is it my fault?

Question

my dad always says im selfish but i always help out

Answer 1

how old are you? i think we need examples. most children are selfish; ever see a 2 year old that didn't want everything for themself? As we get older, however, we learn that others have needs, wants, and feelings too.

So my answer I guess is a question: how old are you and what was it you were doing when he said that?

Answer 2

Well, you didn't really give a lot of information here.

Obviously you don't think you're selfish.

I think as long as you're helping out, then you don't have anything to worry about. We all have to be selfish about certain things, otherwise we'd never care for ourselves, which isn't good. The key is finding a balance.

And the next time your dad tells you that you're selfish, go ahead and ask him why he feels that way. Tell him you don't want to be selfish and you'd like to know why he thinks you are.

You'll probably surprise him if you say that to him in a grown-up way.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Being selfish is different from helping out. Maybe you feel like you aren't selfish because you don't know what the word means, no offense. Selfish is when you think of no one but yourself or everything just revolves around you and the time you want to do. Lazy is when you don't want to do anything, like helping out. So maybe this will help you out the next time you dad says your selfish, he's probably refering to you not thinking of anyone but yourself. But then again your father could be refering to you being selfish when it comes to helping out with other chores in the house, maybe you just do your chores and he wants you to help out with other things. But next time your best bet is to ask him what he means and tell him that you do your part, ask him to be more clear when he says your selfish, like in what ways are you selfish

Answer 4

Do you always help out if there is something in it for you? Because, if the answer to that is 'yes', then you are selfish. Maybe whenever you are aked to do something, instead of just doing it just to do it, you usually start out "what is in it for me?" or anything close to that, then you are. Your dad may have sense that and sees that and called it as he seen it.

Answer 5

I don't have enough information to give an accurate answer. But even if you are helping out, if you are helping out to get something in return it is selfish. I would take the other person's advice and ask what you can do to prove you're not.

Answer 6

It depends on what you defenition of "helping out" and what HIS definition of "helping out" is. It's possible that you could do more. And it's possible that maybe his expectations are unreasonable. Care to elaborate and give more details?

W/o knowing all the details, my suggestion would be to sit down and calmly talk to your father and ask him what his expectations are from you and what he wants. Once you find out what he wants, discuss what you are/are not willing to do. Find a way to compromise with each other.

If you are unwilling to compromise, then I would say yes, you're being selfish.

Answer 7

Ask Dad in what ways he'd like to see you help more. Also, maybe he thinks it's not about working on the house, but he wants to see you place the feelings of others before your own. For clarification, ask him what he means.

Answer 8

well sometimes you feel like you're helping out soooo much and as it turns out you're not helping as much as you could. so when you're parents ask something of you,do it because you never know when they could really just use some help because they have had a bad day or something. you're dad just probibly says that because he thinks you could be doing so much more and not helping out does not exsactly meen you're selfish!

Answer 9

it's always your fault ... according to your parents
but don't worry it's not your fault if you think that you are doing the right thing
also try to be nice to your parents more than the usual in there bad days
this helped me with my parents

Answer 10

Ninety percent of males are selfish. Your dad has probably been brainwashed by your mum. lol