Has anyone ever kick a bridesmaid out of their wedding?

Question

What was the reason and How did it go down?

Answer 1

one of the girls I used to work with at Toppers Mary, she got into a huge fight with her cousin and she had just bought her David's bridal gown and it was a mess, and I think her sister was involved in the fight too. I can't remember the details. Drama Its all about the drama. I'm doing your wedding and that's it. I am going to elope. Unless I decided last minute I want you to wear a hideous dress hahahahahaha

Answer 2

I had nearly the same except two-yep-TWO of my bridesmaids walked out three months before my wedding. We hadn't been getting along and it was tense, and when I picked the bridesmaids dresses without them, they told me they were out. They said I was being selfish (for my own wedding???) and no longer wanted to be friends. (Two of my real friends stepped up and made the day better than it would have been had the other two stayed) Don't feel bad about what you did. If you aren't happy, forget it! It's one of the most special days of your life and you deserve happiness, just like any bride does. Forget her, if she wants to make amends fine, otherwise cut your loss and enjoy your new life!!! Weddings always make someone upset, cry or get angry, so take it easy, laugh off the 'stuff' that happens and carry on to enjoy it! Congrats and hope it goes well!

Answer 3

Wow! That's pretty ugly but I do know someone that has kicked someon out. They started fighting a lot and were never really too too close in the first place (but were as of late) and even that was ugly...so was all of the fighting though. My advice is to evaluate your relationship with her and go from there. Also try n talk things out; your wedding party still have a life of their own but if they are just being stubborn for no reason or being jealous then there is no reason you should have to deal with the extra stress of having to worry about them all the time; after all it's your day. Good luck!

Answer 4

i wanted to, but i did not. 14 months later and my mother has not been paid back for the bridesmaid dress like she promised to. the dresses were clearance at $99, but she claims she can not afford it. last week, she showed me an ebay link of all these things she bid on and won. total price is over $100 for jewelry.

she was the only bridesmaid that saw the dresses before i bought them. she got to try hers on and claimed to love it. then would tell everyone else she looked like a giant blueberry. at my bridal shower she was sitting next to me and in half the pictures she has on a sour face (yay for paper cutters. :) ). she claimed everything i registered for was too much. then i find out after the fact that another bridesmaid paid for all the gifts and added her name. i know that it is not about the gifts, but she had been complaining on how much everything cost and she paid for NOTHING but her hair. i had invited all the bridesmaids to go get their hair done with me at a hair academy which was so much less than a salon, but she went and got her hair done for $60-70, mine was $30.

at the wedding she was begging to go take pictures near the water and my mother told her no. it was never on my mind or any plan to get them done there. she left and never offered to clean up. nor did she help set up. she sat outside in the parking lot while everyone else did.

another side not is that she owes our other friend the money from HER wedding. she claimed to have her card maxed so the bride paid for the bridesmaid dress. 16 months later and she has not one red cent.

in the end, she is still my friend, but i have not ever loaned her anything or paid for a meal since then.

Answer 5

Hasn't happened to me personally, but I still have some thoughts on it.

First, if you wish to dismiss a bridesmaid, you should be prepared to reimburse for the dress, shoes, and anything she may have purchased on your account.

Second, when a bride asks someone to serve as bridesmaid, she should present that person with a list of what she (the bride) expects of her attendants. No fair "bestowing an honor" on your friend, but not mentioning that you expect her to throw a bachelorette party for 20, buy matching diamond bracelets, have out of town guests stay at her home, etc.

We need something like a "bridesmaid contract" to prevent these sort of friendship ruining mismatches of expectation.

Answer 6

I did! My Maid of Honor. She become irresponsible and hard to get a hold of.I wouldn't hear from her for months. Once I did, we'd have a 2 min conversation where she said she'd call me back 15 min later and never did. She had so much drama in her life, she couldn't take part in engagement party of bridal shower...So I told her how I felt and what i was looking for....Which was someone that had the same views of marriage that I did and someone I could count on once in a while to show up or at least check in. I wasn't prepared to buy her dress and take care of all her pre-wedding day needs, i had my own to worry about...U have to have someone stand up for u that won't flake out. It would be horrible the day before ur wedding to get that call that she's not going to make it.

Answer 7

I am thisclose to kicking one of my bridesmaids out. All she does is complain.

- She won't try any bridesmaid dresses on because she thinks they won't fit (like anybody can fit into those sample sizes!).

- She doesn't like any of the dresses I picked out because she thinks they won't be flattering on her. (Maybe if she tried them on...)

- She claims to have no time for anything but spends most of the day on her computer.

The reason I have not kicked her out yet is that we have been friends for so long.

EDIT: Animal House - Thumbs up. Our answers differ but I understand what you are saying. I don't expect my girls to drop everything for me. However, I don't know how I can keep my friend in the wedding if she won't try on or even look at dresses.

Answer 8

I want to does that count? The only reason I havent is b/c we have been friends for so long. I mean she was my BESTEST Friend in the world. Our lives have always been about her though, and now it wasnt going to be. I have been there for her for so many things, and she has only spoken to me like maybe 5 times since I got engaged. We hung out with them EVERY weekend for two years before that, and her and I were friends for years. Now suddenly our friendship is just gone, but I think she wants to drop out anyways. She E-maied me yesterday and said "I think you should ask someone else to be your MOH" Not sure whats going to happen there. Whens your wedding? Mine is in four and a half weeks. A little stressed! ::)

Answer 9

Yes and it is the worst experience ever. I still feel bad about it but it needed to be done. My bridesmaid called to complain about everything. I asked them all if they wanted to wear their own silver or black shoes. They all said silver. Then a month later she didn't want to buy them. She told me her ears were pierced so I bought them earrings. Then she told me hers weren't but she was getting it done. A few months later, I told her I'd send them to her so that she could get them changed to clip ons if she didn't. She felt I should pay for that too--which I did.

She didn't send me measurements for her dress so I had to guess. She never paid for dress.

She told me one month before the wedding she couldn't afford to fly (though she'd had a year to save up). I called her parents to ask for $$ and spent huge amounts of time helping her out, looking for flights and getting her a free place to stay. She threw a fit when I wouldn't let her exboyfriend come to the wedding, called and says she wasn't coming until Friday--wedding on Sat--and wouldn't make it to rehearsal. Not going to get her dress altered and not come for my bachelorette party (and no she didn't have to get time off work--she has whole summer off) AFTER having talked my sister into having it a couple weeks later so she could be there.

Writes me a one line email saying she couldn't be a bridesmaid--no explanation--and while I'm freaking out, then writes a few days later saying she was just kidding.

She was completely playing bridesmaid-zilla and turning this into her show. She was obsessed with seeing how much time I could invest on her--rather than helping me. She wanted me to get her flight, place to stay, her jewelry, her dress, her alterations (without her) and be ok with the fact that her flight was arriving during the rehearsal--if it was on time. and I was suppose to pick her up at airport. Most of this I did but the moment I put my foot down, she plays games. Finally I wrote her and told her that if she clearly couldn't fulfill the responsibilities of a bridesmaid that I was going to replace her.

As far as I was concerned our friendship was over. Apparently it meant a lot more to me than it did to her. Kicking a bridesmaid out of your wedding is sometimes necessary but make sure you are perfectly ok if this ends your friendship. Others are going to call you bridezilla for it but you know the truth. Sometimes people you think are friends are so filled with jealousy that all they want is to ruin your day.

Answer 10

Not yet - but I'm working on it (you can reference my questions in my profile for details - way too long to tell). She's manipulative, bratty, controlling - just the opposite of me. I've been very good about everything and just want everyone to have a great time and celebrate with us, but she can't see it that way. To her, everything my fiancee and I planned is wrong (she's his cousin by the way) and has finally resorted to lying to her mother about me - saying I'm leaving her out of everything, when in fact I tried very hard to be her friend and ask her to pick out things with me. To boot? My fiancee's mother is battling cancer, and to be honest, it doesn't look good, and our wedding is in 3 months (if it happens - if things go bad) and she's still carrying on. So, if you're going through this, the stress isn't worth it!!