Do you think it's fair women always have to pay for birth control pills?

Question

If you don't use condoms with a boyfriend, the WOMAN is in charge of buying birth control pills. Do you think that's fair?

I pay 25 dollars a month for pills. For a full year that's 300 dollars my boyfriend doesn't have to spend. We don't use condoms, so he doesn't have to pay for ANYTHING. Do you think that's fair? HE doesn't want a baby as much as me, don't you think he should fork up some money for the pills too?

We are engaged....And Ive been paying for the pills the past 4 1/2 years. Sex is better without condoms folks.

Answer 1

If you guys are serious and exclusive, he should be helping you out. Before we went on the pill, my boyfriend and I paid for condoms together, and now he pays for all the condoms and I pay for my pills. (Belt and suspenders, I never want to get pregnant!)

Answer 2

Number one the pill is not 100% effective neither are the female condoms or IUDs I know three women who got pregnant using the IUD, one wound up having an "internal miscarriage" she didn't know she was pregnant at it wasn't until 3 months later when she was having problems with her period that she found out the IUD had caused a spontaneous abortion. She had such a bad infection that the doctor was forced to do a histerectomy. She was 21 years old. Another woman had a spontaneous abortion because of the IUD and the third woman with the IUD found out she was pregnant and had to undergo surgery that could have resulted in miscarriage in order to remove the IUD so she could carry the fetus full term. Which brings me to the fact that men don't carry the pregnancy for 10 months. That is up to the woman. When a man can carry a pregnancy to term and give birth then he can have a say in whether he aborts, or goes fullterm. If a man doesn't WANT to pay child support then HE is responsible for keeping his penis in his pants or using a condom.

Answer 3

You also have to look at that not everyone pays that much for pills (Though I'm sure people pay more.)

Some people need the pill for medical reasons (my friend had her period for 2 months straight and has to be on the pill) So a man shouldn't have to pay for that.

And then most women get added benefits from BC pills like more regular periods, less cramps, etc. so a man shouldn't have to pay for that either.

But... it's still birth control and both people in the couple don't want the baby so... in that respect a man should have to pay for a portion of that.

For me, I pay 8 dollars a month for mine and I am really glad to fork over that money every month. Plus I feel like overall what time and energy and money we spend on each other evens out.

Answer 4

It's your body. If your bf wanted a vasectomy, would you pay half? If there was a male pill and your bf was taking that, would you pay half? Next you'll be saying he should pay half the price of fuel to get to the clinic.

$25/month really is a drop in the ocean compared with the expense of even having child, let alone raising it. Find out how many times a baby has to be changed in just 1 day, then next time you're in the supermarket check out the price of Huggies. After a few months you'd also be buying those little jars of food, check out the price of those. Not to mention, babies grow out of clothes rapidly.

Also take into account the lifestyle changes, the lack of sleep, the lack of income, the potential for depression...

You'll very quickly realise that <$1/day for pills is a lot cheaper.

If you're hard up for cash, you could tell your bf he must choose between paying half the cost of your pills, buying condoms, or going without.

But at the end of the day, if I were in your position I'd forego the mobile phone before risking an unwanted pregnancy.

Answer 5

I think! that it is not fair that women pay for birth control pills, and I also think it is not fair that men pay for child support most of the time, but it takes two, both men and women must start help each other; both of the have their ups and downs, men should start helping women, and women should start helping men. Both should help each other more, because! in the long run the children are the ones who will suffer, from disagreements between the parents. Also! women has the ability to get pregnant, a man don't have to worry about that, the ones going through the pain of pregnancy are women, not men; so! we as men should step up for true because our mothers suffered pain to bring us into this world we should be greatful to help women. I use to have a women but not anymore: I know that I cannot be a father because, financially I am not stable, so! I became a monk, renounced marriage and so forth, women are not bad for men, and men are not bad for women, just some men and women are bad for each other; I lost my soulmate, and maybe in the future! I might have someone to love dearly, I have people to love but nothing less than a brother or sister and nothing more than a brother and sister since all people to me are my brothers and sisters, I love all people as family, so! all of you people on the web are my family, I love you all equally.

Answer 6

Yes, he should PAY UP!!!!!!!!!!!
Birth control pills are not protecting any STD
so he should bye condoms and help on your pills
What if something goes wrong with your body and the pills
don't work?? Missed period?? Then you find out your *
Then what ?? It's always good to have a back up plan..
He is you b/f and not your husband

Answer 7

I think you are right, he should help you pay for BC. If you have a month when you cannot afford them, he is going to have to go without it and I don't think he would like that at all.

Another thing, I think he should still be buying and wearing condoms, BC does not always work and it's really better to be safe than sorry. If you two REALLY do not want a baby, maybe you should both be buying forms of BC.

Answer 8

You should be gettin half the dough from him or tell him he has to wear condoms because you rnot buying the pills anymore. I had my boyfriend pay for my pills when I was on them years ago. At least have your boyfriend pay half or every other month which is very fair.

Answer 9

Speaking only for myself, I don't mind paying for my own birth control. But I'm not only on it for birth control, but to manage my PMS as I get bad mood swings and dips in energy that the hormones help with. I'll even buy the condoms. Doesn't matter to me. I prefer to be safe. If he takes the opportunity to buy the condoms or offers to help with the cost of the hormones, I won't object.

Answer 10

You bring up an interesting argument. The truth is, most guys take care of much more than 50% of the dating costs and never ask for his 'cut'. You may be looking at it all wrong. Hopefully he pays for the majority of the meals, entertainment, gas for driving you around, etc. I hope he is not tallying up the costs in his head as he does these things. Food for thought.