ok.. i am going into 11th grade, about to turn 16 in two weeks, and my parents are so unreasonable with giving me freedom to hang out with friends or go out. and no, i'm not asking them to go to parties or anything.. i dont even drink. they always make me depressed and i think its sad how freshman girls who dont care for school can go out every night. school is my number one priority, i'm in two AP classes: english bio, and i'm in honors precalc and social studies. i work hard for my grades and last quarter i got a 99.87 average! they think i'm not responsible either, just because i have a loud outgoing personality, and my older brother- who is 21- has all the freedom in the world. just the other day i asked to go to applebees with my friends at 10 pm, and they made me cry to sleep, yelling and screaming at me saying i'm irresponsible and a bad person ! i know this is long, but please help!
2007-07-17 09:22:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and i'm also an avid athlete: i play soccer in the fall, track in winter and spring. when i was a freshman, i broke my schools record for the 55m dash. they are great parrents, but they are way too overprotective. what can i do for them to realize that they should be happy to have such a good kid?
2007-07-17 09:24:44 · update #1
Oh hun this is very typical!
Your parents just know that at your age, you are startinbg to become exposed to alot of stuff and im sure that scares them!
You are very smart and you have a good head on your shoulders but they just dont know it yet.
Try taking things step by step, like ask them just to go for a walk up and down the street with one of your friends. and then start moving up to more adventurous things (slowly!!).
Then they will see "hey she is a good girl, we can trust her"
And one last thing, im definetly not trying to get you in trouble or anything but its OKAY to sneak a little fun in every once in while. No matter who you are, everyone had a secret side! Hope this helps!
2007-07-17 09:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is unfortunate you are feeling so stifled at home. I think they are just doing their best to keep you on what they believe is the right track, ensuring that you get the best education you can right now, because this is the best time for you to learn. I feel that they could go about it in a much more diplomatic way, the truth is that parenting isn't about diplomacy. And sometimes the styles that some parents use, pushes their children away when they become adults. I KNOW it sounds like forever, but you really only have 2 more years before you can strike out on your own if that is what you need to do. Hang in there!
2007-07-25 13:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by C J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are so much more responsible than I was at that age. I think though about the Apleebees was an unreasonable time to go. If it had been say 7 or 8 and be home by 10, then that would be more reasonable. And your 21 year old brother has freedom because he is an adult.
2007-07-17 16:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a parent is a very hard job.Especially in today times.You are indeed a very wonderful 16 yr old,and they want to keep you that way.You are there baby girl.way different from a 21 yr.old brother. I would not let you go to Applebees at 10pm.There is to much meaness out there,and they want to keep you safe.They yell and scream because they are frustrated.The day is coming when they will have to let you go but, not for now.Do you know how lucky you are to have 2 loving parents.Spend this year showing them you are growing up and can handle more responsibility.
2007-07-25 08:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not an old person. I just turned 20 and I was in the teenage category last year so listen. Your parents are only trying to protect you . I might not be that they dont trust you. There are just some wierdo creeps out here who do perverted, digusting, crazy things to young girls. Be happy that your parents care about you. Even though it may be dampering your life now, you and your parents will be best friends when you get older and you will appreciate what they did for you.
Do earn more trust and responsiblities dont whine about their rules. accept them and things will change. they will see you as more of an adult
2007-07-25 13:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by glossykiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show them some examples of what you could be,next time you see a girl your age doing something wrong,your parents are very very lucky,to have such a daughter who works hard at school,plays sports,they have to open up and learn that you are a responsible person,i don't think applebees would have been a lot to ask,hope all works out for you
2007-07-24 17:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by tnsupermomwhit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Acting as a child is not going to help.Don't disrespect your parents by screaming at them.Your brother is an adult and your not.Going out at 10pm to Applebees,you wouldn't get home til 12 or 1.Get real.It sounds as if your parents care about you.Just because your friends do something that doesn't mean it is right for you to do.
2007-07-25 12:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by fernwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are growing up, freedom is not going wild, if you are confident in your self, then create that confidence in your parents, make them realize that you are very responsible and know your limits.
You parents should realize, that a cow in the fields has better grazing, then one tied within the walls, or like in malaysia they say if you restrict your child, she will be like a utensil left on the shelf only collecting dust. The parents should allow after being fully confident of their child's power of self determination and a clarity in her thoughts.
2007-07-25 05:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by akela hu main 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u have a good head on your shoulders, however when u get older and out of school with children of your own you will understand exactly how your parents feel...i have a 17 year old and wish he made those grades..ten at night for a 16 year old to go out with friends even to applebees is kinda late.... i work in law enforcement let me tell u what my past two days have been like....16 year old boy drown in lake...no partying involved just wanted to swim with friends...16 year old boy on my sons football team license for 3 weeks dead...no partying just overcorrected....20 minutes later 2 16 year olds car wreck...hanging on for their life...both having brain surgery today...no partying just driving too fast......so maybe they just want u to be safe...for what reason do they think u are irresponsible? you have a long life ahead of u.....u will be ok.....
2007-07-24 21:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by pickles 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would anyone let a 15 year old at ten o'clock go hang out is beyone my comprehension. You are not 21 and you do not realize the dangers that are out there. Be thankful they care enough to notice.
2007-07-24 22:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by TAT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋