I recently moved to a small town after a bad break up and I don't really know a lot of people, but there has been about 3 times that I ended up getting too drunk at a party and sleeping around. I felt horriable about it, and after one of them I started crying. Am I going to get a bad reputation for this? I'm not even sexual when I'm sober, I don't want to be labled as a slut. I'm still too emotional and sensitive since my ex left me. Or is this normal behavior for a 25 year old to have? I've never slept around and only ever been with one guy before I moved to BFE..
2007-07-17 09:37:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You did this in a small town then you already have a reputation. Dont make it worse though. Apparently you are not happy with this. You need to quit drinking it sounds like, at least until youre over your ex. Good luck.
2007-07-17 09:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by timssterling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My perspective on this may be a little jaded since I live in Vegas but...here goes. Pop culture these days is way over-sexed and leaves much to be desired when it comes to discovering true love and happiness (both can be mutually exclusive). Do I think you're easy? No...I just think you made a few bad decisions, but that doesn't make you less of a person.
We all make mistakes, it's how we pick ourselves up afterwards that defines us as people. The real question here is why did you sleep with those guys? Was it because you were attracted to them, or because you felt lonely, or some other reason.
Understand that this is why I believe most men sleep around, because they're looking for acceptance, love, appreciation and think they'll receive this validation through sex. When this doesn't quench their thirst they continue. Quite sad really... imagine doing something thinking it will cure your loneliness only to wake up next to someone who doesn't make you feel any more appreciated.
Don't be afraid though, there are nice, goodlooking, intelligent, and thoughtful men out there. God knows I feel like the only one in Vegas. You'd think women would appreciate a college education, a guy who can ballroom dance, and a gym rat. Naw...because the girls here, are interested in "bling". *Tanget* I think the line between the sexes shrinks every day. Unfortunately most people stoop to the lowest common denominator.
2007-07-17 16:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by bigbadvoodoodady_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going out partying and getting drunk. That's one way to stop sleeping around. You realize that when you go to crazy parties with alcohol that most of the guys there are looking for a hook-up right? Nothing wrong with going to parties just have the sense enough not to drink to much and actually get to KNOW a person without drinking, you'll have much better luck finding a good guy that way and meeting people that are worth meeting.
2007-07-17 16:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by bugen3029 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it normal? For some people.
Are you a ****? Nooooo... but you aren't making the best possible choices.
If you are so emotional, for awhile, stay away from the drinking. I'm not sdaying quit, but for now, back burner it...
You are taking some seriously self-destructive risks and you need yo ask yourself WHY? Never mind if it is "normal." Just look deep into your heart and ask why you would do this to yourself.
You are worthy. Treat yourself as a worthy person.
2007-07-17 16:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by aspicco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not normal behavior. It is unusual to become sexually promiscuous only when intoxicated and not when you are sober. You are reacting to your recent intense breakup, plus the stress of moving and worries about how the new people you meet will regard you. This sudden change in behavior plus high levels of stress clearly indicates that you need counseling. Please get counseling now, before you do something to yourself that is much worse than tarnishing your reputation.
2007-07-17 16:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it wasn't troubling for you, you wouldn't have asked the question.
The only time its NORMAL for anyone to just sleep around is in ancient Rome and porn. Most of them shrivel up, turn weird colors and die.
Be true to yourself and if sleeping around is the true you, then get a schedule together, print up some business cards and make bank sister, cause even a hard core whore doesn't just GIVE it away!
2007-07-17 16:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop Hating yourself. Sex is fun and so is drinking.
I'm personally into girls that like sex and are independent enough to have it with whoever they want.
I realise it has been 7 years since you asked this question but the answers I read below left a bitter taste in my mouth
2014-02-18 08:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by Sam I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing Saturday night? Wanna have some drinks and have a little party?
2007-07-17 16:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by snap264 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step one: Admit you are an alcoholic and a whore
Step two: Seek therapy
2007-07-17 16:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ok.. jsut going through life.. get over it and straighten yourself out.. one guy at a time... and don't have sex with him unless you know him really well.. say 3-4 dates or so
2007-07-17 16:43:46 · answer #10 · answered by Marty B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋