I'm 20 years old and wating to have a baby with the man of my life im not sure how to tell them without him thinking im crazy or im to young when he is 2 years older then me? Please someone give me advice.
2007-07-17 07:31:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
okay we liv on our now for 2 years and both have great paying jobs i just do not know how to tell him?
2007-07-17 07:56:46 · update #1
People are taking this completley the wrong way. No it wont be welfare or immaturity. its a big deal and sometimes yes women do not how to say things thats life and so do men. I may be young but immature im not. And if we decide to have kid we would be ready just like we are now. We both have had our fun lives. We are both ready to just settle down.
2007-07-17 08:04:20 · update #2
well.. are you guys just dating or are you married? either way if you really want to have a baby, then it might help if you tell him. Just ease him into the idea, like get his opinion on having kids right now, and tell him that you've thought about it and that you think you'd like to and see where it goes from there. Just make sure that you are ready for it, because babies change everything. I'm only 20 and i have 2 children. So if you're really ready and you know you can handle it then tell him and see where it goes. And just remember it'll only happen when it's meant to, so if doesn't happen now, it will one day.
Babies are a blessing and should be treated that way, so if you're ready for a life full of adventure, then go ahead. Good luck and i hope all goes well, and i hope i have helped you in some way.
2007-07-17 07:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by gizmo_chik04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly natural for a woman your age to want to have a baby. It's only bad if you haven't thought it out, how you're going to take care of a baby, how you can afford it. Also it would not be nice at all to get pregnant without your man agreeing to the plan. Some women get pregnant just to trap a man, and I think that's not only really dishonest but stupid.
Personally I think if you and he are going to make a baby together you should be married or at least have some kind of comfortable long-term commitment. Men think about these things completely differently than women do. You should discuss it thoroughly with him.
If he doesn't want to get into a long-term family situation, it might turn out that you'd rather have a baby than a man. 8^) I think a lot of women make that decision. It's not as easy for a single woman to raise a kid by herself, but I know several women who have done it, and done a good job!
20 years old is not too young to have a baby, not by any means. There's a theory that you should have them when you're young enough to enjoy them. But it would be easier financially if you waited until you were 30 or so, maybe married for a few years, and had a house and some money saved up.
2007-07-17 07:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a bad thing, but it's something you definitely should give alot of thought to and discuss with your significant other. A baby is a wonderful thing, but it does change your life forever. You will no longer be the most important person ever again. You will not be able to just pick up and go whenever you want. Your child will consume your entire life and every aspect of it and until you're sure that you're ready for that, I would wait. You have many many years to become a mom and before you do that you should be sure that you've done everything else in your life that you wanted to first so that you can devote all your time and energy into making your child happy. I hope that helps and best of luck to you with whatever you decide to do.
2007-07-17 07:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by brainybabe999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this since being 20 is being an adult but I think you should wait atleast 5 years. I totally understand the desire to have ababy with the man u r inlove with. I am 27, engaged and every time I c a baby-I want one. But I know it is best to wait until after we are married and have been for a couple years.
I had the most fun of my life when I was 20-24! Have that fun b/c if u have a baby u will mis out. And, u never know if everything will work out with this guy forever- even though you can't imagine life w/o him right now. I say date him for a total of 5 years and then see how u feel. U will only be 23 then.
I hope I helped you but the best thing to do is to decide what is best for you. Everyone can only give you their opinion.
2007-07-17 07:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a little younger than I would want to be but all women feel that at different times in their lives. For myself I know that I am not ready yet but everyone is different and you are probably going to make a terrific mom. Maybe just bring up the subject of kids and see how he acts and what he says. If he is wanting to have kids as well, then you will probably be able to tell from his body language.
2007-07-17 07:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by littleone 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its definitely not a bad thing, I have found myself in that position and I'm younger.. It all depends on your lifestyle whether or not it is a good idea, though. If you feel like you can support a child, look into what it takes to care for one, some things might surprise you, lol. Take your time to think it over and make a decision. It is always up to you. Best of luck! :)
2007-07-17 07:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are immature. Its obvious from your question that you (BF and self) have yet to reach that comfort zone for a one-on-one discussion. Get your perogatives straightened out - Marriage? Job? Education? Right from 18yrs of age, people feel "we know what we are doing", in reality it is the opposite. Deal with the current issues that face you today. Tomorrow will bring its own!
You still have time girl....
2007-07-17 08:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im in a similar position. However me and my bf are living together, have been together for 4 years, are getting married and both want children soon. im 21 but im still going to get my life sorted in terms of finding a home and having a suitable job to care for our child. I think you should calm down and talk to you bf about it. If you are too aggressive about it you'll freak him out.
2007-07-17 07:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not committed enough to get married, then you should hold off having a baby. People change a tremendous amount in their 20's and you should make sure you're going to be able to stay together.
2007-07-17 07:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by Elaura 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends, I was 20 when I had my son, but I have a very stable income, I was and am going to school. I am married and my family and I live on our own without anyones help. If you aren't comfortable enough to ask your boyfriend or whatever he is about children, then you probably aren't ready.
2007-07-17 07:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋