they have a family history of depression in thier family or another genetic illness? and you are worried...has it ever happened b4 to anyone?
PS its not me...its someone else and it hurts to see it happen to someone i know.
2007-07-17 09:38:06 · 14 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what if u cared for them sooooo much, you wouldnt right? coz then you'd be said to loving them and if u loved them...you wouldnt hurt them and leave them.
2007-07-17 09:45:23 · update #1
That is a tough thing to do, the disease only has a slight inheritance rate. If they don't show any of the same traits, I think you should not discriminate.
2007-07-17 09:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If my family had a family history of mental illnesses, and someone I was interested in had a similar history, I would think long and hard before I pursued them, because it's a big deal, in my opinion. I plan on having children, and I want them to have as many advantages as possible.
2007-07-17 09:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by mury902 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether the illness is treatable or not. If it's treatable, then the answer is easier (to stay with them). However, if it's an incurable disease, then it's another story. (I once loved someone who saw his dad and brother suffer and die from a genetic disease. While I was willing to stay with him, he was afraid that he'd ruin my life so ended the relationship. So, in a way, the decision was made for me.)
It's tough to judge someone's decision whether to stay or go -- especially in a situation where the other person carries/suffers from a genetic disease and, therefore, has no control over their fate. I feel for your friend and hope that he/she makes a decision that he/she will be happy with.
2007-07-17 09:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on the situation, let me use a personal situation for example; one of my best friends was interested in me at one point, and most of his family have severe mental issues (including him) theres a lot of schizophrenia in his family and not just assumed but documented so i decided that getting involved with him would not be the best idea for me. I guess this isn't really advice, but my example. Who ever this is needs to make the decision themselves.
2007-07-17 10:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them to stop worrying.
pray about it because prayer does
change things. If couples
are truly rooted in God there
is no mountain that u can't climb.
that is wrong because u can' judge a person
based on something that the have no control over.
2007-07-17 09:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel it's right at all. This is going into Mengele territory really.
Having suffered from depression previously, I know that bit of it's not right.
2007-07-17 10:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by mr_sinister 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think that its okay. I once dated a girl and eventually broke up with her- one reason was because her mother was insane (honestly) and she was slowly becoming wacky and I just couldn't take it anymore. Sometimes, it sucks, but you have to wonder what traits your kids (if, of course, you want them) will have.
2007-07-17 09:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by Moss B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah , seeing as most of the country has been dpressed at some point in their life, surely it should go on the person themselves not history of someone else
2007-07-17 09:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by bigsexydug 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to date someone who's always depressed, it's really your decision. Personally, I wouldn't. Doesn't mean you couldn't be a friend to him/her. Encourage your friend, lift up his/her spirits, comfort your friend. Lend a shoulder, show kindness.
2007-07-17 09:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by slobberknocker_usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your right to choose your bf or gf based on anything you choose to be your criteria..
no one can tell you who to date.. if they think they may be a problem down the road bcuz of the families past then thats their choice.
2007-07-17 09:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋