it has completely taken away your self esteem and self worth..you know for a fact that you are not the problem but you stick around HOPING and having FAITH that the person will change
2007-07-17 09:22:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in my book everyone deserves best answer..everyone answered honeslty and i appreciate that
2007-07-18 02:13:15 · update #1
Yes, with my ex-husband. He was a habitual cheater and liar, and also emotionally abusive. I was convinced that everything he did wrong was my fault. It took me over 2 years to get the courage to leave him, and then another 2 years of counseling to straighten me out after he had totally destroyed all my self-worth.
He promised and promised he would change. It took me hitting rock-bottom before I realized he wouldn't.
2007-07-17 09:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by abbyful 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in that EXACT relationship about 1 year ago (or it ended 1 year ago, it was off and on for a little over 10 years, sadly my longest relationship ever).
Listen to me, people like that do not change, the only thing that will change is you will get older and realize one day that you wasted SOOOOO much of your life Hoping things will get better.
I was like that, I was the rare guy who stood by this girl hoping that she would change and start to care about me at least a little, that she would appreciate all I did for her and one day say thank you. TEN YEARS and nothing to show for it except my age. When I started school to try and make something of my self she got so upset because I couldn't spend as much time with her. That's when I finally realized it is not her it is me, people like that only do what they do because you let them. They don't love you, or they wouldn't make you feel worthless.
Although I regret wasting so much of my life with this girl, I still consider leaving her one of the best things I have ever done with my life. People don't change, hoping they will only leads you to more pain when they won't.
2007-07-17 16:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one has the ability to "take away" your self-esteem & self-worth. That's why it's called SELF-esteem & SELF-worth. If you know you are not the problem, then you wouldn't feel you were lacking these. You can't change anyone, it never works. Hang out with people who love and respect you, family, friends, whoever makes you feel good. Live your life and you will attract worthy people. Waiting around for people usually just leaves you in waiting. Good luck.
2007-07-17 16:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, my husband treated me like s#$%, and it wasn't all my fault. We had communication problems, but he said it was all me. He made me think I was crazy, but his actions made me crazy. He also made me feel the the ugliest person in the world and told me that no one would ever want me and our marrage wasn't worth the price of his happiness. I still hang on for some stupid reason, but I know realistically that it will never be the same and I can never trust him again. Good Luck. Live Life to the Fullest and Enjoy Every Minute of It...
2007-07-17 17:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and when I left, I didn't talk to her for 2 months (which was really hard because she had so much control over me) and I was my old self again. After that time, i never wanted to talk to her again and am good to this day, 2 years later
2007-07-17 16:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by chip t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I stayed married to a man for 10 1/2 years who abused me in every sense and made me feel like dirt. I kept hoping and praying that my love would make it better.... it didn't. We have been divorced for nearly 2 years.
2007-07-17 16:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by Queen Bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I've been in ones where the woman 'wanted' me to give up my self respect. But you can lose everything else in a relationship and in the greater scheme it won't mean much. But you can never let someone convince you to give up your self respect.
2007-07-17 16:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're not going to change. It's a personality defect. Move on and get counseling.
2007-07-17 16:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and it is a losing situation. Leopards don't change their spots. Get out now!
2007-07-17 16:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by labadala l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have,,my first marriage. And it is so totally not worth it...ppl rarely change.
2007-07-17 16:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by earnhardt3_8forever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋