that’s wrong in many ways. I understand u still love him but you need to leave him and not ever think of going back. Think of what could happen the next time you make him mad. Think even if you make it for a while and you have kids, you will be putting your kids in danger because of his lack of self control. Don’t put yourself in a victim’s situation and move on. There are many guys out there that will make you happy and will respect you
2007-07-17 10:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by vic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they were right to make sure you have no contact with him. No offense but if he hit you once he's going to do it again so you were right to break up with him. If he loved you then he wouldn't have done that. You can bring him to court if you want to for physical abuse because by the sounds of it that's where he needs to end up. You will find the right guy eventually but that guy just isn't what you want, trust me. And your safety is FAR more important then this guy could ever be in your life. You also say that he started crying when your parent went over to have a little chat with his, he was proably just being a jerk and acting so he wouldn't get into serious amounts of trouble. And I think that he SHOULD cry for what he did to you.He should cry until he's blind for doing that to you. Plus personal items such as cellular phones aren't going to make up for his stupidness.
2007-07-17 10:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by pinkjunebug7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control how you love someone you just do but don't take him back for one second. If your ex got mad at you for breaking up and he hit and damage your body then he doesn't really love you no matter what he says. He let his emotions control him and he hurt you. Once a women beater always a women beater regardless of their cycle weather he says he will never do it again. There was something inside of him that he can't control and don't let his gifts such as paying for your phone make-up for what he did. You have parents that can replace your phone for you. I was once in your shoes when I was 15 so I know how you feel.
2007-07-17 11:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone or something you treat it with care and respect. You handle it as if it were delicate never wanting to cause it harm or distress.
Ask yourself...is this love that he is displaying?
When ever you are emotionally connected to someone it takes time for those feelings to fade. But do not be fooled into believing that he will never do it again. He needs help and if his family does not get him help then you should stay away no matter how much you love him.
It's ok to have feelings for him. They will fade. He hurt you and that is the bottom line. You could have hit your head and died.
2007-07-17 10:19:59 · answer #9 · answered by nappyhdfatgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong at all but you shouldn't try to get back with him.Somewhere along the line he saw someone take their anger out just like he did on you. You can love him but don't confuse it for feeling sorry for him and giving him another chance. If you let this trail on it could be alot worse down the road.Best of luck
2007-07-17 10:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by blueradiating 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋