I fell for a narcissistic man during a 8 month seperation from my husband. He would never express his feelings for me, but when I decided to go back to my husband he began to tell me that my husband was no good for me and was a liar and that I will have to fake my way through my marriage. Do narcissistic persons express emotions toward others; or are their feelings just a fake?
2007-07-17 08:59:18 · 10 answers · asked by willow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi willow,
I was married to a self centered narcissist/sociopath for 9 years. She had negative comments toward others and yet could not convey her personal feelings or thoughts. It was an exhausting process, trying to make and maintain friendships. She consistently sought and found the tiniest flaws in anyone I would socialize with.
You must distance yourself from this person at the first opportunity. He will go to any length to destroy your image of your husband, or your own personal identity, and do it for his own bizarre pleasure.
When I was with her it was difficult to detect this pattern. I was conditioned to find fault in others and to withdraw myself from social settings. Now that we are divorced I have learned to enjoy the company of friends, to make and keep relationships and to be optimistic and confident.
Save yourself the confusion and anxiety over trying to understand this man and his twisted motivations. You alone will not be able to help or to understand him.
good luck to you and your husband ~
2007-07-17 09:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by yoak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing - narcissists care primarily about themselves. They don't usually express emotions for other people, particularly emotions like sympathy and empathy, because they simply don't understand those emotions.
However, now that he sees you're planning on going back to your husband, he's using these emotions against you. He knows that it's what you want to hear, but does he really feel that way? Probably not. Once he has you firmly in his grasp, he'll have little need to tell you he loves you, he wants what is best for you, etc. For a narcissist, it's really all about what you can do for him, not the other way around. If you continue with him, you won't be happy.
I'd definitely encourage you to go back to your husband and try your best to work things out. Best of luck to you.
2007-07-17 16:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kathryn 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, good question. I think it all depends on the person your talking about. Each person and his/her level of narcissism is different and hard to judge when you don't know them. The best judges of his ability to love or show love are you and the people that are close to you that also know him. But really ask yourself is a narcissist good for you also? Even if he can express love for you that love is usually based on what you can do for him. I don't call that a healthy relationship.
2007-07-17 16:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mayor Adam West 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What makes you thinks he's narcissistic???? He could just be a jerk.....Yes they can express emotions but in reality they are doing so as a means to an end. They love themselves, do for themselves and feel for themselves. Get It?
2007-07-17 16:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by ma 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have a brother who suffers from nacissism (it's a mental illness). He tells his wife he loves her and expresses other emotions, too, but it's always all about him (the sex, their life). This guy you dated is saying the things he's saying because he wants to convince himself that you cannot live without him. He thinks so highly of himself that he feels your husband can't measure up.
2007-07-17 16:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
....narcissistic people simply love no one but themselves silly....they really seriously can't love anyone else besides themselves alternatively. They want what they want....and they don't want nothing or no one else reasonably. They talk a great game though darling....but when it comes down to the brass knuckles of the facts honey?...they can't love you! Are we clear on this stuff alternatively? They can't simply find their minds enough for anyone other then themselves darling.....not even beautiful you sweetie! SORRY!!!
2007-07-17 16:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fake. He wants to hate you and get back at you.. steer clear of this man. Narcissistic people love themselves.
2007-07-17 16:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by mahalga 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure they can express true feelings of love....for themselves.
2007-07-17 16:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you are asking.
Selfish people (and most of humans are somewhat selfish) love you only because of what you can do for them, and they only love you as long as you can do it for them.
2007-07-17 16:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They express love....for themselves.
2007-07-17 16:02:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋