I really like this girl who I have been friends with for about a year now. She is "perfect" in every sense of the word. She is nice, beautiful, funny, etc. However she said in an argument that we had awhile back that she didn't have any feelings for me. However she still calls me and we still hang out and we always have a good time. Do you think she will ever change her mind about liking me more than a friend. When we hang out we always laugh and talk. When I'm not with her, I'm always thinking about her, I know I should move on from her but its really hard. I have done a lot for her to show her I like her a lot, I bought her flowers on valentines day, when we hang out I always drive and pay just to show that I'm a nice guy and that I would make a good boyfriend. I'm not desperate, I just like her a lot. If you think I should move on, how can I? What are signs that she might be changing her mind about likeing me?
thanks
2007-07-17 08:22:23 · 7 answers · asked by BAS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BTW we are supposed to hang out later today. This will be the first time she will see me without braces:)! I know it isn't a big deal but I think I look a lot better without my braces. Do you think she will notice?
thanks
BTW she is 17 years old (in 4 months she will be 18), and I'm 19 years old.
2007-07-17 08:24:10 · update #1
Try straight up honesty.
Be careful, you have an awesome firend right now, if you move to teh next level and it doesn't work, you risk losing a girlfriend AND an awwesome friend, make sure it's worth it.
2007-07-17 08:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been friends for a year, I think that's more than enough time to decide if she would change her mind. Women can be a fickle bunch and the thought of you hooking up with another woman might activate a jealous button and then the game's on, but I don't think you want that.
You sound like a really nice guy, you're young too, so I congratulate whoever raised you, they did a good job. You can still be friends with her if you can put aside the feelings and that's hard to do, especially if you spend alot of time together.
If it was me, I would find out one last time, if she's interested in anything more than friendship, if she says no or never, tell her that you can't hang out for awhile and then do it, don't worry about hurting her feelings, if she's a true friend, she'll understand.
2007-07-17 08:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm....I think you have answered your own question more than once. Lets see if I was to be around you and you bought all the time, give me stuff when I don't have a special someone to do that, I can depend on you for anything, especially when I can't afford it.........mmmmmmm hell ya I would keep doing it. What person wouldn't? Sorry but truth hurts. Soooooooo......
STOP IT!!
If she wants to go out let her pay her way for awhile and see if she offers to pay for you too. True friends don't have a problem paying once in awhile, but it is usually dutch. If she does have feelings and you start to just treat her as a friend, she might come around in saying something. I would suggest in finding something new to gawk over. Like the saying goes...you never know until it is gone. LEAVE!
2007-07-17 08:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You buy her flowers, you take her out to dinner on your own dime, and she doesn't have to do a thing to reciprocate. Sounds like a pretty comfortable setup for her. I hate to advise playing games, but if/when you do wind up in a relationship (with this girl or anyone else), you're going to want to be on an equal footing. Try being less available, and see if it makes any difference to her.
2007-07-17 08:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to agree with my honey suthern Yankee. One year? and she says that? Move on buddy. She's your friend. She's not going to be your girlfriend. She wants a "no strings attached" kinda relationship. if that's what you want, then go for it. Personally, I hate being leftovers.
Your parents have done well. Enjoy life. LORD SON, you need to enjoy life in general. You are too young to be doing this serious kinda talk
2007-07-17 08:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Cellophane 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well u may not want to take it from a 10 year old girl but i like this guy too! and i try to show him that i like him!!! i buy him presents on every holiday!!! and on his b-day!!! and for u you may want to tell her right away!!! while Ur out somewhere try holding her hand!!?? when u say bye try kissing her on her cheek!!! and she might kiss u back!! so i tried to help did it work????!
2007-07-17 08:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Weronika D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y
2007-07-17 08:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by Branden G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋