why do we feel that our heart is broken when we love someone and that person doesn't?

Answer 1

because it hurts like hell to love someone and have feelings and that person could care nothing about us..the shitz hurts like hell..but what i do is cry if i have to scream if i have to..i deal with my pain i dont keep it inside..so far all day i have been crying because of my BF

Answer 2

because you were born to human parents.

When you were in a crib and your mother looked down at you, looking at you right in the eyes and cooing and smiling and saying how beautiful and wonderful you are and how happy she is to have you in her life and blah, blah, blah
you could not recognize that she was a separate person. You had no concept of personal boundaries and where she ended and where you began.

Falling in love is a lot like being in a crib. Think about it.

Only thing is that when you're a baby it's you who learns to crawl (away from Mummy) thus discovering that you are indeed a separate entity.

In adulthood when you feel that sweet something for someone else (quite often based on pure physical attraction), you begin to crave the original ultimate connection (the sense of 'no separation at all' that you enjoyed with your mother, or other primary care giver) as well as the extensive praise received that justified your very existence.

So, when the other person does not reciprocate your love feelings, humans take it as a primal loss.

If we were able to think clearly, we'd simply say:
wtf, didn't know him/her that well anyway, has a crappy job anyway, one-brow man anyway, he/she could not hold a decent conversation anyway/poor grammar and spelling/not my type really, can't wait to see who else is out there whose talents, skills and abilities more closely match my own??? Off I go with a light and clear heart...

Instead we grieve for some immeasurable, catastrophric loss like it's the end of the world...it's actually the beginning of the broken heart

Answer 3

no one likes to be rejected,especially when we know in our heart of hearts that we are worthy of being loved. if the other person cant return your feelings then it feels like our heart is broken but it has more to do with ego, you should accept this and be grateful you havent put more time into a relationship that wasnt meant to be. you will survive.there is someone somewhere waiting to find you. try to be patient and when you least expect it ,you will find each other.

Answer 4

Everyone deals with their emotions differently. Their heart could be just as broken as yours but they might decide they don't want to show or share their feelings about it. Or, it's possible that they just don't have the same feelings about the situation as you. Everyone has their own prespective on how they see things in their life. Your prespective on what's happening isn't always going to be the same as another person's prespective. And the truth is, no one has the right to judge someone else on how they feel or how they deal with those feelings. Everyone has the right to deal with things in their own way.

The most important question right now shouldn't be why does so-and-so not feel this way. Your question shoule be, "what can I do to make MYSELF feel better". Concentrate on yourself right now, and do what you need to do to feel better for you. Surround yourself w/friends and family. Do things that make you feel better, like reading a good book, watching a show you like, shopping, etc. Talk to a therapist or counsler, perhaps. But focus on yourself and your feelings and don't look to others and how they may or may not be feeling about something, b/c that's there buisness, not yours.

Sorry to sound harsh, but the best way to feel better is to worry about yourself, and not someone else right now. Hope you feel better soon. Good luck.

Answer 5

It's because we're putting our all into it and it's not being reciprocated. It hurts to experience this. The best thing to do is to learn from it, let it go and realize that you deserve someone that will give back the love you give them just as equally.

Think on it all for awhile, but make sure you set a time to feel better and be over it. Dwelling helps only temporarily.

Feel better soon.

GL

Answer 6

In my experience, it's the rejection for me I think is worse.
When I love someone, an the love I give is not returned. I now believe that I am not right for them or they are not worthy of me.
Beating our selves up is not the answer, but in time(as in my experience) I notice to love my self more, I am capable of knowing my boundaries so I may love an get love back.
Good Luck

Answer 7

I think you just answered your own question man. Like the first person said "It hurts to be rejected" I think it hurts more to not find that "connection" with someone because love is one of the most important things people have in this world.

When somebody loves someone but the other person doesn't love them back it really feels like crap because its like the person who is in love has a part of them ripped out that they gave to the other person.

Love, to me, is kind of like a spiritual commitment where one person gives part of themselves to the other person but if you don't get anything back then its like part of you just gets taken away and its hard to get back.

Answer 8

Because that's a part of love. Loving someone you expect the love returned. When there is lack of that love back it hurts
and may cause you to feel pain and sorrow. But its perfectly normal. Why love someone when they don't love you back? Love hurts so you may never stop loving them but you will find "the one" who will give you the love in return.

Answer 9

Because love is an emotion that is best shared. When you can't share it with the one you love because they don't feel the same, it gets all bottled up inside and it is too much for one heart to handle. So, you feel heartbroken.

Answer 10

Its the rejection... That's tough but ya gotta get tougher! Try not to wallow in it and get out there and have a good time. That hurt feeling can't get the best of you dude!