My daughter (27 months) is very stubborn and has been going back and forth on the potty for months now. She will do real good with no accidents for a few days, then go back to having accidents during the next few days. I've tried everything! She doesn't seem to care at all about rewards, she doesn't care if I tell her it's gross to go in your pants, she wants to go only when SHE wants, not when we try to get her to go. She will just sit and sit and not do anything. And NO, we do not scold her or get mad at her. We simply tell her to try to make it to the potty next time whenever she has an accident. Those Easy-Ups are what got her to go from the start because I told her Dora doesn't want to get wet. That only worked for a short time, then she suddenly didn't care anymore. The panties don't work because then she tries to hold it as long as she can and that isn't good either. What do I do? And don't tell me she isn't ready because SHE is the one that wanted to do it in the first place.
2007-07-17 10:02:38 · 11 answers · asked by ticktock 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It sounds like it may be turning into a power struggle. And just because she had interest in the potty at first doesn't mean that her body is ready. My daughter went back and forth with potty success for awhile. Finally I just backed off, went back to diapers for a few months, and when we re-introduced the potty, everything went smoothly. Sometimes you just need to take a break to diffuse the tension that has built up around the issue. She's still pretty young, so you don't have to worry that taking a couple months off will prevent her from going to school or anything.
2007-07-17 10:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by Monika 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Remind her that if she wanted to do it in the first place she should stick with one thing. It is okay to wet your pants every once and a while at her age but she needs to start learning how to use the potty constantly. Make it seem fun to start using the washroom and 'unfunny' to erm, not use the potty. Or you could ask her why she doesn't use the potty all the time or why she doesn't care. You can tell her that grown ups use the potty all the time and she needs to keep doing it. Try looking at it from her perspective. Ask questions to help see why she does not want to or will not use the washroom constantly.
2007-07-17 10:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well even though she is the one that wanted to, doesn't mean she was ready or completely ready. 27 months is still very young. Think about it, thats just over two years old, she has spent all this time in diapers and now rushing out of them. I agree with Monika and you probably need to take a break and put her back in diapers which I see nothing wrong with taking a step back. When you start back I would suggest cloth diapers and plastic pants. When mine were ready, I changed from disposable diapers to cloth diapers for about a week, then changed to the thick underwear and plastic pants and after a little over two weeks he was in just the thick underwear. It sounds like you are very frustrated but step back and take a deep breath, its okay, she wont be in diapers or wetting herself forever. Let her go at her own pace.
2007-07-17 12:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by xxxxxxxxxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there an older girl around her? Like a cousin or somebody that she looks up to? If there is, point out how that girl always goes to the potty. She'll want to be just like her. I have 7 kids, but one of my girls was very stubborn, and that was the only thing that worked really well for her. The others it generally was just having more patience than them, not giving up. Definately don't go back to diapers. That's too much like giving in. Keep the pull-ups for nighttime use and if you're taking her out for a long while. She'll get fed up with the discomfort of messing on herself all on her own. Don't punish her, that'll just make her feel bad about herself.
For my son, putting one of those childsized seats on the big toilet worked alot better than the potty. He wanted to do it like we were, and the potty was just too babyish. Maybe that will help.
2007-07-17 11:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stubborn, huh?
What sort of incentives are you offering? M&Ms worked best for my kids (3-4 pieces). Encourage her to sit on the pot for the dirty or even for #1 by offering her a new book that she can't read anywhere except when she's sitting on the potty.
Sounds to me that Ms. Stubborn is trying to exert some kind of power in her life. Mom decides this, Dad says no, but you can't make me go to the RR unless I want to. And I don't know how to cure that.
You're doing a good job, mom. You're doing everything right, by the book. You've just got a difficult kiddo, and one day soon she'll make up her mind she wants to be a big girl, and she will.
2007-07-17 10:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
make it a laugh since he is a boy it is going to be effortless. Get a few affordable cereal and throw a few within the potty and (in case you have one other boy within the residence or your husband it might study a bit of simpler. Use them to instruct him to try on the cereal and move)If theres no different male is within the residence then inform him to preserve his individual and intention to pee at the cereal. Let him understand he most effective does this within the potty no wherein else! Most boys just like the proposal of stuff like that. Another factor is get him lingerie with the gap within the entrance. My buddy had a son and educated him like that. He appreciated the proposal he can simply pull it out and move instead then pull down his pants and pull them again up. If he has an coincidence make HIM blank the mess and difference himself. That method he learns that its simpler to move within the potty then on himself. Same with giong within the daiper. Turn off the TV and no toys whilst you difference him. Make it dull and time ingesting for him.
2016-09-05 15:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by willock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose the pull ups and switch over to cloth training pants in the day time.
save the pull ups for night time only.
when ever ANYBODY in your home goes potty she needs to go too.
once she gets moody and wets the cloth pants she well see that she does not like it and start running to the potty faster and more often.
2007-07-17 10:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by twisten 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start punishing her. You don't have to get aggressive about it but like send her to her room, put her in the corner, take away a priviledge that she likes a lot. And buy a bunch of candy and when she uses it give her that. There's got to be good and bad consequences. That way she'll learn that with what ever action she makes it will effect her. If she doesn't think anything will happen when she doesn't use the toilet then there is no reason why she should use it. And she knows that.
2007-07-17 10:13:25 · answer #8 · answered by MissTT 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You taught her a habit when you didn't train her at age 6 to 12 months. Now you both pay the price for that. ~
2007-07-17 10:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well obviously she isnt ready. Kids see you doing things and want to mimic you, but if her interest has left, dont push her. She is still very young.
2007-07-17 10:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by curiousangel73 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋