I am 22, married with a baby and my mom thinks she is in control of my house. She only came to visit but she's here till September. I ask her not to rummage through my things and she does. I ask her not to speak to my husband a certain way and she does. I ask her to relax and stop cleaning and she goes beserk. I know with the cleaning she is trying to help, but antagonizing my husband (although we are currently separated) and I is doing nothing good for me. I try to alk to her but since she is my MOTHER she feels she don't have to listen to anything I say. And It's my house?
2007-07-17 09:59:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like mum being around, even though she is trying to help, is just stressing you out and in your situation I would ask her to go. That way you can concentrate on your baby and your husband will be able to be a parent to the child as well. And who knows, without her around, there may be a chance for you and your husband to work things out, if thats what you both want.
2007-07-17 17:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit your mother down. Tell her that you need to tell her something and you want her to take it seriously. Tell her that it's your house and that you'd appreacate if she let you do all the work. Explain to her since your married and you have a child, your not a baby any more. You need your space. If she says "I'm your mother" say "I know you are, but this is my house. Don't mess with my things. I'm not a baby anymore, I can do it. Even though my husband and I are seperated at the moment, don't bug him. We need to deal with this." If she still proceeds, find a way to get her to leave early.
2007-07-17 17:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmine 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your mom doesn't think you know what your doing and she's going to make damn sure she does whatever it is for you to make sure it's done right. even if only in her mind. that includes your husband and marriage issues. it's time to sit her down and tell her straight that you love her but, if she can't be respectful and keep her opinions to herself then she can go home. i know it's hard to do. the idea of telling our folks that they're wrong is a little unsettling but, you know you have to do it. just bite the bullet and do it. yea, she'll be ticked off or a little hurt but, she'll realize you're right.
2007-07-17 18:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you are a grown woman with my own place. Speak up. Remember in this world there is annoying people but they have to respect you too. Those annoying poeple are someones mother or father. I have seen childreen more mature than they parents.
2007-07-17 17:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by LIZA 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then you have to make her stop,girl gets some back bone. Please I'am not telling you to disrespect your mother,but she needs to know that you're in control of your situation and not her.Sit her down tell her she have to leave early than she wants to, if she doesn't abide by your rules.
2007-07-17 17:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by sharon j 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that it was the same when you lived with her but bow it is "My house My rules." Tell her that she will have to find another place to stay if she can't respect your wishes.
2007-07-17 17:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
first of all never forgt that she's you're mom.she cares for you.
all you gotta do is to gather your hubby ,mom and talk to them all politely,so as she may not be hurt .say t your mom all that you have on your heart then forgive her for having hurt you ,in her mind she thinks thats its her duty to help you .as for her talking with your husband just explain to her that she's got to change her ways and why she gotta do it.do not mention that she is in your house this will hurt her.
2007-07-17 18:03:32 · answer #7 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is probably best to ask her to leave if she cant respect your wishes. Don't yell or scream just tell her politely.
2007-07-17 17:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit her down and explain you don't like the things she does and you are a big girl now and you need to do things on your own
2007-07-17 18:22:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋